Men, how do you find a wife who makes around the same as you?

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

Lololol!!! I have my MBA and I don't sit around talking about it in social situations. Your friend group sounds BORING.

And I'd trade that MBA and all the debt I racked up for a career that put me at 400k in my early 40s!

She actually should like the most fascinating person at the cocktail party.

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A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.

True. You couldn't see a college degree in Rush Limbaugh's eyes.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

LOL, really? I'd be embarrassed for you that you care. What kind of pitiful person cares about education once you're an adult? Would you be embarrassed to hang out with Richard Branson or Anna Wintour or Steve Jobs? Most people without a degree have real intelligence if they've "made it". Not deep insecurities and a lack of common sense like most PhDs I know.

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A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.

True. You couldn't see a college degree in Rush Limbaugh's eyes.

Damn, you all really put your entire self worth on something external like this? That's just so embarrassing. I have a 146 IQ but a bachelor's degree which was useless and a waste of time and money. Would you really think I'm dumb? What does that say about you?

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A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.

True. You couldn't see a college degree in Rush Limbaugh's eyes.

Damn, you all really put your entire self worth on something external like this? That's just so embarrassing. I have a 146 IQ but a bachelor's degree which was useless and a waste of time and money. Would you really think I'm dumb? What does that say about you?

PP who said this about seeing it in people's eyes. Its so sad to me that Americans have taken the very simple notion that everyone doesn't need to go to college (which is true), and a lack of confidence in the elite (understandable given recent events), and turned it into a cultural zeitgeist that has become hostile to education and higher education. Go to any third world country and you can see parents are hungry for their children to have an education because it is life changing. Our system of education has taken hundreds of years to build, and has resulted in immense quality of life increases and lives saved. Its not all just about money. Its quality of life.

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Anonymous wrote:Bonus is that if you marry someone with a similar income you won’t have to pay huge amounts in child support. Because you’ll likely divorce because you aren’t marrying for love

you can't be marrying for love if you're a high earner marrying a high earner? wut?

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

Are you hoping for children?

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A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.

True. You couldn't see a college degree in Rush Limbaugh's eyes.

Damn, you all really put your entire self worth on something external like this? That's just so embarrassing. I have a 146 IQ but a bachelor's degree which was useless and a waste of time and money. Would you really think I'm dumb? What does that say about you?

Knowledge is not the same as intelligence. You may be quite smart but are you knowledgeable?

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Anonymous wrote:Just find a wife that you love regardless of her income.

If you want to have more money, then go make more!!!

I think realistically, we all know love on its own is not enough to make a relationship work. And neither is money.

However, OP needs to make sure he does not end up with someone who wants to become a SAHM once children come along.

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Anonymous wrote:Just find a wife that you love regardless of her income.

If you want to have more money, then go make more!!!

I think realistically, we all know love on its own is not enough to make a relationship work. And neither is money.

However, OP needs to make sure he does not end up with someone who wants to become a SAHM once children come along.

If OP is working the type of job that pays 6 figures, he's got to hope he finds someone who either doesn't want children or is comfortable with a nanny raising the kids. It's not fair to kids to have two parents who are both never around though. My husband earns 6 figures in his field and I'm a SAHM. All of my husbands partners are married to SAHMs. If they're married to someone in their field, they don't have kids (which is fine, nothing wrong with remaining childless). You have to make some sort of sacrifice, you can't have it all.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

NP: My ex went to Cambridge, his PhD was at Harvard, and he was a professor at a school that you would throw acid on your own face if it meant your DC had a better chance. He also ran a company. He never cared where people went to school or if they even went to school. What they accomplished spoke for itself. People who are impressive don't really care what the average or even somewhat above average person thinks.

I guess if you're sitting around at a cocktail party asking really boring questions like "where did you go" or "what do you do" then this matters. But wow, that's bleak.

I know a guy who went to Harvard. It's literally the first thing he tells people when they meet.

Any person who tells you what college they went to years after they graduated is ridiculous. It's like putting lipstick on a pig. Sure he went to Harvard, but seems like he can't hide his lack of manners and poor upbringing.

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Anonymous wrote:Just find a wife that you love regardless of her income.

If you want to have more money, then go make more!!!

I think realistically, we all know love on its own is not enough to make a relationship work. And neither is money.

However, OP needs to make sure he does not end up with someone who wants to become a SAHM once children come along.

If OP is working the type of job that pays 6 figures, he's got to hope he finds someone who either doesn't want children or is comfortable with a nanny raising the kids. It's not fair to kids to have two parents who are both never around though. My husband earns 6 figures in his field and I'm a SAHM. All of my husbands partners are married to SAHMs. If they're married to someone in their field, they don't have kids (which is fine, nothing wrong with remaining childless). You have to make some sort of sacrifice, you can't have it all.

It's not fair for vapid women to raise children.

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Oof. I am so so so so so glad I am a gay man.

You straight people have issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

Np. Is that all you care about? Her earning potential?

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Anonymous wrote:
A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.

True. You couldn't see a college degree in Rush Limbaugh's eyes.

Damn, you all really put your entire self worth on something external like this? That's just so embarrassing. I have a 146 IQ but a bachelor's degree which was useless and a waste of time and money. Would you really think I'm dumb? What does that say about you?

PP who said this about seeing it in people's eyes. Its so sad to me that Americans have taken the very simple notion that everyone doesn't need to go to college (which is true), and a lack of confidence in the elite (understandable given recent events), and turned it into a cultural zeitgeist that has become hostile to education and higher education. Go to any third world country and you can see parents are hungry for their children to have an education because it is life changing. Our system of education has taken hundreds of years to build, and has resulted in immense quality of life increases and lives saved. Its not all just about money. Its quality of life.

Do you really think that a college degree is the only way to get an education? Tons of audodidacts would indicate that you're wrong. Reading, travel, life experience, and having basic intellectual curiosity to pursue lifelong learning (academic, cultural, practical, whatever) go a long way.

I'm absolutely not hostile to education - I have four degrees (though I do not share this with people at cocktail parties), am a giant nerd, and would be a professional student, if I won the lottery. I just don't think that college is the only way you educate yourself. The Venn diagram of your dead-eyed untransformed and people without college degrees doesn't overlap as much as you think, and I know plenty of people with a degree who are boring dumbasses.