Teen won't drink water in school unless I get her a Stanley Cup

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Anonymous wrote:Question for those parents whose kids are really wrapped up in brand name stuff: when did it start, and was it sudden? I never ever cared about brand names/“cool” stuff, and so far my kids don’t either (oldest is 14). So I’m wondering what to expect/when.
I assume that parents aren’t raising their kids to think this stuff matters, so is it all social media?

Middle school, it’s mostly girls that care, not all care as much, my DD does, she’s super into fashion and trends and is very, very observant so she really notices what other people are wearing etc…her friends are probably less interested in this stuff than she is so it’s not peer pressure exactly although as theyve gotten into HS the friends are more interested in brands.

I actually just caved in on the Stanley water bottle so this thread caught my attention. We are in an affluent area (we are definitely not the most affluent in that area) and recognizing that I am fine with providing some of these items. For example, Lululemon is a very big thing. It’s crazy expensive and DD definitely doesn’t get as much as she wants but I get that it’s so common she would feel weird if she didn’t have any of the items.

DD would like to get a job and we actually don’t want her to also which relates to my decision to pay for some things. She’s busy with school and extracurriculars and we don’t want a job to take the focus off school.

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Anonymous wrote:Her skin and health are not suffering going 8 hours without drinking water. If she's thirsty, she'll drink. Frankly she probably IS drinking and is just manipulating you so you'll buy her the Stanley.

I wondered what was going on with OP's daughter since a dermatologist weighed in. Not sure that the vast majority of us are in that situation.

Some medications that the dermatologist prescribes to clear up skin eruptions also requires that the person drink water throughout the day to flush them from the kidneys/liver.

Do you really believe a bratty spoiled teen would ignore her own thirst before she drank from a trashy bottle? Don’t be dense. This is a poor bargaining tactic by a kid used to getting her way.

I absolutely believe this.

Your kid must run circles around you.

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Give her some extra chores and work around the house and she can earn the money to buy one. Easy peasy. I’m writing this as a grown adult currently drinking out of a Stanley. It is a nice water bottle! So what if it’s a trend item and next year the kids all want something else. She can do more chores and earn more money to get the next thing then or get it as a birthday or Christmas present.

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LOL I don't think I had heard of a water bottle until grad school. Unless you are sweating a ton, I just don't think humans evolved to need two big gulps worth of water a day. And I say this as someone who does hot yoga regularly and hydrates accordingly.

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Anonymous wrote:Being a first generation immigrant, i just don't get it. 8th grade DD goes all day without drinking water even though her dermatologist and her doctor told her she needed to. She said any other water bottles aside from a Stanley Cup is "trashy" and she would be judged by "people in the hallway". She would rather go for 7 hours without a drop of liquid and it's clearly taking a toll on her skin and overall health. Her close friends are kind although all of them have the "right" sneakers and "right" water bottles. She's in a MoCo public school, which has both FARMS kids and kids from relatively affluent families, I was really hoping to raise a confident daughter who's not too worried about how shes' being perceived by others when it comes to material processions. Am I sending the wrong message by giving in?

Get her the stupid cup and trendy shoes but tell her how deeply disappointed you are in her

Also take her back to the old country this summer and show her what real poverty is like

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Anonymous wrote:Who cares?!!

In the 70s and 80s none of us drank water in school.

People didn’t carry around personal water bottles.

We were healthier and skinnier back then too.

In the 70’s and ‘80s we drank from the water fountains— since they hadn’t tested them for lead yet. We had an open campus, so we could leave during lunch and other free periods to get water or slurped or whatever we liked.

We were skinnier back then. Less exposure to plastics and much more smoking. My HS had designated smoking areas for the students.

So: no smoking, no leaving school grounds for lunch, and lead pipes. I’m fine with the personal water bottles.

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Anonymous wrote:Who cares?!!

In the 70s and 80s none of us drank water in school.

People didn’t carry around personal water bottles.

We were healthier and skinnier back then too.

In the 70’s and ‘80s we drank from the water fountains— since they hadn’t tested them for lead yet. We had an open campus, so we could leave during lunch and other free periods to get water or slurped or whatever we liked.

We were skinnier back then. Less exposure to plastics and much more smoking. My HS had designated smoking areas for the students.

So: no smoking, no leaving school grounds for lunch, and lead pipes. I’m fine with the personal water bottles.

Yup! My hs had a smoking area for students too. We also had a hepatitis outbreak from water fountain use. My kids have water bottles and the older one has a Stanley cup. I've had a Stanley thermos I use at work for over 20 years so I was fine buying the cup for my kid.

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Anonymous wrote:There’s no need to constantly be guzzling water throughout the day. She’ll be fine.

This! We survived the 80s, 90s and even early 2000s without carrying water everywhere we went.

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ridiculous nonsense. Just let her get thirsty. I wouldn't get a stupid cup over that.

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Oh well. Too bad. No cup.

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Anonymous wrote:ridiculous nonsense. Just let her get thirsty. I wouldn't get a stupid cup over that.

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Anonymous wrote:Who cares?!!

In the 70s and 80s none of us drank water in school.

People didn’t carry around personal water bottles.

We were healthier and skinnier back then too.

News today says the Stanley’s have lead in them.

Fake news. All mainstream metal water bottles have lead in them. It meets the industry standard and its not the part you drink from. Do more research instead of believing every clickbait headline you see.

HA. Maybe not be a brand whore.

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Can you just make it a gift for an occasion? Or lend her the money subject to her working it off doing chores? Can she earn it with grades or in some other way? There are ways to cave without completely caving.

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For all Stanley fans

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L2tUO2mp99Q

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Hope you haven’t given in yet, OP.

The newest TikTok videos are about “influencers” throwing their Stanley’s into the trash, due to lead concerns. Lead is used in the manufacturing process of Stanley’s. Article in WaPo.