DD's teacher (innocent or inappropriate)?

[Anonymous]

I had a male teacher in high school that everyone loved, including me and my friends. He made some off color remarks every once and awhile but since we all liked him no one thought anything of it. After graduation (so we were freshmen in college) one of my friends got a really lewd, disgusting FB message from him talking about her body. He was married with children as well. Before that message I never thought this teacher had any bad intentions but now I'm not so sure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neither, but it sounds like he knows the boyfriend is a loser.

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[Anonymous]

I haven't read all the comments but this reminded me of one of my DDs coaches/HS teacher. He's occassionally interested in who's dating who and has opinions about whether they are a good fit. My take is he' a little intrigued by the HS drama and doesn't always keep a professional distance. But I don't think he's creepy in any way (I actually suspect he's gay and not out to his students). He agrees with my DD that her best bud is currently dating a guy that is an odd choice (they both think it's weird because BF is several years older but very nerdy compared to the younger girl).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:FWIW, When I was young there was an equally young women who I knew casually among a group of friends. She was attractive and I was attracted. One night we were in a bar and I was being flirtatious with her. She excused herself to go to the bathroom and apparently slipped out the back door. After about twenty minutes I figured out that she had ditched me. The next time I saw her at the bar she was with some friends and I said, what happened to you the other night. She said she had to go home because she had to get up early the next day.. I said in a poor attempt at humor "that's no excuse" (I know lame). Her response said with utter contempt was "I don't owe you any excuses . . . ." , and a few other rebukes that I can't remember because I was so humiliated after the first round of rebukes, I psychologically blacked out. I was speechless and just wanted to crawl out of that room.

All these years later I still think her responses were unnecessarily harsh and it still strings.

But, I can tell you this, I never tested those waters ever again. I don't think a women needs to verbally beat the crap out of a suitor, but I do know a firm verbal rebuke is usually enough to send the message, "you are not romantically welcomed here".

Sorry, but you asked for it. She gave you plenty of clues that she was not interested and you didn't accept it. People are constantly telling women to be clear and not lead a man on and yet here you are complaining when a woman did just that. You should have accepted the bolded. You "attempt" at humor is still no excuse.

It's obvious to anyone; perhaps not you, that no one here is seeking sympathy. It's simply a personal story, an example of a quick witted woman with a sharp tongue informing a man she was not interested and it was effective. From that moment on I maintained a safe distance from that woman. Women have phrases in their social toolboxes that are assertive enough to tell men they are not interested. They can use them. In this instance something like it's none of your business would probably be enough for the man in question the never enter that territory again.

Just sayin'

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Teachers are legally MANDATED to report suspected abuse of any sort.

Hint: There's a good reason why he DIDN'T.

Crickets.

Because there is a huge swatch between the type of abuse one is mandated to report and just a regular old crummy boyfriend?

If you think he's just a "regular old crummy boyfriend", this male teacher CERTAINLY has NO right to drop his UNSOLICITED opinion of who's friends with whom. Period.

[Anonymous]

It may have been a joke. Your daughter is 17 or 18 if she is a senior. Stay of out it if this is the only thing he has said that worries you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It may have been a joke. Your daughter is 17 or 18 if she is a senior. Stay of out it if this is the only thing he has said that worries you.

Who would obey you?

[Anonymous]

Why is your daughter still with that loser OP? That should be your first and only concern!!

[Anonymous]

His comment may be coming from knowledge, but he is very, very dumb. It is inappropriate for a ton of reasons. 1. FERPA..he might he alluding to info that is not his to share. 2. He is crossing a boundary line. 3.If he cares too much about it, O would wonder why he does care. 4. With all that has been uncovered with inappropriate teacher-student relationships, he is setting himself up. DUMB.

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Anonymous wrote:Mom, open your eyes. She is with a bad kid and you should thank the teacher.

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if he's a reputable teacher at the school, i would trust his opinion. he sees the kids in their own element

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The fact that your daughter is clearly insecure further points to the likelihood of her getting involved with a bad news boyfriend.

I’ll bet he knows something you don’t. Maybe he’s seen him with another girl, and maybe he even overheard your son talking about your daughter in a sexually crass way. Did that ever occur to you, mom?

[Anonymous]

The boyfriend talking about your daughter ^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is your daughter still with that loser OP? That should be your first and only concern!!

Loser? Do tell!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is your daughter still with that loser OP? That should be your first and only concern!!

Loser? Do tell!!

Yes!! Do tell OP!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mom, open your eyes. She is with a bad kid and you should thank the teacher.

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if he's a reputable teacher at the school, i would trust his opinion. he sees the kids in their own element

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The fact that your daughter is clearly insecure further points to the likelihood of her getting involved with a bad news boyfriend.

I’ll bet he knows something you don’t. Maybe he’s seen him with another girl, and maybe he even overheard your son talking about your daughter in a sexually crass way. Did that ever occur to you, mom?

It apparently hasn’t occurred to mom OR the other players who think he’s a predator and call everyone a troll that doesn’t agree with them. This is honestly so ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Posters not players!