I was seen multi dating by the guy I like more

[Anonymous]

I think this is a silly and narcissistic thread. It reads like a bad FB posts by high school kids.

BTW, why is the word, "f***ing", prevalent on parenting forum? Is DCUM becoming skanky like the Craigslist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poor Guy #1. This story proves a universal truth: women use what they have to get what they want. OP admitted this. She had a dry spell and got an ego rush from attracting a hot jock who wanted to hook up with her. Did she have to sleep with him? Absolutely, because hot jock won't give her the time of day unless they're smashing.

Guy 1 had "LTR potential". Translation: he was a nice, reasonable guy who would be acceptable to her mommy, daddy, friends and co-workers, which would help her earn their acceptance and approval if they became a "couple". Was he hitting it? No, at least not until OP figured out that having sex with him was the only way to keep him around.

Hopefully the scales fell from his eyes and he now realizes every guy needs to know about women. For women, sex isn't about romance, love, yada, yada ... it's a value proposition.

Possibly the most insightful and on the money comment of this entire thread.

Would any guy really want to be poor guy 1? No way.

[Anonymous]

>Would any guy really want to be poor guy 1? No way.

Hell no. And the only way to avoid being Guy 1 is to judge a woman's intentions by what she does and not what she says. Nowadays, if you've been waiting as long as Guy 1 did for the relationship to get physical, your honey isn't saving it because she wants it to be special. Buddy, you're a benchwarmer hoping for a shot at the starting lineup.

The actual story may be fictiob but the situation is nothing but truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi all. I could use some advice.

I’m 28 and single but want to settle down. I had a dry spell in the dating world until about a couple of months ago when I met three guys (great! – or so I thought) at about the same time. They all asked me out and I said yes.

Guy 1 is a real gentleman and we have great chemistry. We’ve gone out a lot and I really like him a lot. I can definitely see us “long term.”

Guy 2 is more kinda like a jock. He’s pretty gregarious and knows what he wants. We “did it” soon after we met. When we get together it’s fireworks but only in one way…

Guy 3 was also extraverted but I regretted “being with” him and he never called back which was a good thing.

Well, last Friday I was out with Guy 2 at a lounge restaurant place. We were kind of tipsy and laughing when in walks Guy 1 with a bunch of his buddies. He saw me and I think his face looked surprised. He gave me a tight smile and nodded but didn’t come over. At that point I realized that I really would have preferred being there with Guy 1 and not Guy 2.

I kept looking in his direction but he never looked my way. At some point I think he went to the men's room but I didn’t see him come back.

I got a text from Guy 1 Saturday morning that he had to cancel our date that night because he said (but I don’t believe him) he had to work. I said OK, how about Monday? He said OK and I’m going to see him in a bit so I’m wondering what he’s going to ask and how I should handle things delicately, assuming he brings up last Friday at all.

I didn't read this thread. But Guy #1 bumped you from your Saturday night prime time spot to after work happy hour on a Monday. Ouch. He liked you too.
It happens.

[Anonymous]

This is at the core of why women are often single and frustrated. If you want a quality man, you need to behave like a quality woman. If you're going to spread your legs for Mr. RightNow, don't expect Mr. Right to be waiting for you to settle down. Women don't like players. Guess what, quality men don't either. That knife cuts both ways.

[Anonymous]

DH here. First, this is obviously a big troll thread. The update where she dressed sexy for the jock and not the long term prospect is total fake. I didn't read all of the posts, but I am sure a third update is coming where she runs into the good guy, he is a multi-millionaire married to a supermodel with 3 perfect children and she is divorced from the jock on public assistance.

Second, I have been in this situation as both ends as the guy just getting laid and the guy who really liked a girl, made the charm offensive, was still not having sex but found out my date was already sleeping with someone else. So I reacted like most guys do in that situation when I was back out on a date after I found out the girl was sleeping with someone else. I still tried to charm her and get laid. Who the hell would play the sads and be mopey when an attractive girl is into you and trying to reconcile?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is at the core of why women are often single and frustrated. If you want a quality man, you need to behave like a quality woman. If you're going to spread your legs for Mr. RightNow, don't expect Mr. Right to be waiting for you to settle down. Women don't like players. Guess what, quality men don't either. That knife cuts both ways.

I'm not sure the bolded part is accurate.

I think (and I'm a guy) that a woman DOES like a player - IF she thinks that she will be the one to "change him" so that forevermore he will only have eyes for her (and so on and on and on)

Hey, just sayin'. Blame it on the romantic comedies.


Also, if women really did not like players, guys would not go around "inflating their numbers."

Similarly, if men really did not mind women with "party girl" pasts, women would not go around "reducing" their numbers.

This is really not rocket science people.

[Anonymous]

I don't think women necessarily like players; it's more that they like the attributes that make you desirable enough to get away with it. Undesirable men can't do this.

I think this is partly why their is a widespread belief that women like bad boys and players, while nice guys finish last. A lot of those bad boys have charming, confident personalities, and a lot of nice guys are dull shlubs.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think women necessarily like players; it's more that they like the attributes that make you desirable enough to get away with it. Undesirable men can't do this.

I think this is partly why their is a widespread belief that women like bad boys and players, while nice guys finish last. A lot of those bad boys have charming, confident personalities, and a lot of nice guys are dull shlubs.

So true. When you see a man with a gorgeous girlfriend but who has a terrible personality and treats him poorly, we don't say, "Oh he must like bitchy women" ... it is understood that he's with her despite that not because of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Their/there

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