Would you tell your friends to have kids after this situation?

[Anonymous]

This only happens once every 100 years or so. It's not a reason to remain child free.

Just appreciate your daycare workers. They deal with your kids daily for little pay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know why people are so hard on OP. We are in the middle of a global pandemic. All our routines are disrupted. We suddenly have to homeschool, entertain toddlers, work full time, and cook for the lot! It's hard! It's doable but this is not the life we signed up for. I don't begrudge anyone being in a foul, complaining mood. It's tough! We have a 9-year old, a 4-year old, a 18-month old, a big house, a large lot with tons of outdoor entertainment, a live-in nanny and it's STILL hard! Enough with ruthlessness already.

You are INCREDIBLY tone deaf with this post and you seem to be greatly lacking in any & all self awareness.

Everything you've just listed is a first world problem that only the wealthy and privileged complain about.

What? Since when did the wealthy and the privileged have to work, take care of their children, and cook at the same time? Enough with the shaming already.

[Anonymous]

Having kids is great right about now. I barely have any time to think about what's going on around me.

Some of my childless friends are complaining about being bored. And while I'd love to be bored for a few days, I don't think that months of boredom is such a great thing.

[Anonymous]

I would tell my friends to seriously space out their kids more. Everyone does the 2 year age gap and it is absolute hell on the parents and the marriage. You are just trying to 'get through' each day and cant really enjoy it as much . I think a 3 or 4 year age gap between kids makes a huge difference. Less chaotic. I would loose my mind if I had 3 all in a row. But of course, sometimes it just happens and you have to make the best of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would tell my friends to seriously space out their kids more. Everyone does the 2 year age gap and it is absolute hell on the parents and the marriage. You are just trying to 'get through' each day and cant really enjoy it as much . I think a 3 or 4 year age gap between kids makes a huge difference. Less chaotic. I would loose my mind if I had 3 all in a row. But of course, sometimes it just happens and you have to make the best of it.

That makes me feel better We initially planned for a 2.5 year gap but it has stretched into 3.5+ due to life events. Was thinking maybe kids would not be as closely bonded due to the age difference. But yes it makes it easier on us to have one fully potty trained before the next one comes along.

[Anonymous]

Not at all! I feel like everyone thinks anything more than a 2 year age gap and your kids wont be close. So not true! I have a sibling +4 older than me and one +3 years younger than me and I was really close with both growing up and now as adults. We played together and really never fought. I feel like a bigger age gap can actually help bc not being so close in age you arent competitive with each other. Everything depends on your kids personalities though!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is it with parents of three kids who complain so much about having three kids? I don't get it. You choose to have three kids and close in age. What did you expect? Now is a great time to spend time with them.

Because many of the people who have three kids and say "Wow, this is awesome!" go on to have more children, and those who have trouble adjusting from man-to-man to zone defense stay at three.

Aside from that, I feel for OP. Newborn time is really rough, but happily, like childbirth, for most people these bad memories fade away. It's probably the sleep deprivation that does it. Intellectually, I know that dealing with my colicy infant sucked. But when I remember that child as a baby, it's a vague montage of rocking my sweet little cherub, not the bloodcurdling shrieks that came before and after what was probably a five minute nap. Good luck, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not at all! I feel like everyone thinks anything more than a 2 year age gap and your kids wont be close. So not true! I have a sibling +4 older than me and one +3 years younger than me and I was really close with both growing up and now as adults. We played together and really never fought. I feel like a bigger age gap can actually help bc not being so close in age you arent competitive with each other. Everything depends on your kids personalities though!

I just couldn't handle the idea of being pregnant ever again and had to get it over with. Everyone is different. I have 3 kids 2 years apart all currently under 5 and while this is not fun I don't regret it. Paid maternity kicking in less than a year after my last baby hurt more honestly