I was seen multi dating by the guy I like more

[Anonymous]

There are some frighteningly bitter, woman-hating men on this thread. It actually makes me sick to read some of the responses.

So grateful I got one of the good ones.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, so if she fucks one guy she's dating, she must immediately fuck all the others, especially the ones she likes. Gotcha.

Not at all. But if you're the woman and the dude you're not fucking moves on don't be surprised

excatly. and then starts 'why aren't there any good guys left?'. well, good guys don't like being made fools of and move on and find women who treat them honestly and with respect.

Treating a man with respect == putting out on the 1st date. Got it.

No, but if you tell me you like me but want to get to know me first, and then I find out that you are sleeping with others who you just met, what does it tell me?

WHERE DID SHE SAY ANY OF THIS? Please stop manufacturing imaginary dialogue!

1st 2 pages of thread.

Having sex w guy 2 multiple times,still seeing him doesn't like him but he's a sexy jock

Had sex once w guy 3 and he never called her back

Hasn't had sex w guy 1 who she sees as ltr material

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, so if she fucks one guy she's dating, she must immediately fuck all the others, especially the ones she likes. Gotcha.

Not at all. But if you're the woman and the dude you're not fucking moves on don't be surprised

excatly. and then starts 'why aren't there any good guys left?'. well, good guys don't like being made fools of and move on and find women who treat them honestly and with respect.

Treating a man with respect == putting out on the 1st date. Got it.

No, but if you tell me you like me but want to get to know me first, and then I find out that you are sleeping with others who you just met, what does it tell me?

WHERE DID SHE SAY ANY OF THIS? Please stop manufacturing imaginary dialogue!

1st 2 pages of thread.

Having sex w guy 2 multiple times,still seeing him doesn't like him but he's a sexy jock

Had sex once w guy 3 and he never called her back

Hasn't had sex w guy 1 who she sees as ltr material

But she did not TELL him that she wanted to get to know him first. She never mentioned whether they had sex or not. He does not need to find out who she has slept with because it's NOT ANY OF HIS BUSINESS.

You remind me of that crazy guy in California who was obsessing that the pretty girls were having sex with everyone except for him. Oh, and then went on a killing rampage.

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Anonymous wrote:You remind me of that crazy guy in California who was obsessing that the pretty girls were having sex with everyone except for him. Oh, and then went on a killing rampage.

I bet they read the same bro sites. Btw, those sites are trying to sell social awareness to the socially awkward. Somehow, the product is a bunch of douchebags who think they're owed sex. Fuck that entitlement. Fuck that assumption of ownership over a woman.

Thankfully, men who have actually dated a woman know the bro fairy tales don't line up with reality. I don't know if this is how 20 somethings are these days, or ever. I avoided dating that age group.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, so if she fucks one guy she's dating, she must immediately fuck all the others, especially the ones she likes. Gotcha.

Not at all. But if you're the woman and the dude you're not fucking moves on don't be surprised

excatly. and then starts 'why aren't there any good guys left?'. well, good guys don't like being made fools of and move on and find women who treat them honestly and with respect.

Treating a man with respect == putting out on the 1st date. Got it.

No, but if you tell me you like me but want to get to know me first, and then I find out that you are sleeping with others who you just met, what does it tell me?

WHERE DID SHE SAY ANY OF THIS? Please stop manufacturing imaginary dialogue!

1st 2 pages of thread.

Having sex w guy 2 multiple times,still seeing him doesn't like him but he's a sexy jock

Had sex once w guy 3 and he never called her back

Hasn't had sex w guy 1 who she sees as ltr material

I don't believe this whole thread wasn't manufactured by the guys who whine about the same thing all the time.

[Anonymous]

Lol at the misogynist accusations omg someone on here is going on a shooting spree!!!

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And I wouldn't be surprised if whole thread is a troll job

[Anonymous]

So things didn't go so well. He didn't want to have dinner so we got together for a coffee. We weren't there long. I tried to make nice small talk but he wasn't into it. He did bring up seeing me with that other guy. He asked me if he was a long lost cousin. I laughed and said no and he said he figured as much and that he was trying to be funny. He asked me if I'm dating him (guy 2). I said that I went out with him a couple of times. He then asked me if I'm having sex with him. I said that instead of talking about other people I wanted to talk about and focus on us.

He then said that he apologizes for having read our cues wrong - whatever that means. He said he wanted to confirm that I"m dating more than just him. I said that I want us to be exclusive if that's what he wants too. He didn't reply like I thought he would. He said he misread "us" so we should keep things as they are and that I can date whoever I want.

I don't think he broke up with me but it was weird - I've broken up before and it never goes this way. He just looked weird and sad and said things I know are out of character for him. He asked why I never dressed up sexy for him like I did for the other guy. I instantly said I would next time we go out and he just said 'yeah right.'

Then we parted. Maybe we'll get together later tonight. Sucks big time.

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Anonymous wrote:So things didn't go so well. He didn't want to have dinner so we got together for a coffee. We weren't there long. I tried to make nice small talk but he wasn't into it. He did bring up seeing me with that other guy. He asked me if he was a long lost cousin. I laughed and said no and he said he figured as much and that he was trying to be funny. He asked me if I'm dating him (guy 2). I said that I went out with him a couple of times. He then asked me if I'm having sex with him. I said that instead of talking about other people I wanted to talk about and focus on us.

He then said that he apologizes for having read our cues wrong - whatever that means. He said he wanted to confirm that I"m dating more than just him. I said that I want us to be exclusive if that's what he wants too. He didn't reply like I thought he would. He said he misread "us" so we should keep things as they are and that I can date whoever I want.

I don't think he broke up with me but it was weird - I've broken up before and it never goes this way. He just looked weird and sad and said things I know are out of character for him. He asked why I never dressed up sexy for him like I did for the other guy. I instantly said I would next time we go out and he just said 'yeah right.'

Then we parted. Maybe we'll get together later tonight. Sucks big time.

Clearly you were the only one this guy has eyes for so when he realized you weren't already exclusive it really hurt him. OP, if you really want this guy, persue him. Make it clear that you are shifting gears and have made up your mind that you now only want to be with him. Of course, don't push too hard if he isn't coming around rather easily, but calling him, being proactive making nice plans, cook for him, tell him how you feel, etc is a good idea. Good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:So things didn't go so well. He didn't want to have dinner so we got together for a coffee. We weren't there long. I tried to make nice small talk but he wasn't into it. He did bring up seeing me with that other guy. He asked me if he was a long lost cousin. I laughed and said no and he said he figured as much and that he was trying to be funny. He asked me if I'm dating him (guy 2). I said that I went out with him a couple of times. He then asked me if I'm having sex with him. I said that instead of talking about other people I wanted to talk about and focus on us.

He then said that he apologizes for having read our cues wrong - whatever that means. He said he wanted to confirm that I"m dating more than just him. I said that I want us to be exclusive if that's what he wants too. He didn't reply like I thought he would. He said he misread "us" so we should keep things as they are and that I can date whoever I want.

I don't think he broke up with me but it was weird - I've broken up before and it never goes this way. He just looked weird and sad and said things I know are out of character for him. He asked why I never dressed up sexy for him like I did for the other guy. I instantly said I would next time we go out and he just said 'yeah right.'

Then we parted. Maybe we'll get together later tonight. Sucks big time.

He even noticed you dressing sexier for the other guy. All the men-hating women we throw around "misogynist" and "entitlement," but they are just angry women.

We keep trying to tell you that the immediate sex and wanting to look and be sexy for guy number 2 would negate "but you're special to me, guy #1."

Keep listening to the women telling you to "go on, girl," and you'll never land the guy you want. Try listening to the men instead of the pseudo-dominant women trying to tell other women what men "want."

For starters, we don't want the nice you while the other guy gets the sexy/sexual you. That will never win us over. Period.

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Anonymous wrote:So things didn't go so well. He didn't want to have dinner so we got together for a coffee. We weren't there long. I tried to make nice small talk but he wasn't into it. He did bring up seeing me with that other guy. He asked me if he was a long lost cousin. I laughed and said no and he said he figured as much and that he was trying to be funny. He asked me if I'm dating him (guy 2). I said that I went out with him a couple of times. He then asked me if I'm having sex with him. I said that instead of talking about other people I wanted to talk about and focus on us.

He then said that he apologizes for having read our cues wrong - whatever that means. He said he wanted to confirm that I"m dating more than just him. I said that I want us to be exclusive if that's what he wants too. He didn't reply like I thought he would. He said he misread "us" so we should keep things as they are and that I can date whoever I want.

I don't think he broke up with me but it was weird - I've broken up before and it never goes this way. He just looked weird and sad and said things I know are out of character for him. He asked why I never dressed up sexy for him like I did for the other guy. I instantly said I would next time we go out and he just said 'yeah right.'

Then we parted. Maybe we'll get together later tonight. Sucks big time.

Why did it take 10 pages before you could come up with a conclusion? Was it the suspenseful effect you were going for?

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Anonymous wrote:So things didn't go so well. He didn't want to have dinner so we got together for a coffee. We weren't there long. I tried to make nice small talk but he wasn't into it. He did bring up seeing me with that other guy. He asked me if he was a long lost cousin. I laughed and said no and he said he figured as much and that he was trying to be funny. He asked me if I'm dating him (guy 2). I said that I went out with him a couple of times. He then asked me if I'm having sex with him. I said that instead of talking about other people I wanted to talk about and focus on us.

He then said that he apologizes for having read our cues wrong - whatever that means. He said he wanted to confirm that I"m dating more than just him. I said that I want us to be exclusive if that's what he wants too. He didn't reply like I thought he would. He said he misread "us" so we should keep things as they are and that I can date whoever I want.

I don't think he broke up with me but it was weird - I've broken up before and it never goes this way. He just looked weird and sad and said things I know are out of character for him. He asked why I never dressed up sexy for him like I did for the other guy. I instantly said I would next time we go out and he just said 'yeah right.'

Then we parted. Maybe we'll get together later tonight. Sucks big time.

Sucks. Sorry OP. Neither of you did anything wrong. You both got caught with your worlds colliding at an akward time. I stopped reading this thread, as it's gone off the rails, but just checked back and saw your post. The guys ego is very bruised. I don't blame him. It's not your fault really, but he got an unintentional peek behind a curtain he wasn't supposed to see. He's probably really confused. Not only did he not realize you were seeing other people, but he saw you act differently with someone else. We all do it. We don't all act exactly the same with every person we date. He wasn't supposed to see you with someone else. I don't know how easy that would be to recover from.

Maybe you were too casual about the run in? Do you genuinely really want to be with this guy? It doesn't sound like it, and that's ok. If you really truly want to be with him...go after him. Let him know, directly, what you want. And for the love of god, give it up for him and make it damn good! It doesn't sound like you let him know you were serious about him at all at coffee.

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Women love telling men what works and does not work for women.

When men try to do the same, we get labeled "misogynist."

Sorry, but you don't get to dress up sexy for guy 2, have sex with guy 2 regularly, and then tell guy 1 he's the one you want. It sends mixed signals, to say the least, and is insulting. If you didn't want guy 2 and you fucked him regularly, what does not having sex mean? According to you and "spreadsheet wife," lack of sex means like/love.

No. Thanks.

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Awww, look. He has to ASK you to dress sexy for him on dates but you did it for the other guy with no prodding. Guy 1 appreciates that and feels like he's "the only one for you now." LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women love telling men what works and does not work for women.

When men try to do the same, we get labeled "misogynist."

Sorry, but you don't get to dress up sexy for guy 2, have sex with guy 2 regularly, and then tell guy 1 he's the one you want. It sends mixed signals, to say the least, and is insulting. If you didn't want guy 2 and you fucked him regularly, what does not having sex mean? According to you and "spreadsheet wife," lack of sex means like/love.

No. Thanks.

No, it's the misogyny that makes you a misogynist. A difference in opinion or a difference in relationship preference are just differences.