Teen won't drink water in school unless I get her a Stanley Cup

[Anonymous]

Kind of dramatic, but it’s a water bottle. If it’s too much money for you, I would offer to meet her halfway on the price. BTW, The cheapest Stanley bottle on Amazon is $25.

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[Anonymous]

Isn't she saving some part of her allowance?

[Anonymous]

What did she drink from before the Stanley craze?
The Owala water bottle is still cool at our private MS in moco luckily.

[Anonymous]

Let her earn the money somehow if she really wants it. My middle schooler doesn’t have an expensive water bottle. She loses too many. None of us carried water bottles to school in the 90s, ever. Somehow we made it through the school day. I don’t care if my kids don’t take them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let her earn the money somehow if she really wants it. My middle schooler doesn’t have an expensive water bottle. She loses too many. None of us carried water bottles to school in the 90s, ever. Somehow we made it through the school day. I don’t care if my kids don’t take them.

When I was a kid there were water fountains in school, and most of us drank from them every day and had a drink (mine was koolaid in a thermos) in our lunch box or bought milk.

Now the water fountains are replaced with filling stations, and the thermoses are replaced with water bottles.

[Anonymous]

Why can’t she use the water fountain at school if her water bottle is not cool? I get wanting to fit in but right now it’s the Stanley cup, it will be something else later.

[Anonymous]

Oh please …. First world problems. Get her a hydroflask! They are cheap now.

Tell her to do some chores or yard work. Run errands. Earn it. Get off the device!

Stop telling her to drink from the water fountain at school. Some schools have lead in their water.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she use the water fountain at school if her water bottle is not cool? I get wanting to fit in but right now it’s the Stanley cup, it will be something else later.

Neither of my kids’ schools have water fountains any more.

I am not saying she needs a Stanley, just answering the question of why she likely can’t use the water fountain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being a first generation immigrant, i just don't get it. 8th grade DD goes all day without drinking water even though her dermatologist and her doctor told her she needed to. She said any other water bottles aside from a Stanley Cup is "trashy" and she would be judged by "people in the hallway". She would rather go for 7 hours without a drop of liquid and it's clearly taking a toll on her skin and overall health. Her close friends are kind although all of them have the "right" sneakers and "right" water bottles. She's in a MoCo public school, which has both FARMS kids and kids from relatively affluent families, I was really hoping to raise a confident daughter who's not too worried about how shes' being perceived by others when it comes to material processions. Am I sending the wrong message by giving in?

It’s silly. In my day it was Jordache jeans and Vuarnet sunglasses and there wasn’t even a TikTok to make that shit popular.

It’s especially hilarious that someone decided some liquid container carried by working class men to job sites for a century should be the “it” hydroflask.

But in 8th grade she just desperately wants to conform and fit in. There’s no harm really indulging it.

[Anonymous]

Let her buy it and then afterwards make fun of your kid for falling into trendy purchases of items marked up over 10x why they should cost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let her earn the money somehow if she really wants it. My middle schooler doesn’t have an expensive water bottle. She loses too many. None of us carried water bottles to school in the 90s, ever. Somehow we made it through the school day. I don’t care if my kids don’t take them.

When I was a kid there were water fountains in school, and most of us drank from them every day and had a drink (mine was koolaid in a thermos) in our lunch box or bought milk.

Now the water fountains are replaced with filling stations, and the thermoses are replaced with water bottles.

I posted that and am a teacher. There are regular water foundations in my school and in both of my kid’s schools. The filling stations have a regular water fountain on it too. I have no idea the brand but they all look like these. https://www.pittsburghwatercooler.com/Water-Bottle-Filling-Stations-for-Schools_c_281.html OP- what is the water fountain situation at your daughter’s school?

[Anonymous]

A bunch of these posts are even meaner than MS girls!

You don't need to shame or ridicule your daughter over not wanting to get teased at school. Of course the hyper fixation of brands that teens have is ridiculous, but it's nothing new. You don't have to break the bank for a Stanley or fight with other crazed consumers for the limited edition colors. Seems like a simple enough purchase to help your daughter out at a really difficult age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She might feel a little different already because her family is new to America. I would get it even though it’s stupid looking. She’ll probably relax more once she feels like she fits in.

Eh, I don't think that's it. Tons of kids in MCPS are first or second gen immigrants, and a lot of the schools are super culturally diverse. Being exposed to so many cultures was probably the best part of my MCPS education. It's TikTok. That's where all of her peers are getting their value systems from, and it's rubbing off on this kid. OP maybe you could talk to your daughter about the multi billion dollar influencer industry, and ask her if that's what she wants to be led by. You could read a couple articles about it together, and ask what she thinks.

Were the immigrant kid? I don’t know why you think you can say what OP’s kid is feeling based on what you wrote?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let her earn the money somehow if she really wants it. My middle schooler doesn’t have an expensive water bottle. She loses too many. None of us carried water bottles to school in the 90s, ever. Somehow we made it through the school day. I don’t care if my kids don’t take them.

When I was a kid there were water fountains in school, and most of us drank from them every day and had a drink (mine was koolaid in a thermos) in our lunch box or bought milk.

Now the water fountains are replaced with filling stations, and the thermoses are replaced with water bottles.

I posted that and am a teacher. There are regular water foundations in my school and in both of my kid’s schools. The filling stations have a regular water fountain on it too. I have no idea the brand but they all look like these. https://www.pittsburghwatercooler.com/Water-Bottle-Filling-Stations-for-Schools_c_281.html OP- what is the water fountain situation at your daughter’s school?

My kids’ schools have those but the drinking part has been turned off since the pandemic.

Same with the college where I sometimes work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let her dehydrate. She sounds like a silly insecure fool,

Rude. If you were a kid new to a country you would want to assimilate. It’s normal. Hopefully by high school she’ll get better quality friends.

It’s the truth. Tons of kids do not have a stupid Stanley Cup and they’re just fine. There are water fountains and many kids have other cup brands.