Why is DD being excluded?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the school is full of toxic bullies like the people on this thread.

Not sure why people are being so aggressive…..

I always find it interesting how many people come on these threads and automatically blame the kid being excluded and are outright insulting and rude to the OP.

Maybe it is not so strange that so many kids are being mean and ostracizing their peers. Their parents are these aggressively nasty PPs!

It's not that people are "blaming the kid being excluded."

It's more that we say, there is no need to blame ANYONE because nothing wrong was actually done.

Kids are not required to be friends with everyone. They are expected to be respectful and kind, but there is no obligation to be everyone's friend.

But when posters say something to that effect, its interpreted as "defending a bully" or "blaming the victim." And that's wrong. What we're trying to say is that there is no victim here at all.

Come on. No one is saying kids have to be friends with everyone. The whole point is that people come on here with cases where people are NOT being respectful and kind. Middle school in particular is full of purposeful exclusion. Kids can be quite manipulative and mean at that age. So you have a "victim" who is hurt and the kids doing the hurting are doing it on purpose. And then PPs DO come on here and intimate that if a kid is being excluded, it's their own fault.

Maybe, but I'm not sure that applies in this scenario. OP said herself that her DD doesn't even like the girls that are 'excluding her.' So its almost like she wants the invitation, even though she would decline?

Chicken or egg. Potayto potahto.
It doesn’t matter if OP’s kid is unliked, unlikable, both, or neither. The point is the school is a bad fit and the kid needs a fresh start.

If anyone is beating up on OP, I believe it’s because she has not answered why staying at this school is important. What has occurred up to this point that OP, her daughter, or both keep taking a chance on “on more year”.