Why is there such disdain for stay at home parents?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t disdain SAHP but I do feel like they should recognize they have it pretty cushy. Most working moms do everything a SAHM does plus work. So I inwardly roll my eyes when my SAHM friends complain about being so busy or so tired. It’s not distain but it’s not a flattering thought/feeling!

Yes, you probably work like a dog and do double duty. Your life is very hard.

No, you do not spend as much time with your kid as a sahm does. You come home and clean the house, cook food etc and your kid does not get time with you. sahm's kid is coming home to a clean house, cooked food, and a mom who had time for them.

Don't be a jerk just because that poster was. My kids are at school from 7:30-4 (the bus leave at 7:30 and drops them back off at 4). That's when I work. We have cleaners, so I don't clean the house. My husband and I both cook, as do our kids. I spend just as much time with my children as a SAHM with kids in elementary school would. You are a nasty person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a working mom, live in the DMV, have a graduate degree. I had a successful 15 year career before having kids.

Most careers are not important. Kids are always important. I do envy some SAHMs because if you have the right resources and support, I think focusing 100% on family and kids could be incredibly fulfilling.

I don't understand the attitude that what SAHPs do is easy or unimportant. My work has the aura of importance because it involves large sums of money and people with impressive degrees and pedigrees. But I know that in the grand scheme of things, raising children is much more important.

+100. All you people saying how important your career is, please don’t kid yourself into thinking that what you are doing is irreplaceable. Raising kids is single handedly the most important contribution you will make in your life. I stayed home for 11 years and recently started working full time from home because I wanted to have a more meaningful life. Now I realize the most meaningful thing I will ever do is to raise my kids into healthy, well adjusted individuals who can contribute positively to society.

Which you can do while working.

Not everyone can do it well while working full time. (And I am a working parent who stayed home for a few years).

I have always worked full-time. If you can't figure out how to, and I quote, "raise kids into healthy, well adjusted individuals who can contribute positively to society" while also working, then you shouldn't have had kids or you should quit your job.