I was seen multi dating by the guy I like more

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do men and women have to play such games? Why can't the two of them be grown ups, acknowledge that the situation got complicated, and if they think they can get something going, focus on that? There is always going to be someone more attractive or better in bed or funnier. You have to live in the present.

Women simply think illogically. OP is exhibit A: Wants something despite behaving another way. Banging the guys who she views little potential with but making the one she DOES view potential in wait.

Sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do men and women have to play such games? Why can't the two of them be grown ups, acknowledge that the situation got complicated, and if they think they can get something going, focus on that? There is always going to be someone more attractive or better in bed or funnier. You have to live in the present.

Women simply think illogically. OP is exhibit A: Wants something despite behaving another way. Banging the guys who she views little potential with but making the one she DOES view potential in wait.

Sad.

I could have written this exact post. In fact, I've written pretty much the same thing throughout this post. The angry women will explain it away by calling guy 1 a loser. Men will even explain it away, but those men are the "after-effects" of being guy 1. They have to wait and behave for their once a month vanilla sex.

I'm not suggesting treating women awfully to get what you want but, sadly, women do (by their actions).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women simply think illogically. OP is exhibit A: Wants something despite behaving another way. Banging the guys who she views little potential with but making the one she DOES view potential in wait.

Sad.

No, this is incorrect.

Women do NOT think illogically.

This is simply an argument that is used by some women when caught in the headlights.

Women bang whoever they want to bang and thereafter try to rationalize / explain it away WHEN and IF they get called out on it by some poor shlub who figures it out.

If she wanted to bang Guy 1 she would have. Period. The fact that she didn't, all the while banging another guy on the side is completely her choice. It also speaks to her character and any guy with any semblance of self respect would a) play the game until he had sex with her one or two or ten times, and then B) dump her ceremoniously and with fanfare.

I know I would.

[Anonymous]

So we're back at:

Sleep with me = amazing woman

Sleep with someone else = whore

So glad everyone could get so much out of this repetitive conversation. Let's rehash it all!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So we're back at:

Sleep with me = amazing woman

Sleep with someone else = whore

So glad everyone could get so much out of this repetitive conversation. Let's rehash it all!

This is way oversimplified.

She isn't a whore for sleeping with someone else. She's not a whore at all.

What we're saying is, she can't claim that "waiting for sex is special with you because..." if she's out having (non-special?) sex with two other guys during the courtship.

Doesn't make her a whore. Does make her a bit manipulative of the situation, yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So we're back at:

Sleep with me = amazing woman

Sleep with someone else = whore

So glad everyone could get so much out of this repetitive conversation. Let's rehash it all!

I wouldn'tphrase it quite like that.

I'd say:

Sleep with me easily but not so easily with others = amazing woman.

Sleep with me just as easily as with others = OK woman

Don't sleep with me easily, but sleep with others easily = deceitful, manipulative woman worthy of hard dumping

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women simply think illogically. OP is exhibit A: Wants something despite behaving another way. Banging the guys who she views little potential with but making the one she DOES view potential in wait.

Sad.

No, this is incorrect.

Women do NOT think illogically.

This is simply an argument that is used by some women when caught in the headlights.

Women bang whoever they want to bang and thereafter try to rationalize / explain it away WHEN and IF they get called out on it by some poor shlub who figures it out.

If she wanted to bang Guy 1 she would have. Period. The fact that she didn't, all the while banging another guy on the side is completely her choice. It also speaks to her character and any guy with any semblance of self respect would a) play the game until he had sex with her one or two or ten times, and then B) dump her ceremoniously and with fanfare.

I know I would.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So we're back at:

Sleep with me = amazing woman

Sleep with someone else = whore

So glad everyone could get so much out of this repetitive conversation. Let's rehash it all!

I wouldn'tphrase it quite like that.

I'd say:

Sleep with me easily but not so easily with others = amazing woman.

Sleep with me just as easily as with others = OK woman

Don't sleep with me easily, but sleep with others easily = deceitful, manipulative woman worthy of hard dumping

Any way you put it, you're vilifying her for making her own choices about sex. Thanks for proving my point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So we're back at:

Sleep with me = amazing woman

Sleep with someone else = whore

So glad everyone could get so much out of this repetitive conversation. Let's rehash it all!

I wouldn'tphrase it quite like that.

I'd say:

Sleep with me easily but not so easily with others = amazing woman.

Sleep with me just as easily as with others = OK woman

Don't sleep with me easily, but sleep with others easily = deceitful, manipulative woman worthy of hard dumping

Any way you put it, you're vilifying her for making her own choices about sex. Thanks for proving my point.

It isn't vilifying, it is recognizing that she can make her choices but they aren't going to lead to a happy place for her if she's being deceitful and manipulative. No one is denying her the right to make a choice about when and with whom she has sex. She can;'t have her cake and blow it too.

[Anonymous]

A woman who doesn't have sex with you is deceitful and manipulative, but that's not vilifying? Is it all women or just the ones who turn you down?

[Anonymous]

Poor Guy #1. This story proves a universal truth: women use what they have to get what they want. OP admitted this. She had a dry spell and got an ego rush from attracting a hot jock who wanted to hook up with her. Did she have to sleep with him? Absolutely, because hot jock won't give her the time of day unless they're smashing.

Guy 1 had "LTR potential". Translation: he was a nice, reasonable guy who would be acceptable to her mommy, daddy, friends and co-workers, which would help her earn their acceptance and approval if they became a "couple". Was he hitting it? No, at least not until OP figured out that having sex with him was the only way to keep him around.

Hopefully the scales fell from his eyes and he now realizes every guy needs to know about women. For women, sex isn't about romance, love, yada, yada ... it's a value proposition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poor Guy #1. This story proves a universal truth: women use what they have to get what they want. OP admitted this. She had a dry spell and got an ego rush from attracting a hot jock who wanted to hook up with her. Did she have to sleep with him? Absolutely, because hot jock won't give her the time of day unless they're smashing.

Guy 1 had "LTR potential". Translation: he was a nice, reasonable guy who would be acceptable to her mommy, daddy, friends and co-workers, which would help her earn their acceptance and approval if they became a "couple". Was he hitting it? No, at least not until OP figured out that having sex with him was the only way to keep him around.

Hopefully the scales fell from his eyes and he now realizes every guy needs to know about women. For women, sex isn't about romance, love, yada, yada ... it's a value proposition.

*facepalm*

It isn't real. It proves someone has an active imagination and there are a lot of gullible people here.

[Anonymous]

After a month of dating, guy 1 seemed to be under the impression that Op was exclusively seeing him. That's why he was not happy to see Op out in public with guy 2.

Op and guy 1 had never said they were exclusive. They had never made any moves towards being exclusive...yet, guy 1 just *ASS*umed that they were exclusive?

Somehow that just plain doesn't sound right.

[Anonymous]

OP, please come back and update us. Did you and Guy #1 decide to be exclusive? Are you still dating? Is he being a big baby?

[Anonymous]

If I asked for advice on buying a unicorn, would you answer me seriously?

I'm discussing the general issues, but not the specifics of the original post. It's not true and doesn't need to be dissected.