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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So things didn't go so well. He didn't want to have dinner so we got together for a coffee.  We weren't there long. I tried to make nice small talk but he wasn't into it. He did bring up seeing me with that other guy. He asked me if he was a long lost cousin. I laughed and said no and he said he figured as much and that he was trying to be funny. He asked me if I'm dating him (guy 2). I said that I went out with him a couple of times. He then asked me if I'm having sex with him. I said that instead of talking about other people I wanted to talk about and focus on us.

He then said that he apologizes for having read our cues wrong - whatever that means. He said he wanted to confirm that I"m dating more than just him. I said that I want us to be exclusive if that's what he wants too. He didn't reply like I thought he would. He said he misread "us" so we should keep things as they are and that I can date whoever I want.

I don't think he broke up with me but it was weird - I've broken up before and it never goes this way. He just looked weird and sad and said things I know are out of character for him. He asked why I never dressed up sexy for him like I did for the other guy. I instantly said I would next time we go out and he just said 'yeah right.'

Then we parted. Maybe we'll get together later tonight. Sucks big time.

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Sucks. Sorry OP. Neither of you did anything wrong. You both got caught with your worlds colliding at an akward time. I stopped reading this thread, as it's gone off the rails, but just checked back and saw your post. The guys ego is very bruised. I don't blame him. It's not your fault really, but he got an unintentional peek behind a curtain he wasn't supposed to see. He's probably really confused. Not only did he not realize you were seeing other people, but he saw you act differently with someone else. We all do it. We don't all act exactly the same with every person we date. He wasn't supposed to see you with someone else. I don't know how easy that would be to recover from.

Maybe you were too casual about the run in? Do you genuinely really want to be with this guy? It doesn't sound like it, and that's ok. If you really truly want to be with him...go after him. Let him know, directly, what you want. And for the love of god, give it up for him and make it damn good! It doesn't sound like you let him know you were serious about him at all at coffee. [/quote]

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