Men, how do you find a wife who makes around the same as you?

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age 25 - 30 is starting career, not usually making $200k.

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A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.

True. You couldn't see a college degree in Rush Limbaugh's eyes.

Damn, you all really put your entire self worth on something external like this? That's just so embarrassing. I have a 146 IQ but a bachelor's degree which was useless and a waste of time and money. Would you really think I'm dumb? What does that say about you?

Yes, it was dumb to get a worthless degree.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

That is the height of elitism. PP, your wife pulls 400k a year and has worked her way up to get there. Good for her. The “social circles” Can guffaw all they want.

She has had a quarter of a century to get a degree part time. She could get one now.

Why on earth would she bother? Waste of time

Pride

So she can sit around at a cocktail party swirling her wine feeling prideful that she wasted time and money getting a bachelors.degree? We have way better things to do with our time and money. I went to Duke and I make less than her. She had enough to be productive of. A successful career, 3 kids, a loving marriage, and a secure future for our children and ourselves most people with college degrees can only dream of.

I would rather have a college degree.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

NP: My ex went to Cambridge, his PhD was at Harvard, and he was a professor at a school that you would throw acid on your own face if it meant your DC had a better chance. He also ran a company. He never cared where people went to school or if they even went to school. What they accomplished spoke for itself. People who are impressive don't really care what the average or even somewhat above average person thinks.

I guess if you're sitting around at a cocktail party asking really boring questions like "where did you go" or "what do you do" then this matters. But wow, that's bleak.

I think there's something to be said about a person who is self made, no college degree and makes a ton of money vs someone with a college graduate

that was paid for by the parents and the person making $150K, which is fine, but it's not $400K.

I would think the self made person is smart, ambitious, and a go getter. I'd marry such a person. You know that person knows how to hussle.

What if she loses that job? Could happen anytime. She may have trouble getting another job without a college degree. One pony show.

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The truth is most men don't care how much money you make, or about your career. Some do, but most do not.

Good luck with your cats!

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Anonymous wrote:The truth is most men don't care how much money you make, or about your career. Some do, but most do not.

Good luck with your cats!

Talk to any guy that actually makes decent money and you’re 100% correct. I know most women don’t want to hear that but the more money a man makes, the less he cares how much you make. The values shift to being attractive and making him feel special. Women are the ones who choose men based on their wallet size. Not in a gold digger type of way, but in a “can he provide for a family” way. Men just care that you’re hot and think he’s awesome.

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Anonymous wrote:Just find a wife that you love regardless of her income.

If you want to have more money, then go make more!!!

I think realistically, we all know love on its own is not enough to make a relationship work. And neither is money.

However, OP needs to make sure he does not end up with someone who wants to become a SAHM once children come along.

If OP is working the type of job that pays 6 figures, he's got to hope he finds someone who either doesn't want children or is comfortable with a nanny raising the kids. It's not fair to kids to have two parents who are both never around though. My husband earns 6 figures in his field and I'm a SAHM. All of my husbands partners are married to SAHMs. If they're married to someone in their field, they don't have kids (which is fine, nothing wrong with remaining childless). You have to make some sort of sacrifice, you can't have it all.

It's not fair for vapid women to raise children.

I have a college degree and so do all of the wives I know. Why is choosing to stay home to raise my children vapid? What’s the point in having kids if you’re not the one raising them?

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Anonymous wrote:Just find a wife that you love regardless of her income.

If you want to have more money, then go make more!!!

I think realistically, we all know love on its own is not enough to make a relationship work. And neither is money.

However, OP needs to make sure he does not end up with someone who wants to become a SAHM once children come along.

If OP is working the type of job that pays 6 figures, he's got to hope he finds someone who either doesn't want children or is comfortable with a nanny raising the kids. It's not fair to kids to have two parents who are both never around though. My husband earns 6 figures in his field and I'm a SAHM. All of my husbands partners are married to SAHMs. If they're married to someone in their field, they don't have kids (which is fine, nothing wrong with remaining childless). You have to make some sort of sacrifice, you can't have it all.

This is BS. I'm a fed making 200K and WFH 4 days/week and spend plenty of time with my kids, as we can afford to outsource a lot of home-related chores and I don't have a commute. My neighbor (MD) is working PT from home doing clinical research and makes 6 figure, looking at glassdoor. My friend is a tax CPA and works hard during the tax season but very little the rest of the year. There are lots of well paid jobs with a great work balance but require advanced degrees and significant experience.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
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If money is your priority, your marriage will fail.

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Anonymous wrote:The truth is most men don't care how much money you make, or about your career. Some do, but most do not.

Good luck with your cats!

Money & brains marry money & brains: Bill Ackerman (both wives), Larry Page, Bernard Arnault, Kenneth Griffin, Chase Coleman, Daniel Loeb, John Arnold, Stanley Druckenmiller, Mark Zuckerberg. Look at George Clooney - he dated a lot of wannabes but married up. It also hold internationally - Dasha Zhukova, Diane von Furstenberg. Most men want to marry someone from their own class.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

NP: My ex went to Cambridge, his PhD was at Harvard, and he was a professor at a school that you would throw acid on your own face if it meant your DC had a better chance. He also ran a company. He never cared where people went to school or if they even went to school. What they accomplished spoke for itself. People who are impressive don't really care what the average or even somewhat above average person thinks.

I guess if you're sitting around at a cocktail party asking really boring questions like "where did you go" or "what do you do" then this matters. But wow, that's bleak.

I think there's something to be said about a person who is self made, no college degree and makes a ton of money vs someone with a college graduate

that was paid for by the parents and the person making $150K, which is fine, but it's not $400K.

I would think the self made person is smart, ambitious, and a go getter. I'd marry such a person. You know that person knows how to hussle.

What if she loses that job? Could happen anytime. She may have trouble getting another job without a college degree. One pony show.

My wife has never lost her job, but she's switched jobs a few times. She likes to chase IPOs are RSUs. She's a top performer and the recruiting is done by the companies, she interviews them and to see what kind of upside the territory has and how low she can negotiate the quota. When you are highly respected in your field and have a proven track record there's no "looking for a job".

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Anonymous wrote:I would target a trust fund baby over high earner.

Trust fund pre-nups are pretty tight.

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Anonymous wrote:Just find a wife that you love regardless of her income.

If you want to have more money, then go make more!!!

I think realistically, we all know love on its own is not enough to make a relationship work. And neither is money.

However, OP needs to make sure he does not end up with someone who wants to become a SAHM once children come along.

If OP is working the type of job that pays 6 figures, he's got to hope he finds someone who either doesn't want children or is comfortable with a nanny raising the kids. It's not fair to kids to have two parents who are both never around though. My husband earns 6 figures in his field and I'm a SAHM. All of my husbands partners are married to SAHMs. If they're married to someone in their field, they don't have kids (which is fine, nothing wrong with remaining childless). You have to make some sort of sacrifice, you can't have it all.

It's not fair for vapid women to raise children.

I have a college degree and so do all of the wives I know. Why is choosing to stay home to raise my children vapid? What’s the point in having kids if you’re not the one raising them?

Also, around here most at-home parents have advanced degrees and worked at a high level before having kids, which also means they had pretty strong retirement accounts in motion before changing lanes.

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Anonymous wrote:Find someone with a good work ethic in grad school or shortly thereafter and humility (i.e. doesn't expect life to be handed to them on a silver platter). The rest is luck.

OP here, so I work in tech which is well known for not valuing anything over a Bachelor’s unless you go into some very specialized work like AI, thus I only have a BS in Computer Science. I have zero plans on ever getting a Master’s degree because I simply don’t need and nobody I work with has one. I guess I’m screwed?

Maybe do an MBA just for the dating pool?

Yep, go back to school for your MR degree.

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A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.

True. You couldn't see a college degree in Rush Limbaugh's eyes.

Damn, you all really put your entire self worth on something external like this? That's just so embarrassing. I have a 146 IQ but a bachelor's degree which was useless and a waste of time and money. Would you really think I'm dumb? What does that say about you?

Yes, it was dumb to get a worthless degree.

But I’m a high earner now. I wouldn’t have gotten my foot in the door without a BA. but you’d still judge my credentials even though I out earn and out perform my “pedigreed” colleagues. Judge all you want as I zoom right past you.