Teen won't drink water in school unless I get her a Stanley Cup

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If an actual thirsty kid is bypassing a fountain in this extreme desire to fit in, she needs more help than a cup. I'd be more concerned with her mental health and don't really think buying this cup will fix it. Do you believe this is a simple problem with a simple solution? If so, you're naive.

Okay, you clearly haven't been a middle schooler in a very long time. Time has a way of warping all things, including memories...

No, just no. A kid who is struggling this bad has other problems. This isn't easily fixed by a Stanley.

+1 Go ahead and get her the cup if you can afford it. That it likely won’t move the needle much on her popularity might be the best lesson to come out of it.

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Anonymous wrote:If I have a goal (get kid to drink more water) and there is a $40 solution I'm going to take it. Parenting is hard enough, pick your battles.

This sounds like something an ancient grandmother would say along with expecting a teen to wear a thick warm coat and sensible shoes so she doesn't slip on the ice. The girl isn't even dehydrated. If anything people drink too much water.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

Do you forgo all fads? Nothing in your house to the contrary?

Are you still a teen? What kind of crap are you buyings to still fit in? And fit in with whom? That's the stupidest shit I've read all day. I'm glad my parents didn't buy me every thing I ever asked for as a kid. I'm better off for it. You learn that the world won't end if you don't get the newest shiny item and there will always be a new shiny in thing to have. Nobody can have everything.

Do the clothes you're currently buying help you fit in? What kind of car do you drive? Any rarely used exercise equipment? Something cool in the kitchen?

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First of all I don’t think water bottles in school is an urgent thing. I didn’t have it and I was fine. It’s a recent trend. The mom is insisting on it, if she really wants to encourage the daughter to do it then yes, get her the fancy water bottle. But don’t be surprised if she still doesn’t even use it that much, or loses it. There’s not a lot of time to go to the bathroom. She’s not dying of thirst. Just make sure she drinks a lot at home. In other countries there’s not this obsession with hydration like in the us. Those kids are just fine.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

No, I'm saying that you cannot state that bullying has made you a better person. There is no way to know that.

In fact, PP is saying that being bullied is an avenue for personal development. No wonder schools don't punish bullies. We're all better people for enduring it.

I'm the PP and I'm saying that HOW the bullying was handled was an avenue for personal development. That I was bullied was a bad thing, but there was no world where I wasn't bullied. No set of choices that would have made it so that I wasn't bullied. If my parents had gotten me the trendy thing of 1998, I'd just be a kid being bullied wearing Abercrombie instead of Walmart. Bullying isn't actually about clothes or water cups. It's about asserting social power and some of the kids with power are going to do that regardless of what the rest of us do. Appeasement isn't a winning strategy.

I didn't realize that at 14, but adults should.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

Do you forgo all fads? Nothing in your house to the contrary?

Are you still a teen? What kind of crap are you buyings to still fit in? And fit in with whom? That's the stupidest shit I've read all day. I'm glad my parents didn't buy me every thing I ever asked for as a kid. I'm better off for it. You learn that the world won't end if you don't get the newest shiny item and there will always be a new shiny in thing to have. Nobody can have everything.

Do the clothes you're currently buying help you fit in? What kind of car do you drive? Any rarely used exercise equipment? Something cool in the kitchen?

Negative on all of the above. Something cool in the kitchen? What are you even talking about? No, we are not all sad trend chasers.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

No, I'm saying that you cannot state that bullying has made you a better person. There is no way to know that.

In fact, PP is saying that being bullied is an avenue for personal development. No wonder schools don't punish bullies. We're all better people for enduring it.

I'm the PP and I'm saying that HOW the bullying was handled was an avenue for personal development. That I was bullied was a bad thing, but there was no world where I wasn't bullied. No set of choices that would have made it so that I wasn't bullied. If my parents had gotten me the trendy thing of 1998, I'd just be a kid being bullied wearing Abercrombie instead of Walmart. Bullying isn't actually about clothes or water cups. It's about asserting social power and some of the kids with power are going to do that regardless of what the rest of us do. Appeasement isn't a winning strategy.

I didn't realize that at 14, but adults should.

I think you are awesome.

And am annoyed and depressed by the never-ending display of arrested development from some of the PPs on here.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

Do you forgo all fads? Nothing in your house to the contrary?

Are you still a teen? What kind of crap are you buyings to still fit in? And fit in with whom? That's the stupidest shit I've read all day. I'm glad my parents didn't buy me every thing I ever asked for as a kid. I'm better off for it. You learn that the world won't end if you don't get the newest shiny item and there will always be a new shiny in thing to have. Nobody can have everything.

Agreed. We buy cars and appliances based on need following research etc.

I don't understand adult strivers. Grow up people.

Do the clothes you're currently buying help you fit in? What kind of car do you drive? Any rarely used exercise equipment? Something cool in the kitchen?

Negative on all of the above. Something cool in the kitchen? What are you even talking about? No, we are not all sad trend chasers.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

Do you forgo all fads? Nothing in your house to the contrary?

Are you still a teen? What kind of crap are you buyings to still fit in? And fit in with whom? That's the stupidest shit I've read all day. I'm glad my parents didn't buy me every thing I ever asked for as a kid. I'm better off for it. You learn that the world won't end if you don't get the newest shiny item and there will always be a new shiny in thing to have. Nobody can have everything.

Do the clothes you're currently buying help you fit in? What kind of car do you drive? Any rarely used exercise equipment? Something cool in the kitchen?

Negative on all of the above. Something cool in the kitchen? What are you even talking about? No, we are not all sad trend chasers.

Agreed. We buy cars and appliances based on need following research etc.

I don't understand adult strivers. Grow up people.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

Do you forgo all fads? Nothing in your house to the contrary?

Are you still a teen? What kind of crap are you buyings to still fit in? And fit in with whom? That's the stupidest shit I've read all day. I'm glad my parents didn't buy me every thing I ever asked for as a kid. I'm better off for it. You learn that the world won't end if you don't get the newest shiny item and there will always be a new shiny in thing to have. Nobody can have everything.

Do the clothes you're currently buying help you fit in? What kind of car do you drive? Any rarely used exercise equipment? Something cool in the kitchen?

Negative on all of the above. Something cool in the kitchen? What are you even talking about? No, we are not all sad trend chasers.

Agreed. We buy cars and appliances based on need following research etc.

I don't understand adult strivers. Grow up people.

That PP is revealing a lot about themselves with those assumptions. They have no clue how the rest of us live. I'm laughing thinking that someone thought i bought my toaster or electric kettle to "fit in" as if I even know what brands they were or thought people might be impressed. And does PP presume I have a Peloton? Another mistake. I run outside, no equipment necessary.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

Do you forgo all fads? Nothing in your house to the contrary?

Are you still a teen? What kind of crap are you buyings to still fit in? And fit in with whom? That's the stupidest shit I've read all day. I'm glad my parents didn't buy me every thing I ever asked for as a kid. I'm better off for it. You learn that the world won't end if you don't get the newest shiny item and there will always be a new shiny in thing to have. Nobody can have everything.

Do the clothes you're currently buying help you fit in? What kind of car do you drive? Any rarely used exercise equipment? Something cool in the kitchen?

Negative on all of the above. Something cool in the kitchen? What are you even talking about? No, we are not all sad trend chasers.

Agreed. We buy cars and appliances based on need following research etc.

I don't understand adult strivers. Grow up people.

That PP is revealing a lot about themselves with those assumptions. They have no clue how the rest of us live. I'm laughing thinking that someone thought i bought my toaster or electric kettle to "fit in" as if I even know what brands they were or thought people might be impressed. And does PP presume I have a Peloton? Another mistake. I run outside, no equipment necessary.

The rest of us? What are you talking about? We all wear clothes that help us fit in to our personal circumstances to some degree. Unless you're just wearing sweat pants all that time I guess, but even that's a trend of sorts...

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There is middle ground between "buy every trend" and "never give in to trends" I occasionally buy trendy things and sometimes I buy no name stuff. I think most people are like that. Maybe buy the Stanley and see where it leads, you can always have a conversation if you feel like it's getting out of hand.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

Do you forgo all fads? Nothing in your house to the contrary?

Are you still a teen? What kind of crap are you buyings to still fit in? And fit in with whom? That's the stupidest shit I've read all day. I'm glad my parents didn't buy me every thing I ever asked for as a kid. I'm better off for it. You learn that the world won't end if you don't get the newest shiny item and there will always be a new shiny in thing to have. Nobody can have everything.

Do the clothes you're currently buying help you fit in? What kind of car do you drive? Any rarely used exercise equipment? Something cool in the kitchen?

Negative on all of the above. Something cool in the kitchen? What are you even talking about? No, we are not all sad trend chasers.

Agreed. We buy cars and appliances based on need following research etc.

I don't understand adult strivers. Grow up people.

That PP is revealing a lot about themselves with those assumptions. They have no clue how the rest of us live. I'm laughing thinking that someone thought i bought my toaster or electric kettle to "fit in" as if I even know what brands they were or thought people might be impressed. And does PP presume I have a Peloton? Another mistake. I run outside, no equipment necessary.

The rest of us? What are you talking about? We all wear clothes that help us fit in to our personal circumstances to some degree. Unless you're just wearing sweat pants all that time I guess, but even that's a trend of sorts...

No we don't all desperate need to "fit in". It's not about being stylish or on trend is just about wearing appropriate clothes for the situation. There are work clothes, exercise clothes, casual clothes, etc. Your talk about fitting it is not going to be relatable to every adult. But, I can see you will never understand that.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

Do you forgo all fads? Nothing in your house to the contrary?

Are you still a teen? What kind of crap are you buyings to still fit in? And fit in with whom? That's the stupidest shit I've read all day. I'm glad my parents didn't buy me every thing I ever asked for as a kid. I'm better off for it. You learn that the world won't end if you don't get the newest shiny item and there will always be a new shiny in thing to have. Nobody can have everything.

Do the clothes you're currently buying help you fit in? What kind of car do you drive? Any rarely used exercise equipment? Something cool in the kitchen?

Negative on all of the above. Something cool in the kitchen? What are you even talking about? No, we are not all sad trend chasers.

Agreed. We buy cars and appliances based on need following research etc.

I don't understand adult strivers. Grow up people.

That PP is revealing a lot about themselves with those assumptions. They have no clue how the rest of us live. I'm laughing thinking that someone thought i bought my toaster or electric kettle to "fit in" as if I even know what brands they were or thought people might be impressed. And does PP presume I have a Peloton? Another mistake. I run outside, no equipment necessary.

The rest of us? What are you talking about? We all wear clothes that help us fit in to our personal circumstances to some degree. Unless you're just wearing sweat pants all that time I guess, but even that's a trend of sorts...

No we don't all desperate need to "fit in". It's not about being stylish or on trend is just about wearing appropriate clothes for the situation. There are work clothes, exercise clothes, casual clothes, etc. Your talk about fitting it is not going to be relatable to every adult. But, I can see you will never understand that.

Understood, as expected you do buy a variety of clothes to fit into different scenarios. Thanks for that clarification.

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I’m also a parent to a McPS middle schooler so I’ll comment even though I didn’t read the whole thread. I got one for mine as a Christmas present, as that’s the time for splurges but I also like the idea of giving her some chores to earn money for it. They are actually well made functional water bottles so I appreciate this trend a lot more than some of the other ones — like wearing impractical clothes to school or some trends that are affirmatively harmful. This seems like an easy way to be trendy because it’s a useful, healthy product.