Teen won't drink water in school unless I get her a Stanley Cup

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You created a monster.

Let her dehydrate or she can get a job to pay for it.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If an actual thirsty kid is bypassing a fountain in this extreme desire to fit in, she needs more help than a cup. I'd be more concerned with her mental health and don't really think buying this cup will fix it. Do you believe this is a simple problem with a simple solution? If so, you're naive.

Okay, you clearly haven't been a middle schooler in a very long time. Time has a way of warping all things, including memories...

No, just no. A kid who is struggling this bad has other problems. This isn't easily fixed by a Stanley.

+1. And I have had recent middle school children. You need to teach them not give into this type of nonsense.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

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Anonymous wrote:She might feel a little different already because her family is new to America. I would get it even though it’s stupid looking. She’ll probably relax more once she feels like she fits in.

Eh, I don't think that's it. Tons of kids in MCPS are first or second gen immigrants, and a lot of the schools are super culturally diverse. Being exposed to so many cultures was probably the best part of my MCPS education. It's TikTok. That's where all of her peers are getting their value systems from, and it's rubbing off on this kid. OP maybe you could talk to your daughter about the multi billion dollar influencer industry, and ask her if that's what she wants to be led by. You could read a couple articles about it together, and ask what she thinks.

yes and while yo are doing research, especially about water bottles she'll find out about hydroflask and how the new "in" bottle is that ohwalla (sp) one and is she willing to spend $40 on a 'trendy' water bottle every 6 months or would she rather pick something else to fit in. give her a budget maybe?

I was wealthy but 2nd gen and my cousins and friends whose parents had to struggle more to provide always had the best shoes and that was super important to them. I think if she is clueless, maybe remind her how many hours you have to work to earn $40 but if you are well off already, just get it for her if she still wants it after all that. My parents were the same way, and were like, we are paying for you to go to private school, we have Mercedes and a nice house in a good area, trends are stupid, brands are dumb attitude but saving up my generous allowance to have the same thing as everyone else felt so good. Even when you are 2nd gen, sometimes, it just feels like one little bit of weight lifted to have the same thing as everyone else. I dont live in MOCO anymore and there is no scarcity of these things where I am- I feel like I should volunteer to buy them for a normal price and ship them to ppl in the Washington area!

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Anonymous wrote:I'll start by saying my (male) middle schooler doesn't bring a water bottle because "they always leak" no matter what kind me try (probably BS) He drinks occasionally from the drinking fountain and seems to be fine.

I agree with posters who say this is an easy way to make her feel like she fits in. Valentine's Day is a great occasion to show that you see her wants and love her and give the gift.

I bought my kid some really ugly shoes he wanted, it was an easy way to show that I trust his judgement and things that are important to him are important to me.

There are better ways to show your children you love them and trust them than giving in to the inevitable BS of middle school fads. The stuff of middle school fads is always overpriced and stupid. You aren't teaching what you think you are.

Do better.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

Do you forgo all fads? Nothing in your house to the contrary?

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

No, I'm saying that you cannot state that bullying has made you a better person. There is no way to know that.

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Anonymous wrote:I'll start by saying my (male) middle schooler doesn't bring a water bottle because "they always leak" no matter what kind me try (probably BS) He drinks occasionally from the drinking fountain and seems to be fine.

I agree with posters who say this is an easy way to make her feel like she fits in. Valentine's Day is a great occasion to show that you see her wants and love her and give the gift.

I bought my kid some really ugly shoes he wanted, it was an easy way to show that I trust his judgement and things that are important to him are important to me.

There are better ways to show your children you love them and trust them than giving in to the inevitable BS of middle school fads. The stuff of middle school fads is always overpriced and stupid. You aren't teaching what you think you are.

Do better.

How to do better exactly? Since you have it all figured out, we'd probably all benefit from you continuing your judgmental lecture.

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she use the water fountain at school if her water bottle is not cool? I get wanting to fit in but right now it’s the Stanley cup, it will be something else later.

Neither of my kids’ schools have water fountains any more.

I am not saying she needs a Stanley, just answering the question of why she likely can’t use the water fountain.

Drinking fountains and/filling stations are required by law, one per 100 students and at least one each level

Yeah, now imagine all 100 of those students trying to get some sips of water and get to class on time during their 5 minute passing period.

Never been a problem. Kids take a sip and move on. Many take no sips at all. All 100 kids are not trying to all use the fountain in the same 4 min passing time. Did you never attend school? None of us carried water bottles daily. We all used the water fountain intermittently, which was maybe once per day, or not even daily.

+1 No one needs a Stanley cup.

Of course nobody needs a Stanley. But many tween and tenn girls want one. What s the big freaking deal? It's $45, not $400!

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

No, I'm saying that you cannot state that bullying has made you a better person. There is no way to know that.

In fact, PP is saying that being bullied is an avenue for personal development. No wonder schools don't punish bullies. We're all better people for enduring it.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

Do you forgo all fads? Nothing in your house to the contrary?

Are you still a teen? What kind of crap are you buyings to still fit in? And fit in with whom? That's the stupidest shit I've read all day. I'm glad my parents didn't buy me every thing I ever asked for as a kid. I'm better off for it. You learn that the world won't end if you don't get the newest shiny item and there will always be a new shiny in thing to have. Nobody can have everything.

[Anonymous]

If I have a goal (get kid to drink more water) and there is a $40 solution I'm going to take it. Parenting is hard enough, pick your battles.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

Who's to say you wouldn't have been an even better person if you hadn't been bullied at all?

DP. WTF? Are you blaming a person for being bullied because they didn't waste money on clothes to please a bunch of immature middle schoolers. I just can't with people who think that kind of stuff is okay.

Any decent parent should not buy in to this nonsense and should not teach their child that following fads is important. This is why their are so many selfish, shallow, mean people in the world.

No, I'm saying that you cannot state that bullying has made you a better person. There is no way to know that.

In fact, PP is saying that being bullied is an avenue for personal development. No wonder schools don't punish bullies. We're all better people for enduring it.

Reward the bullies! Buy them Stanleys

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she use the water fountain at school if her water bottle is not cool? I get wanting to fit in but right now it’s the Stanley cup, it will be something else later.

Neither of my kids’ schools have water fountains any more.

I am not saying she needs a Stanley, just answering the question of why she likely can’t use the water fountain.

Drinking fountains and/filling stations are required by law, one per 100 students and at least one each level

Yeah, now imagine all 100 of those students trying to get some sips of water and get to class on time during their 5 minute passing period.

Never been a problem. Kids take a sip and move on. Many take no sips at all. All 100 kids are not trying to all use the fountain in the same 4 min passing time. Did you never attend school? None of us carried water bottles daily. We all used the water fountain intermittently, which was maybe once per day, or not even daily.

+1 No one needs a Stanley cup.

Of course nobody needs a Stanley. But many tween and tenn girls want one. What s the big freaking deal? It's $45, not $400!

Maybe OP can set up a GoFundMe and you can donate the $45. What's the big deal?