Life with AP after divorce

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Anonymous wrote:PP: You're funny. I can't win. If I said he was with his kid 25% of the time you would criticize him. If I said I had met the child you would think I was an evil woman who couldn't wait until the divorce was finalized. We don't live in the same area 50% is fine. I am not some woman who doesn't have her own life. I work long hours ( 2 jobs), I have hobbies, friends, and I volunteer a few times a month. I am still young and want to have a substantial amount of money in my bank accounts in the next few years.
I am very fulfilled. I have never needed a man to complete me.

Oh dear. The distance only makes it easier to deceive you. You are falling for all the naive AP lies!

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, married 10 years and 2 kids. I am very happy.

Hmmmm not giving many details, lol

The devil in is the details. Doesn't specify if anyone one else affected is happy. Me me me

I don't know how others feel. Haven't talked to my ex in many years. I know he's remarried with kids, so I assume he's happy, but I have no idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP: You're funny. I can't win. If I said he was with his kid 25% of the time you would criticize him. If I said I had met the child you would think I was an evil woman who couldn't wait until the divorce was finalized. We don't live in the same area 50% is fine. I am not some woman who doesn't have her own life. I work long hours ( 2 jobs), I have hobbies, friends, and I volunteer a few times a month. I am still young and want to have a substantial amount of money in my bank accounts in the next few years.
I am very fulfilled. I have never needed a man to complete me.

And you were complicit in destroying an innocent child's family life. You can't win because you are a loser. Your ability to understand that your life now is not perfectly rosy only extends to the fact that your AP passes gas. And you don't know his child yet. Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP: You're funny. I can't win. If I said he was with his kid 25% of the time you would criticize him. If I said I had met the child you would think I was an evil woman who couldn't wait until the divorce was finalized. We don't live in the same area 50% is fine. I am not some woman who doesn't have her own life. I work long hours ( 2 jobs), I have hobbies, friends, and I volunteer a few times a month. I am still young and want to have a substantial amount of money in my bank accounts in the next few years.
I am very fulfilled. I have never needed a man to complete me.

And you were complicit in destroying an innocent child's family life. You can't win because you are a loser. Your ability to understand that your life now is not perfectly rosy only extends to the fact that your AP passes gas. And you don't know his child yet. Best of luck.

Wow. Just wow.

Tell us again why his cheating is in the best interest of his child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP: You're funny. I can't win. If I said he was with his kid 25% of the time you would criticize him. If I said I had met the child you would think I was an evil woman who couldn't wait until the divorce was finalized. We don't live in the same area 50% is fine. I am not some woman who doesn't have her own life. I work long hours ( 2 jobs), I have hobbies, friends, and I volunteer a few times a month. I am still young and want to have a substantial amount of money in my bank accounts in the next few years.
I am very fulfilled. I have never needed a man to complete me.

And you were complicit in destroying an innocent child's family life. You can't win because you are a loser. Your ability to understand that your life now is not perfectly rosy only extends to the fact that your AP passes gas. And you don't know his child yet. Best of luck.

One more time for the frustrated jilted woman who can't seem to understand that NO ONE can come between you and your lover if your lover is happy and feels good about himself/herself when they are with you. This falls on the two people in the relationship not a third party, got it? Not the pp, but really am sick and tired of your juvenile and ignorant comments about the AP, be it man or woman. If my DH is straying then there is most certainly something lacking in our relationship, maybe I know about it or maybe I learn about it in the aftermath, but I can't possibly blame a third party. That is just ignorant. PP, don't let these angry women throw their personal guilt for failure in their relationship onto you, they are blind in their own relationships.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP: You're funny. I can't win. If I said he was with his kid 25% of the time you would criticize him. If I said I had met the child you would think I was an evil woman who couldn't wait until the divorce was finalized. We don't live in the same area 50% is fine. I am not some woman who doesn't have her own life. I work long hours ( 2 jobs), I have hobbies, friends, and I volunteer a few times a month. I am still young and want to have a substantial amount of money in my bank accounts in the next few years.
I am very fulfilled. I have never needed a man to complete me.

And you were complicit in destroying an innocent child's family life. You can't win because you are a loser. Your ability to understand that your life now is not perfectly rosy only extends to the fact that your AP passes gas. And you don't know his child yet. Best of luck.

Wow. Just wow.

Tell us again why his cheating is in the best interest of his child.

Not pp, but that would depend on the DW role in the straying of her DH. Did DW have her child's best interest at heart when she was not taking care of her marriage the way she may have in the early days? Did DW have her child's best interest at heart when she was tearing her DH down yet again in front of their child? I could go on and an on because that was my experience and my DM never realized how badly she affected me and siblings when she would emasculate my DF in front of us. Marriage works because of two people and the DW are not innocent in what happens to children, especially if they are like most of the DW's I know, or my mother, in how dismissive and abrupt they are with their DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also I know he's not perfect. The other night we were watching a show ( every few months we binge on a new show together). I looked at him crinkled my nose " Did you just fart?".

Wow you're right. I thought you couldn't possibly know this man as completely as you think if you haven't even met his kid but you proved me wrong. You definitely have seen the worst this man has to offer if he has farted in your presence. I stand corrected, the depth of your knowledge of his personality is clearly quite deep.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Also I know he's not perfect. The other night we were watching a show ( every few months we binge on a new show together). I looked at him crinkled my nose " Did you just fart?".

Wow you're right. I thought you couldn't possibly know this man as completely as you think if you haven't even met his kid but you proved me wrong. You definitely have seen the worst this man has to offer if he has farted in your presence. I stand corrected, the depth of your knowledge of his personality is clearly quite deep.

I was joking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP: You're funny. I can't win. If I said he was with his kid 25% of the time you would criticize him. If I said I had met the child you would think I was an evil woman who couldn't wait until the divorce was finalized. We don't live in the same area 50% is fine. I am not some woman who doesn't have her own life. I work long hours ( 2 jobs), I have hobbies, friends, and I volunteer a few times a month. I am still young and want to have a substantial amount of money in my bank accounts in the next few years.
I am very fulfilled. I have never needed a man to complete me.

And you were complicit in destroying an innocent child's family life. You can't win because you are a loser. Your ability to understand that your life now is not perfectly rosy only extends to the fact that your AP passes gas. And you don't know his child yet. Best of luck.

Wow. Just wow.

Tell us again why his cheating is in the best interest of his child.

Not pp, but that would depend on the DW role in the straying of her DH. Did DW have her child's best interest at heart when she was not taking care of her marriage the way she may have in the early days? Did DW have her child's best interest at heart when she was tearing her DH down yet again in front of their child? I could go on and an on because that was my experience and my DM never realized how badly she affected me and siblings when she would emasculate my DF in front of us. Marriage works because of two people and the DW are not innocent in what happens to children, especially if they are like most of the DW's I know, or my mother, in how dismissive and abrupt they are with their DH.

Even if his wife was the worst ever, it was his choice to cheat. One parents bad behavior does noy justify the other parent to behave badly. Divorce might have been in the child's best interest, but how could the cheating be?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP: You're funny. I can't win. If I said he was with his kid 25% of the time you would criticize him. If I said I had met the child you would think I was an evil woman who couldn't wait until the divorce was finalized. We don't live in the same area 50% is fine. I am not some woman who doesn't have her own life. I work long hours ( 2 jobs), I have hobbies, friends, and I volunteer a few times a month. I am still young and want to have a substantial amount of money in my bank accounts in the next few years.
I am very fulfilled. I have never needed a man to complete me.

And you were complicit in destroying an innocent child's family life. You can't win because you are a loser. Your ability to understand that your life now is not perfectly rosy only extends to the fact that your AP passes gas. And you don't know his child yet. Best of luck.

Wow. Just wow.

Tell us again why his cheating is in the best interest of his child.

Not pp, but that would depend on the DW role in the straying of her DH. Did DW have her child's best interest at heart when she was not taking care of her marriage the way she may have in the early days? Did DW have her child's best interest at heart when she was tearing her DH down yet again in front of their child? I could go on and an on because that was my experience and my DM never realized how badly she affected me and siblings when she would emasculate my DF in front of us. Marriage works because of two people and the DW are not innocent in what happens to children, especially if they are like most of the DW's I know, or my mother, in how dismissive and abrupt they are with their DH.

Even if his wife was the worst ever, it was his choice to cheat. One parents bad behavior does noy justify the other parent to behave badly. Divorce might have been in the child's best interest, but how could the cheating be?

Except she was cheating too Her name was released when the Ashley Madison hack happened. I didn't mention it early because it doesn't matter now. Everyone knows about his affair because she's shouted it from the rooftops. Oddly enough they don't know about hers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP: You're funny. I can't win. If I said he was with his kid 25% of the time you would criticize him. If I said I had met the child you would think I was an evil woman who couldn't wait until the divorce was finalized. We don't live in the same area 50% is fine. I am not some woman who doesn't have her own life. I work long hours ( 2 jobs), I have hobbies, friends, and I volunteer a few times a month. I am still young and want to have a substantial amount of money in my bank accounts in the next few years.
I am very fulfilled. I have never needed a man to complete me.

And you were complicit in destroying an innocent child's family life. You can't win because you are a loser. Your ability to understand that your life now is not perfectly rosy only extends to the fact that your AP passes gas. And you don't know his child yet. Best of luck.

Wow. Just wow.

Tell us again why his cheating is in the best interest of his child.

Not pp, but that would depend on the DW role in the straying of her DH. Did DW have her child's best interest at heart when she was not taking care of her marriage the way she may have in the early days? Did DW have her child's best interest at heart when she was tearing her DH down yet again in front of their child? I could go on and an on because that was my experience and my DM never realized how badly she affected me and siblings when she would emasculate my DF in front of us. Marriage works because of two people and the DW are not innocent in what happens to children, especially if they are like most of the DW's I know, or my mother, in how dismissive and abrupt they are with their DH.

Even if his wife was the worst ever, it was his choice to cheat. One parents bad behavior does noy justify the other parent to behave badly. Divorce might have been in the child's best interest, but how could the cheating be?

Except she was cheating too Her name was released when the Ashley Madison hack happened. I didn't mention it early because it doesn't matter now. Everyone knows about his affair because she's shouted it from the rooftops. Oddly enough they don't know about hers.

Again, it doesn't justify it. What is better for the child, having 1 trustworthy parent or having 0?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We aren't married yet. I left my spouse, and then he left his wife. It's better than I imagined it would be. Some days we do nothing at all. He sits on the couch working, and I'm curled up next to him reading.
I like that he comes home to me, and I have dinner ready. I like that he does my laundry. I like that we spend time with friends together and go on road trips without his phone blowing up. My blood pressure is much better. I enjoy pillow talk. I like constantly hearing "we". I'm happy to have finally met his family. The best thing is he doesn't go back to her at night.

THIS is what we all want. Well, OK, this is what I want.

But wasn't this how it was at first with your ex? That's what I don't get. Relationships are always great at the beginning.

^This +1000. When it gets old and he gets bored get ready for him to cheat on you.

No. It was never like this. I married for religious reasons. He was emotionally abusive and that turned physical. Having sex with me in my sleep. When I asked for a divorce he sodomized me.
I never felt safe. When I met my "ap" it was the first time I felt completely safe. I fell in love with him on our first date. I liked that when he smiled he smiled his eyes crinkled. Several years later I still get butterflies when he says my name.
I am so fucking happy. I wish we met under different circumstances. He loves me more than anyone in my life has loved me and I him. I love his family too. I never thought I'd feel this way about anyone and have them reciprocate. Several years into our relationship and he still worships the ground I walk on.

Everyone's story isn't the same.

FUCK. If that's true, then you have all of our blessings.

It's all true. After my ex husband raped me I came to dcum asking for advice because I was completely traumatised by it and didn't know what to do

I remember that thread, PP. Godspeed.

And according to Riddell's cover photo on Facebook, she and Partilla are still together.

Does it say on Facebook whether their children have lost all respect for them?

Of course not, something on Facebook would never say that!
- PP who posted the update, which was merely supposed to be informational and not editorial. Someone asked if anyone knew whether they were still together and they appear to be. That's it. I find them disgusting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP: You're funny. I can't win. If I said he was with his kid 25% of the time you would criticize him. If I said I had met the child you would think I was an evil woman who couldn't wait until the divorce was finalized. We don't live in the same area 50% is fine. I am not some woman who doesn't have her own life. I work long hours ( 2 jobs), I have hobbies, friends, and I volunteer a few times a month. I am still young and want to have a substantial amount of money in my bank accounts in the next few years.
I am very fulfilled. I have never needed a man to complete me.

And you were complicit in destroying an innocent child's family life. You can't win because you are a loser. Your ability to understand that your life now is not perfectly rosy only extends to the fact that your AP passes gas. And you don't know his child yet. Best of luck.

Wow. Just wow.

Tell us again why his cheating is in the best interest of his child.

Not pp, but that would depend on the DW role in the straying of her DH. Did DW have her child's best interest at heart when she was not taking care of her marriage the way she may have in the early days? Did DW have her child's best interest at heart when she was tearing her DH down yet again in front of their child? I could go on and an on because that was my experience and my DM never realized how badly she affected me and siblings when she would emasculate my DF in front of us. Marriage works because of two people and the DW are not innocent in what happens to children, especially if they are like most of the DW's I know, or my mother, in how dismissive and abrupt they are with their DH.

Even if his wife was the worst ever, it was his choice to cheat. One parents bad behavior does noy justify the other parent to behave badly. Divorce might have been in the child's best interest, but how could the cheating be?

Except she was cheating too Her name was released when the Ashley Madison hack happened. I didn't mention it early because it doesn't matter now. Everyone knows about his affair because she's shouted it from the rooftops. Oddly enough they don't know about hers.

Smiley face for the wife being a cheater too? What is wrong with you? I feel so bad for this kid I want to cry for real.

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[Anonymous]

Smiley face for pps acting like the wife was a saint. It's funny you how these boards mimicked the way some see her irl

You people try to twist everything. I am awful for not rushing in to play step mom to this child before the divorce is finalized. If I told you I had met dc already you would criticize that. You assume because I am the "ow" that we haven't been through things together.

Just like you assumed his wife was innocently sitting by. I didn't go into details because they don't matter. I already said I wished we met under different circumstances.

I didn't talk about her and her sister reaching out to my rapist to get information about me. Or when I tried to stop seeing her husband she found me on match and had her friend catfish me. She then went on to have a female friend catfish me too. I didn't mention she is on several dating sites posed in a bra, and a corset. You would have just said she was on there checking on her husband. I didn't mention her biting the back of his arm drawing blood and his lawyer taking pics of it.

I didn't mention that a neighbor called cps on her and they're now investigating her. I didn't mention that her friend she had catfish me came back and apologized to me, told me how awful she is. I didn't mention that she put a GPS tracker on his car.
I didn't mention that she threatened to confront me with her baby ( who the heck does that?)
I didn't mention that she put their child in daycare for 10 hours a day while she sat home doing nothing.

I didn't mention any of it because it doesn't excuse what happened. No matter how shitty of a woman I think she is. But you know best. I'm the evil one.