DD's teacher (innocent or inappropriate)?

[Anonymous]

He was completely outrageous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He was completely outrageous.

Oh, give me a break. This was mildly inappropriate. “Outrageous” would be “you looked really cute in your cheerleading uniform yesterday.” Please stop fatalizing everything, no one will take you seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teacher is being helpful

+1

[Anonymous]

Unless there are other examples of borderline or inappropriate behavior from this teacher, I would simply take it at face value. In all likelihood, teacher either knows that the BF is a closet jerk or simply believes, as some teachers do, that getting too emotionally invested in one boy during adolescence can be detrimental to your DD’s future.

On another note, be grateful that your DD confided in you. It sounds like she has good situational awareness. I would encourage that and invite future, similar communication. I would also encourage her to go ahead and ask for the recommendation. Odds are, she will get the rec without any drama and feel better about the whole situation. At worst, the suspicion that this was inappropriate will be confirmed and appropriate action can be taken.

Signed,
Former student half of student/teacher relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless there are other examples of borderline or inappropriate behavior from this teacher, I would simply take it at face value. In all likelihood, teacher either knows that the BF is a closet jerk or simply believes, as some teachers do, that getting too emotionally invested in one boy during adolescence can be detrimental to your DD’s future.

On another note, be grateful that your DD confided in you. It sounds like she has good situational awareness. I would encourage that and invite future, similar communication. I would also encourage her to go ahead and ask for the recommendation. Odds are, she will get the rec without any drama and feel better about the whole situation. At worst, the suspicion that this was inappropriate will be confirmed and appropriate action can be taken.

Signed,
Former student half of student/teacher relationship

Puzzled by this posting. How would the teacher be omnimous enough to know her boyfriend is a "closet jerk", whatever that means. What makes the teacher or any teacher expert on adolescent relationships to determine what relationships are advantageous or detrimental to the future of their students? Then finally who vested the power in this teacher to make judgements about this student's personal life or to counsel her about it. Teachers are hired to teach not to give unsolicited advice about a young woman's romances.

You sign off as being once the student half of a student/teacher relationship. Please share with us in general terms who and how was this relationship initiated?