Men, how do you find a wife who makes around the same as you?

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Anonymous wrote:Find someone with a good work ethic in grad school or shortly thereafter and humility (i.e. doesn't expect life to be handed to them on a silver platter). The rest is luck.

OP here, so I work in tech which is well known for not valuing anything over a Bachelor’s unless you go into some very specialized work like AI, thus I only have a BS in Computer Science. I have zero plans on ever getting a Master’s degree because I simply don’t need and nobody I work with has one. I guess I’m screwed?

Maybe do an MBA just for the dating pool?

I met my husband during our MBA. And I make more than him, so there you go OP. And I’ll also say that if any young women out there are considering it, I had more romantic interest during my MBA than at any point prior. Unexpected side benefit!

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Op, some high earning women will be snobby about lack of grad school.

Your 200-300k isn’t that much.

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Just find a wife that you love regardless of her income.

If you want to have more money, then go make more!!!

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Anonymous wrote:A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.

Funny! What gives?

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Anonymous wrote:A degree isn’t just about money. Education is transformative- you can see it in people’s eyes. That is more important in the long run than money.

It's great if you can afford that kind of luxury!

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DH and I met in college and both went on to graduate school. I have always made more than him until recently when he started his own business. I provide a stable salary (180k) with great benefits. We are both in tech. One thing to note is DH has always pulled his weight at home with both house work and raising our kids.

My 29 yo sister has been making 200-300k for last three years, but she works very hard and pretty much have no time to meet guys. She also has high expectations for those she would date but have relaxed that expectation as it is very hard to meet someone making a lot who also will also spend time with her.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

Don't project your insecurities onto other people. This woman is successful and happy and doesn't need to sink tens of thousands of dollars into a piece of paper to impress small-minded people at a cocktail party. People who look down on a self-made women are the same people who look down on people that go to public universities, not living in the right neighborhood, or whatever status symbol they're clinging to to make themselves feel better than other people. People without formal education can be smart, well-read, and interesting people just like well-educated people can be shallow, ignorant bores.

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Meet her in grad school, of course.

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Many couples met and married out of business school

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

Don't project your insecurities onto other people. This woman is successful and happy and doesn't need to sink tens of thousands of dollars into a piece of paper to impress small-minded people at a cocktail party. People who look down on a self-made women are the same people who look down on people that go to public universities, not living in the right neighborhood, or whatever status symbol they're clinging to to make themselves feel better than other people. People without formal education can be smart, well-read, and interesting people just like well-educated people can be shallow, ignorant bores.

All you needed to say was hot and sales. No other qualities needed other than basic social skills and intelligence.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

My wife went to college. It never comes up in conversations. She doesn't make $400K. And she would trade in that college degree in a hot flash for that salary. You sound really jealous.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

My wife went to college. It never comes up in conversations. She doesn't make $400K. And she would trade in that college degree in a hot flash for that salary. You sound really jealous.

DP but this conversation makes me think of the scene in Good Will Hunting where he points out that he got the same education as the Ivy League guy by studying at the public library...

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

My wife went to college. It never comes up in conversations. She doesn't make $400K. And she would trade in that college degree in a hot flash for that salary. You sound really jealous.

DP but this conversation makes me think of the scene in Good Will Hunting where he points out that he got the same education as the Ivy League guy by studying at the public library...

My DH didn’t go to college, make 4-500k a year, is a lot smarter than my brother who has Ivy MBA and is much better person in general. He has friends from all walks of life and socioeconomic backgrounds. Is just as comfortable in the board room as he is at a hole in the wall restaurant.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

My wife is 43. She does not have a college degree. At age 25 she was making 55k as an "account manager ". Doesn't hurt that she's a smoke show. She's in IT sales and now on average pulls 400k/yr.

Her qualities:
-very hard worker
-great communicator
-very social, people like her
-smart
-hot

Just don't marry someone who wants to have babies and quit working. Also don't marry a beta woman. They are boring and lack ambition.

At this point I would not object to her to quit working. She was with a company who went IPO (so major options) and has spent almost 20 years contributing to a 401k. However it is not in her personality to sit at home watching Oprah and organizing PTA bake sales.

And you still don’t care that she does not have a degree?

Why would I care? She makes more money than the vast majority of people with a degree and is smarter than most. I win the jackpot in the lottery of wives. Smart, high earner and a dime.

I would be embarrassed if it came up in social situations. People will look down on her. Plus, how will you tell your kids thaf a college degree is a must?

My wife went to college. It never comes up in conversations. She doesn't make $400K. And she would trade in that college degree in a hot flash for that salary. You sound really jealous.

DP but this conversation makes me think of the scene in Good Will Hunting where he points out that he got the same education as the Ivy League guy by studying at the public library...

Its so true. I did go to college, but I'm a voracious reader. I've gotten more out of books than college.

Come to think of it I got nothing academically from college. I even work in IT and my degree is in communications. I run product marketing for one of our verticles. You don't learn what I do in college.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

Get off Tinder and ask your friends to set you up. Stop dating 25 year olds. Problem solved!