Would you tell your friends to have kids after this situation?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I would (if they ask), but I would also tell them to make sure they have an involved partner. I detest the dynamic of SAHM+workaholic DH. Bad for the kids and bad for society.

-1 What works for the couple is their business and what works for society.

Doesn't sound like it's working for OP.

The quarantine isn't working for OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow op isn’t even working right now either? What a wild thread. Op be grateful you’re not trying to both telework on top of all of this

Op here - really? I have a 6 week old who was up 6 times last night and two toddlers (one who was also up last night) and dealing with them 24/7. Dh isn’t any help other than an occasional yelling at the kids when they get super unruly and I am trying to put the baby down for nap. I basically spend all day breaking up fights, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry and breastfeeding a baby. But thanks.

Do you have twins? How old are they?

No I have a 6 week old, a 2 year old and a 4 year old.

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I don't know why people are so hard on OP. We are in the middle of a global pandemic. All our routines are disrupted. We suddenly have to homeschool, entertain toddlers, work full time, and cook for the lot! It's hard! It's doable but this is not the life we signed up for. I don't begrudge anyone being in a foul, complaining mood. It's tough! We have a 9-year old, a 4-year old, a 18-month old, a big house, a large lot with tons of outdoor entertainment, a live-in nanny and it's STILL hard! Enough with ruthlessness already.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know why people are so hard on OP. We are in the middle of a global pandemic. All our routines are disrupted. We suddenly have to homeschool, entertain toddlers, work full time, and cook for the lot! It's hard! It's doable but this is not the life we signed up for. I don't begrudge anyone being in a foul, complaining mood. It's tough! We have a 9-year old, a 4-year old, a 18-month old, a big house, a large lot with tons of outdoor entertainment, a live-in nanny and it's STILL hard! Enough with ruthlessness already.

WTF? How can it be hard with a live-in nanny? Are you kidding with this post?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know why people are so hard on OP. We are in the middle of a global pandemic. All our routines are disrupted. We suddenly have to homeschool, entertain toddlers, work full time, and cook for the lot! It's hard! It's doable but this is not the life we signed up for. I don't begrudge anyone being in a foul, complaining mood. It's tough! We have a 9-year old, a 4-year old, a 18-month old, a big house, a large lot with tons of outdoor entertainment, a live-in nanny and it's STILL hard! Enough with ruthlessness already.

WTF? How can it be hard with a live-in nanny? Are you kidding with this post?

No, not kidding. The live-in is focused on the baby. The 4-year old misses her preschool and wants mommy and to go to the park and to be entertained. The 9-year old needs to stay with his learning schedule. They all want to eat on the regular!!! And we have conference calls and work to do and it's just hard. I think we can all feel some compassion for each other no matter the circumstances.

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The world is over-populated as it is. We need to encourage fewer children across the world.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know why people are so hard on OP. We are in the middle of a global pandemic. All our routines are disrupted. We suddenly have to homeschool, entertain toddlers, work full time, and cook for the lot! It's hard! It's doable but this is not the life we signed up for. I don't begrudge anyone being in a foul, complaining mood. It's tough! We have a 9-year old, a 4-year old, a 18-month old, a big house, a large lot with tons of outdoor entertainment, a live-in nanny and it's STILL hard! Enough with ruthlessness already.

WTF? How can it be hard with a live-in nanny? Are you kidding with this post?

No, not kidding. The live-in is focused on the baby. The 4-year old misses her preschool and wants mommy and to go to the park and to be entertained. The 9-year old needs to stay with his learning schedule. They all want to eat on the regular!!! And we have conference calls and work to do and it's just hard. I think we can all feel some compassion for each other no matter the circumstances.

DP, but if you can’t see how unbelievably privileged you are, I don’t know what to say. My compassion for you is that it must be unbearable to live your life being that out of touch with the reality of your situation in the world.

OP, a two and a four year old are not toddlers, FFS. It’s not easy, but it’s also not like you have a newborn and 18 month old twins or something.

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No!

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So tell them then. Since your friends are already mid 30’s they should already know this. Most likely they are childfree by choice.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know why people are so hard on OP. We are in the middle of a global pandemic. All our routines are disrupted. We suddenly have to homeschool, entertain toddlers, work full time, and cook for the lot! It's hard! It's doable but this is not the life we signed up for. I don't begrudge anyone being in a foul, complaining mood. It's tough! We have a 9-year old, a 4-year old, a 18-month old, a big house, a large lot with tons of outdoor entertainment, a live-in nanny and it's STILL hard! Enough with ruthlessness already.

WTF? How can it be hard with a live-in nanny? Are you kidding with this post?

No, not kidding. The live-in is focused on the baby. The 4-year old misses her preschool and wants mommy and to go to the park and to be entertained. The 9-year old needs to stay with his learning schedule. They all want to eat on the regular!!! And we have conference calls and work to do and it's just hard. I think we can all feel some compassion for each other no matter the circumstances.

DP, but if you can’t see how unbelievably privileged you are, I don’t know what to say. My compassion for you is that it must be unbearable to live your life being that out of touch with the reality of your situation in the world.

OP, a two and a four year old are not toddlers, FFS. It’s not easy, but it’s also not like you have a newborn and 18 month old twins or something.

I am fully aware of how nice our setup is. I was calling for the compassion toward the OP, not me.

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Anonymous wrote:No one would believe you even if you said it.

I absolutely would! Childfree by choice here!

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I would (if they ask), but I would also tell them to make sure they have an involved partner. I detest the dynamic of SAHM+workaholic DH. Bad for the kids and bad for society.

-1 What works for the couple is their business and what works for society.

Doesn't sound like it's working for OP.

The quarantine isn't working for OP.

You spelled "being a mother" wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a very involved husband, easy kids and a full time nanny. I find this outrageously difficult. But I would never tell anyone wether or not they should have kids. I just don’t think it’s my place.

Sounds like you have some issues then.

And you sound jealous.

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Well I’m not going to read all these pages. But my kids are 11 and 14 and this time home with them has been really wonderful. Now that so many other things have fallen away, we all just get to be together. I can’t imagine not having them in our lives.

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Anonymous wrote:We have a ton of friends who don’t have kids yet (we are in our mid 30s). After being stuck in our house for 30 days straight with our 3 kids (including a newborn) I would tell my friends to think long and hard before you have kids. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. This has potentially been the worst month of my life. Maybe if our kids were older (they are toddlers) or we didn’t have to work and take care of them at the same time I wouldn’t feel this way but I am sure I am just reiterating what most working parents feel like during this quarantine and pandemic. I love my kids but if I knew there was a chance that I could be stuck inside with them for days and months on end with no end in sight I would highly rethink having them or at least so many of them.

My heart does not bleed for you. Who the hell ever told you rearing children was easy? You should put your children up for adoption because you are $&,i£ as a parent! What do you think all the other millions of parents are doing? It isn't easy for anyone but it isn't supposed to be easy. You really are beneath contempt,,!