DH called DD a “fat ugly pig”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is quite awful. I feel terrible for your DD.

My question for you is, why did you say "he didn't mean it" instead of "Dad was wrong"?

It makes me think that there is dysfunction present beyond his comment on your side--not just your husband's.

If my husband said this, we would all be in immediate family and individual therapy, with some serious anger management counseling for him. I also would make sure there was a full medical workup because it would be so out of character. I don't know if I could stay with someone who wanted to so thoroughly hurt our child.

Maybe because it’s less harmful to a child to think their dad said something untrue out of anger instead of something he actually believed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is a troll, as outed by Jeff in his blog today.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/weblog/2024/05/10/update051024

still not locked tho

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People here are being very dramatic.

Yes that is a terrible thing to say, and I would be questioning my marriage, but to say your daughter is forever ruined by it is over the top. She is not destined for an eating disorder or a lifetime of therapy because of a hurtful comment. Teach your teens some resilience. You have to be able to move on from hurtful words- even from those you are closest to. One comment from Dad doesn’t define her unless she lets it.

Are you a dude? "Hurtful comment"? You do not seem to understand the magnitude of these comments on girls self esteem at this delicate age. It absolutely does affect her forever. She does not need to learn resilience, her father needs to learn to shut the f*** up if he can't say anything nice. Insulting his daughter with this language is beyond inappropriate.

DP. Dad already said it. So him learning to shut the f*** up now (and I agree he should) doesn’t change anything. So actually yes, the daughter absolutely DOES need to learn resilience because that is ultimately what will help her self esteem.

It’s bizarre how many of you are acting as though one hurtful comment will absolutely ruin a girl forever, and apparently you’re teaching this attitude to your daughters.

I'm sure you'll just mansplain away anyways, but if you'd read the thread you'd see many instances of this happening. A negative comment about a girls appearance can stay with her forever, and can tarnish the relationship with that person forever. This hasn't been your experience because you're a dude, but if you cared to learn (I'm sure you don't), it's all written here in black and white for you to read.

Why on Earth would you assume I’m a man?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That is horrible. She'll never get over it.

This. You need to have a come to Jesus with your husband. I wouldn’t blame your daughter for never speaking to her dad again. What he said was waaay out of line. If my husband had said that to ME, our relationship would be over. If he said it to one of my daughters, I would seriously contemplate divorce. It’s unacceptable.

I completely agree with this poster. What if any of our husbands said that to us? What would our reaction be? Would you want to wake up next to that man every day? I wouldn't. And to those of you who are saying it's not that big of a deal, congratulations on either being the most confident, resilient human being on earth or just a liar. What if your boss said that? This is her dad, someone who is supposed to love unconditionally. I would be done unless he got serious help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People here are being very dramatic.

Yes that is a terrible thing to say, and I would be questioning my marriage, but to say your daughter is forever ruined by it is over the top. She is not destined for an eating disorder or a lifetime of therapy because of a hurtful comment. Teach your teens some resilience. You have to be able to move on from hurtful words- even from those you are closest to. One comment from Dad doesn’t define her unless she lets it.

Are you a dude? "Hurtful comment"? You do not seem to understand the magnitude of these comments on girls self esteem at this delicate age. It absolutely does affect her forever. She does not need to learn resilience, her father needs to learn to shut the f*** up if he can't say anything nice. Insulting his daughter with this language is beyond inappropriate.

DP. Dad already said it. So him learning to shut the f*** up now (and I agree he should) doesn’t change anything. So actually yes, the daughter absolutely DOES need to learn resilience because that is ultimately what will help her self esteem.

It’s bizarre how many of you are acting as though one hurtful comment will absolutely ruin a girl forever, and apparently you’re teaching this attitude to your daughters.

I'm sure you'll just mansplain away anyways, but if you'd read the thread you'd see many instances of this happening. A negative comment about a girls appearance can stay with her forever, and can tarnish the relationship with that person forever. This hasn't been your experience because you're a dude, but if you cared to learn (I'm sure you don't), it's all written here in black and white for you to read.

Why on Earth would you assume I’m a man?

Denying it? Or just wondering how we know?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People here are being very dramatic.

Yes that is a terrible thing to say, and I would be questioning my marriage, but to say your daughter is forever ruined by it is over the top. She is not destined for an eating disorder or a lifetime of therapy because of a hurtful comment. Teach your teens some resilience. You have to be able to move on from hurtful words- even from those you are closest to. One comment from Dad doesn’t define her unless she lets it.

Are you a dude? "Hurtful comment"? You do not seem to understand the magnitude of these comments on girls self esteem at this delicate age. It absolutely does affect her forever. She does not need to learn resilience, her father needs to learn to shut the f*** up if he can't say anything nice. Insulting his daughter with this language is beyond inappropriate.

DP. Dad already said it. So him learning to shut the f*** up now (and I agree he should) doesn’t change anything. So actually yes, the daughter absolutely DOES need to learn resilience because that is ultimately what will help her self esteem.

It’s bizarre how many of you are acting as though one hurtful comment will absolutely ruin a girl forever, and apparently you’re teaching this attitude to your daughters.

I'm sure you'll just mansplain away anyways, but if you'd read the thread you'd see many instances of this happening. A negative comment about a girls appearance can stay with her forever, and can tarnish the relationship with that person forever. This hasn't been your experience because you're a dude, but if you cared to learn (I'm sure you don't), it's all written here in black and white for you to read.

Why on Earth would you assume I’m a man?

Denying it? Or just wondering how we know?

Wondering why you think you know.

[Anonymous]

Troll thread needs to die.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People here are being very dramatic.

Yes that is a terrible thing to say, and I would be questioning my marriage, but to say your daughter is forever ruined by it is over the top. She is not destined for an eating disorder or a lifetime of therapy because of a hurtful comment. Teach your teens some resilience. You have to be able to move on from hurtful words- even from those you are closest to. One comment from Dad doesn’t define her unless she lets it.

Are you a dude? "Hurtful comment"? You do not seem to understand the magnitude of these comments on girls self esteem at this delicate age. It absolutely does affect her forever. She does not need to learn resilience, her father needs to learn to shut the f*** up if he can't say anything nice. Insulting his daughter with this language is beyond inappropriate.

DP. Dad already said it. So him learning to shut the f*** up now (and I agree he should) doesn’t change anything. So actually yes, the daughter absolutely DOES need to learn resilience because that is ultimately what will help her self esteem.

It’s bizarre how many of you are acting as though one hurtful comment will absolutely ruin a girl forever, and apparently you’re teaching this attitude to your daughters.

I'm sure you'll just mansplain away anyways, but if you'd read the thread you'd see many instances of this happening. A negative comment about a girls appearance can stay with her forever, and can tarnish the relationship with that person forever. This hasn't been your experience because you're a dude, but if you cared to learn (I'm sure you don't), it's all written here in black and white for you to read.

Why on Earth would you assume I’m a man?

Denying it? Or just wondering how we know?

Wondering why you think you know.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Your DH is horrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Your DH is horrible.

Jeff has identified the author of thread to be a lying troll.

[Anonymous]

TROLL ALERT PEOPLE

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Your DH is horrible.

Jeff has identified the author of thread to be a lying troll.

This troll also made this post that Jeff mentioned:
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1203656.page

[Anonymous]

She will never forget this until her dying day. She’s forever changed and may even develop an eating disorder. They will also never have the same relationship again. She’s also going to be looking at you to see how you respond.