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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is wrong with you people?  Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP?  She’s not asking for a car.  I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value.  My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi.  Now that jerk likes the same things.   [/quote]

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.[/quote]

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?[/quote]

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

[b]I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that.[/b] I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.[/quote]
Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?[/quote]

DP.  WTF?  Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers.  I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important.  This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.  [/quote]
No, I'm saying that you cannot state that bullying has made you a better person. There is no way to know that. [/quote]

In fact, PP is saying that being bullied is an avenue for personal development. No wonder schools don't punish bullies. We're all better people for enduring it.[/quote]

I'm the PP and I'm saying that HOW the bullying was handled was an avenue for personal development. That I was bullied was a bad thing, but there was no world where I wasn't bullied. No set of choices that would have made it so that I wasn't bullied. If my parents had gotten me the trendy thing of 1998, I'd just be a kid being bullied wearing Abercrombie instead of Walmart. Bullying isn't actually about clothes or water cups. It's about asserting social power and some of the kids with power are going to do that regardless of what the rest of us do. Appeasement isn't a winning strategy.

I didn't realize that at 14, but adults should.[/quote]

I think you are awesome.

And am annoyed and depressed by the never-ending display of arrested development from some of the PPs on here.[/quote]

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