How does a parent recover from this?

[Anonymous]

I brought up the points above from about the third post on this topic OP "OP here, I do wonder if he's been physically abused as well. I know mentally, yes, he was by his father before he died. The anniversary of his death is this week. I am so scared for my nephew. My sister is begging for answers if he needs jail or therapy and I just don't know. Exactly the point that the poster really may have an inkling, but may not really know what went on in her sister's marriage or relationship with the former husband and her nephew.

While I do not condone what the teen did, his relationship with his father and his father's approaching death anniversary might certainly seem to be triggers which may well have contributed to and set of the most recent behavior. What the Mother knew or did not know is also key. It is sad if one just blames the teenager and does not look into what has been going on in this family for a while as you have three or four other siblings involved.

[Anonymous]

Thoughts, prayers, and hugs OP - very difficult for all involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who the hell are you, OP? Is this for real? Why the hell are you on this board and why are you revealing as much as you are.

I have wondered the same thing from the start of this thread and I am going to stop reading on page 3 at this point. Call me harsh, but I for one don't believe this post is written by someone's "aunt". My gut is that that is just a chosen identity to give some cloak of distance that the poster psychologically needs to create, similar to when a person hypotheticllay asks, " I have a friend who…" or " I heard of someone who" and then asks a question that they themselves needs the answer to.

I think the poster is a teen who may have done something, was not caught and is trying to find out what the legal ramifications are, without going public by consulting a lawyer and triggering a chain of events. It is that, or a parent who's kid did this and she is asking for legal advice ( not just free , but off the record) for her own family, not some " sister in another state" , prior to deciding what she will do. Remember folks: in a sex crime involving children a lawyer or SW is a mandated reporter. This poster is someoen who wants to get the legal deal without triggering that chian of events.

Here is why I think that: all of the questions the poster is asking can and ARE answered by the sex crimes police and by SW who routinely ( yes, routinely) handle these matters. If the case were truly reported, the poster would NOT have to come "on line" here and ask these questions because they woud have been answered .

logging off now

[jsteele]

Enough people have reported this thread and as it appears the original post has been significantly superseded by events, I'm going to lock the thread.