My neighbors think I'm an abused wife

[Anonymous]

OP, I haven't read though all the posts, and I'm so sorry at how cruel this post will sound.

Your neighbors don't just think you're an abused wife. You ARE an abused wife.

I've been there and too many people tip toe around it. Please make an exit plan and get out.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP. haven't read other comments, but let me give you a,wake up call here. If your husband can't control his temper, aren't you mortified as to what he might do to your child? You should have children with somebody else. I'd leave him. And find someone else. You can have children in your 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By the way, your neighbors don't think, they know.

Yes, they do.

What will your life be like without his temper around? Imagine that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Fast forward 5 years. Dad get annoyed with kids a deuce while dining out. He sucker punches not, Beatles hike and screams at the wife. No reaction for others nearby and family goes on as usual. Friend tells me about this incident. She's mortified! She consults attorney. 2 years later and still the same. Kids act out in all kinds of ways. They verbally and physically fight - the kids. Mm is aware yet in denial.

Moral: don't become my friend. Get out! Now!

What? I don't understand. Sucker punches not? Beatles hike?

Sorry typos

Sucker punched son
Berated, verbally, daughter

[Anonymous]

I have advice from a different perspective that will end up giving the same advice as everyone else but for a different reason.

I have an explosive temper, as did my father. However, neither I nor my father have ever hurt anyone in anger. In other words we both had and have control over our tempers. The reason? Neither of us could stand the thought of hurting anyone, especially a SO. As a matter of fact, I thought my Dad was kind of a wimp growing up because he was so easy going. I don't have that level of control yet but I'm getting there.

Because we couldn't stand the thought of hurting a SO we put enormous effort into controlling the beast. And this is why you need to get out: Your SO is NOT EVEN CLOSE to the level of effort required to control his beast.

1. He is still making excuses
2. He is not apologizing
3. He doesn't really think he did anything wrong

AFTER HE REALIZES all these things THAT is when the effort STARTS. Then he will have to put everything he has into actually doing what it takes to control it and it will take YEARS.

So ditch this abusive jerk, you are better off being a cat lady than bringing a child into this abusive home.

PS I think you aren't getting pregnant because your body simply refuses to breed with him.

[Anonymous]

People have different levels of tolerance towards what you call temper. For whatever reason, I have zero tolerance. I don't know how you do this, OP.

How are you? Any updates?

[Anonymous]

Shattered: The True Story of a Mother's Love, a Husband's Betrayal, and a Cold-Blooded Texas Murder

I just finished reading the above book and it left me shaken and depressed. Never had a book affect me like that before.

If only this girl had known the extent of his explosive temper and how it would grow or her family and friends had known or cared more about her home life, maybe just maybe she and unborn her baby would still be alive. An educated outgoing independent girl beaten down by a bully she called husband.

Love isn't mean cruel loud or threatening. Love is caring sweet nurtured patient.

Leave him. Force him to change. If he doesn't you move on. No one deserves to be talked to like your husband does to you and publicly humiliate you.

No, you DESERVE better.