just realized my DH is probably asexual: so sad and angry. It is hopeless right?

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Anonymous wrote:Imagine if the gender roles were reversed, like usual. The harpies would be complaining that the husband should still love her for who she is and not try to have sex wth her because that would be rape and that the husband is so self centered, because she's tired and why can't he understand that?

This is such a great point. It is completely accurate too. At some point, people need to start looking at things as the way they are. It's not about sex, race, religion... People are still human. And ALL human's go through issues. The problems that we have as a HUMAN RACE is that we have to group things and then have expectations for those groups. HUMANS go through things, have thoughts, perceptions, and they do not stay in the boxes that we try to put them in.

There are those posters, but on a recent thread, there were still plenty of women saying that they have sex to keep their DHs satisfied even when they're not in the mood and that this is good for marriage.

What's the point of denying my DH sex if he can't satisfy me? He can be satisfied and we can feel close (and I can satisfy myself).

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We should exchange, then

My thoughts exactly!

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Anonymous wrote:Enough with the low T. It's not that.

Men...and especially young men...need to ejaculate. They can't go six months or a year without ejaculating. Period.

Your husband IS ejaculating...but not with you. So you need to find out if he's masturbating to porn or cheating. It's one or the other...even if it's not happening regularly.

My husband calls himself a "sexual camel." he needs to, but only 3 or 4 times a month.

Men admitting their wank frequency is like women admitting their notch count. Multiply by at least 4 or 5 to get the real number.

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Anonymous wrote:Enough with the low T. It's not that.

Men...and especially young men...need to ejaculate. They can't go six months or a year without ejaculating. Period.

Your husband IS ejaculating...but not with you. So you need to find out if he's masturbating to porn or cheating. It's one or the other...even if it's not happening regularly.

My husband calls himself a "sexual camel." he needs to, but only 3 or 4 times a month.

Men admitting their wank frequency is like women admitting their notch count. Multiply by at least 4 or 5 to get the real number.

no man can go 6 months without ejaculating and true, stop with the low T. I had low T was tired all the time but still wanted sex regularly as in multiple times a week

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NP here, this is very real. I have been living it. My husband and I had sex regularly, though not incredibly frequently (once a week, sometimes more, sometimes less). At times he would turn me down or engage begrudgingly when I initiated. I found out that he had an entire secret fantasy life involving sexual roleplay and porn that he would engage in late at night after I went to bed. I figured he was working late or watching TV to unwind. I knew he had to be rubbing one out and watching porn from time to time, but I didn't realize the scope of the issue. We're talking about HOURS AND HOURS, and worse, choosing cybersex when I was ready and willing to have more real life sex. Anyway, we're in a better place now, but it was really a trip when that one came to light!

I can definitely see going down the rabbit hole if there is a kink or kinks that you are afraid to share with your significant other. I've got some filthy things I'd enjoy but I'm not really comfortable telling my DW about it. Our sex life is pretty stale and intermittent. Based on some erotica choices of hers that I've stumbled across from time to time, I think she has some non-traditional preferences that might get her revved up. But I've been unable to draw her out. Once I suggested that we take the "mojoupgrade.com" test, but she cried at the suggestion because she regarded it as pressure to have more sex. (MojoUpgrade has both partners take a quiz, then only reveals kinks that both sides have expressed an interest in.)

Sounds like she has issues, man. I guess you probably know this. I would say though that perhaps if you share the things that you are embarrassed to share, she will be more likely to open up about her own things.

NP here. Re: the bolded text: when I opened up to my DW about my kinks she got upset with me for having them and became even more tight lipped about her own stuff. In the scheme of things, my kinks are fairly tame. So, it's definitely a risk. She will throw it in my face whenever we have fights about sex.

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Anonymous wrote:Enough with the low T. It's not that.

Men...and especially young men...need to ejaculate. They can't go six months or a year without ejaculating. Period.

Your husband IS ejaculating...but not with you. So you need to find out if he's masturbating to porn or cheating. It's one or the other...even if it's not happening regularly.

My husband calls himself a "sexual camel." he needs to, but only 3 or 4 times a month.

Men admitting their wank frequency is like women admitting their notch count. Multiply by at least 4 or 5 to get the real number.

Ha! QFT. Some truths are indisputable!