How do you deal with not having the life you wanted?

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Anonymous wrote:Budism.

Understanding the four noble truth.

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Anonymous wrote:One thing I find so fascinating about ‘well educated’ women like you is that you feel that being well educated makes you entitled to a high income marriage, 2 beautiful kids healthy kids in private school and in a desireable neighborhood.

And when this doesn’t happen, women like you get depressed. Nothing is guaranteed in life and you should have taken all of this into consideration.

OP, life is a bell-shaped curve. If I take the people starting with elementary school, through graduate school, and every job I ever had, this is how it pans out:

15% - life never really got off the ground becaues they could not rise above their personal demons. Couple of suicides in this mix, a few arrests, including or white collar crime
15% - wound up making millions or noted in the Wall Street Journal type stuff
70% - had a reasonable amount of success and failure, went about living their lives and raising their kids

Most of these people were well educated, good schools, reasonably attractive, the usual DCUM attributes. It's easy for those in the 70% to think the 15% making millions is the norm. It isn't.

I would put the percentage of those making millions at less than 5%. 15% is too big.

Yup, moving it to 15%/75%/10%. Maybe not always millions, but very high level positions that generate a few hundre thousand a year compounding. Interestingly, if you objectively looked at these people before their careers started, there was not much that would make you predict which bucket they would wind up. We all like to say things like luck = hard work, but there was some definitely right place at right time in the equation.