Men, how do you find a wife who makes around the same as you?

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
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My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

NP: My ex went to Cambridge, his PhD was at Harvard, and he was a professor at a school that you would throw acid on your own face if it meant your DC had a better chance. He also ran a company. He never cared where people went to school or if they even went to school. What they accomplished spoke for itself. People who are impressive don't really care what the average or even somewhat above average person thinks.

I guess if you're sitting around at a cocktail party asking really boring questions like "where did you go" or "what do you do" then this matters. But wow, that's bleak.

I think there's something to be said about a person who is self made, no college degree and makes a ton of money vs someone with a college graduate that was paid for by the parents and the person making $150K, which is fine, but it's not $400K.

I would think the self made person is smart, ambitious, and a go getter. I'd marry such a person. You know that person knows how to hussle.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

That is the height of elitism. PP, your wife pulls 400k a year and has worked her way up to get there. Good for her. The “social circles” Can guffaw all they want.

She has had a quarter of a century to get a degree part time. She could get one now.

Why on earth would she bother? Waste of time

Pride

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

NP: My ex went to Cambridge, his PhD was at Harvard, and he was a professor at a school that you would throw acid on your own face if it meant your DC had a better chance. He also ran a company. He never cared where people went to school or if they even went to school. What they accomplished spoke for itself. People who are impressive don't really care what the average or even somewhat above average person thinks.

I guess if you're sitting around at a cocktail party asking really boring questions like "where did you go" or "what do you do" then this matters. But wow, that's bleak.

I know a guy who went to Harvard. It's literally the first thing he tells people when they meet.

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Why would want to people in the house that need to be other places doing other things. Makes things miserable.

You need to find someone who gets it.

Why do you want someone who makes the same as you?

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

Lol! Good thing you didn't marry her. I'm actually pretty proud of her. Anyone who looks down on her is the one who should be embarrassed they are so shallow, but I guess that goes way over your head.

I actually won't tell my kids that a college degree is a MUST. They will be adults at 18. The money will be there if they want to study basketweaving, or go to medical school or whatever they want.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

That is the height of elitism. PP, your wife pulls 400k a year and has worked her way up to get there. Good for her. The “social circles” Can guffaw all they want.

She has had a quarter of a century to get a degree part time. She could get one now.

Why on earth would she bother? Waste of time

Pride

So she can sit around at a cocktail party swirling her wine feeling prideful that she wasted time and money getting a bachelors.degree? We have way better things to do with our time and money. I went to Duke and I make less than her. She had enough to be productive of. A successful career, 3 kids, a loving marriage, and a secure future for our children and ourselves most people with college degrees can only dream of.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

That is the height of elitism. PP, your wife pulls 400k a year and has worked her way up to get there. Good for her. The “social circles” Can guffaw all they want.

She has had a quarter of a century to get a degree part time. She could get one now.

Why on earth would she bother? Waste of time

Pride

So she can sit around at a cocktail party swirling her wine feeling prideful that she wasted time and money getting a bachelors.degree? We have way better things to do with our time and money. I went to Duke and I make less than her. She had enough to be productive of. A successful career, 3 kids, a loving marriage, and a secure future for our children and ourselves most people with college degrees can only dream of.

Or a personal goal.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

That is the height of elitism. PP, your wife pulls 400k a year and has worked her way up to get there. Good for her. The “social circles” Can guffaw all they want.

She has had a quarter of a century to get a degree part time. She could get one now.

Why on earth would she bother? Waste of time

Pride

So she can sit around at a cocktail party swirling her wine feeling prideful that she wasted time and money getting a bachelors.degree? We have way better things to do with our time and money. I went to Duke and I make less than her. She had enough to be productive of. A successful career, 3 kids, a loving marriage, and a secure future for our children and ourselves most people with college degrees can only dream of.

Or a personal goal.

This misogyny. The woman is happily married, makes great money (that she pulled on her own), raised her kids, has a happy marriage, and runs a busy household. But she should be embarrassed? She’s still got goals to meet because some blue blood finds that her trajectory lacks prestige. So he suggests that she additionally enroll in PT school to earn her degree. So her DH Can talk about it at cocktail parties. Sit down. She’s busy being a boss.

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A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.

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Bonus is that if you marry someone with a similar income you won’t have to pay huge amounts in child support. Because you’ll likely divorce because you aren’t marrying for love

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

That is the height of elitism. PP, your wife pulls 400k a year and has worked her way up to get there. Good for her. The “social circles” Can guffaw all they want.

She has had a quarter of a century to get a degree part time. She could get one now.

Why on earth would she bother? Waste of time

Pride

So she can sit around at a cocktail party swirling her wine feeling prideful that she wasted time and money getting a bachelors.degree? We have way better things to do with our time and money. I went to Duke and I make less than her. She had enough to be productive of. A successful career, 3 kids, a loving marriage, and a secure future for our children and ourselves most people with college degrees can only dream of.

Or a personal goal.

That man's wife is out earning $400K and looking fabulous while doing it with a loving family waiting for her when she gets home. She won. And didn't have to go into thousands of dollars of student loan debt to do it.

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Anonymous wrote:A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

That is the height of elitism. PP, your wife pulls 400k a year and has worked her way up to get there. Good for her. The “social circles” Can guffaw all they want.

She has had a quarter of a century to get a degree part time. She could get one now.

Why on earth would she bother? Waste of time

Pride

So she can sit around at a cocktail party swirling her wine feeling prideful that she wasted time and money getting a bachelors.degree? We have way better things to do with our time and money. I went to Duke and I make less than her. She had enough to be productive of. A successful career, 3 kids, a loving marriage, and a secure future for our children and ourselves most people with college degrees can only dream of.

Or a personal goal.

So which is it?

Should she get a bachelor's degree because she wants to have a conversation about her bachelor's degree over a crudite platter? Which will apparently make her proud?

Or should she set a personal goal for something she doesn't need or give a shit about that won't enhance her personal life at all?

Sounds like these 2 suggestions are coming from posters intensely insecure about their own inadequacies. She feels happy and content....some posters not so much.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

That is the height of elitism. PP, your wife pulls 400k a year and has worked her way up to get there. Good for her. The “social circles” Can guffaw all they want.

She has had a quarter of a century to get a degree part time. She could get one now.

Why on earth would she bother? Waste of time

Pride

So she can sit around at a cocktail party swirling her wine feeling prideful that she wasted time and money getting a bachelors.degree? We have way better things to do with our time and money. I went to Duke and I make less than her. She had enough to be productive of. A successful career, 3 kids, a loving marriage, and a secure future for our children and ourselves most people with college degrees can only dream of.

Or a personal goal.

So which is it?

Should she get a bachelor's degree because she wants to have a conversation about her bachelor's degree over a crudite platter? Which will apparently make her proud?

Or should she set a personal goal for something she doesn't need or give a shit about that won't enhance her personal life at all?

Sounds like these 2 suggestions are coming from posters intensely insecure about their own inadequacies. She feels happy and content....some posters not so much.

Stop feeding the trolls plzzzz

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Anonymous wrote:Find someone with a good work ethic in grad school or shortly thereafter and humility (i.e. doesn't expect life to be handed to them on a silver platter). The rest is luck.

OP here, so I work in tech which is well known for not valuing anything over a Bachelor’s unless you go into some very specialized work like AI, thus I only have a BS in Computer Science. I have zero plans on ever getting a Master’s degree because I simply don’t need and nobody I work with has one. I guess I’m screwed?

Maybe do an MBA just for the dating pool?