Do you ever regret not marrying for the "lifestyle"?

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Anonymous wrote:The trick is to marry someone you love who you know has potential. I didn't know this at the time, but in retrospect, I can see now that you have to snag such a man in college or your very young twenties when you are still at the height of your youth/beauty. Pick a guy who has great earning potential (> 500k) and who you could also love.

The trick is to be the person with potential so that you are free to love who you wish

Those aren’t mutually exclusive.

Yes, they usually are since rich guys can never be with anyone smarter or better than them.

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Anonymous wrote:The trick is to marry someone you love who you know has potential. I didn't know this at the time, but in retrospect, I can see now that you have to snag such a man in college or your very young twenties when you are still at the height of your youth/beauty. Pick a guy who has great earning potential (> 500k) and who you could also love.

The trick is to be the person with potential so that you are free to love who you wish

Those aren’t mutually exclusive.

Yes, they usually are since rich guys can never be with anyone smarter or better than them.

Unproven generalization.

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Anonymous wrote:The trick is to marry someone you love who you know has potential. I didn't know this at the time, but in retrospect, I can see now that you have to snag such a man in college or your very young twenties when you are still at the height of your youth/beauty. Pick a guy who has great earning potential (> 500k) and who you could also love.

The trick is to be the person with potential so that you are free to love who you wish

+ a million. This thread is so pathetically retro.

This is 100% the best advice. Be the person with potential

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Yes, yes, I do. Thanks for reminding me.

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Anonymous wrote:The trick is to marry someone you love who you know has potential. I didn't know this at the time, but in retrospect, I can see now that you have to snag such a man in college or your very young twenties when you are still at the height of your youth/beauty. Pick a guy who has great earning potential (> 500k) and who you could also love.

Yes, the hot nice guys with potential always seem to be born with a girlfriend. So annoying.

Because smart girls lock them down early.

I don’t know how “smart” they are if they base their whole lives and future on some young guy instead of working on their own potential.

It’s smart to have a smart partner locked down early in life. They have a rich, loving and resourceful partner to build their future with while their dumb friends party away their looks and wind up alone.

And they are usually one-dimensional, uninteresting and lacking in substance as a result of their lives being 100% based on the whims of another human being and never building or achieving anything on their own or for themselves. And, after all of that, they often “wind up alone” too.

Sorry, haters, but career women aren't "more interesting" than SAHMs.

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Anonymous wrote:The trick is to marry someone you love who you know has potential. I didn't know this at the time, but in retrospect, I can see now that you have to snag such a man in college or your very young twenties when you are still at the height of your youth/beauty. Pick a guy who has great earning potential (> 500k) and who you could also love.

Yes, the hot nice guys with potential always seem to be born with a girlfriend. So annoying.

Because smart girls lock them down early.

I don’t know how “smart” they are if they base their whole lives and future on some young guy instead of working on their own potential.

It’s smart to have a smart partner locked down early in life. They have a rich, loving and resourceful partner to build their future with while their dumb friends party away their looks and wind up alone.

And they are usually one-dimensional, uninteresting and lacking in substance as a result of their lives being 100% based on the whims of another human being and never building or achieving anything on their own or for themselves. And, after all of that, they often “wind up alone” too.

Sorry, haters, but career women aren't "more interesting" than SAHMs.

It depends what you find interesting. I haven’t found SAHD’s to be especially interesting either.

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Anonymous wrote:I think most people would prefer being wealthy, doesn't matter if its by inheritance, marriage, work, lottery or whatever. What they don't know is that wealth (after a certain basic standard) has little to do with having a content and happy life. If they got it, tgey'll be watching shing for something else.

This is NOT true for me. I used to feel much like the OP. I even complained about it on this board 5/6 years ago frequently because I was miserable. Then I started focusing seriously on my career, and now I earn more than I ever imagined, I have a house I love, a beautiful family, growing retirement savings, and I am straight up very happy.

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2022/08/downward-economic-mobility-boomer-generation-x-debt/671260/

written by a jewish american.

Yep, you're right and I agree with his overall argument but he neglects to mention a really critical component of his success--social capital. His father was extremely well connected and Larry King was like an uncle to him. But the breakdown of the American Dream isn't just a reflection in the rise of the costs of goods and services but also the breakdown of community and social connections. Lacking these connections, even on a less exalted scale as the author's, is a huge liability for the majority of humans.

So to get closer to what this thread was actually about, part of avoiding downward mobility in mate selection includes not only intellect and career prospects, but the willingness to integrate yourself and your family into communities that can help and provide social support along the way. Immigrants tend to have this. We live in such an individually minded society that this is easily forgotten.

This is very true

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you're not hot enough to marry a guy who makes that kind of money, so it was never going to happen and there's no point in regretting it.

Meh, I’ve noticed that a lot of rich guys, even hot ones, are married to plain women.

The common thing I’ve noticed if the women were plain were that they came from wealthy or hyper connected families.

Lot of plain looking daughters of politicians, judges etc have wealthy husbands who could do better

This. There are surprisingly few stunning wives in wealthier social circles.

This is very true.

My wife is stunning. She knows it but isn't a jerk about, she's very humble.

Educated, smart people like beauty too, but they aren’t drawn to the Kardashian or Real Housewives cartoonish and flashy look. We are wealthy and the women tend to be very fit, athletic, slim and have a natural pretty look. They don’t wear cartoonish false eyelashes have boob and butt implants, giant blowfish lips and heavy drag make up.

Many lie class people think these women are plain or not pretty because they like the trash look.

Nice try, but there are naturally beautiful women don’t look fake and are well above just “slim,” “fit,” and athletic, and the rich men still seem to choose to marry the plain ones.

I’ve noticed this true, and I think it’s because they believe these plain women will be lower maintenance, let them be the “star” in the relationship, and let them get away with more sh*t. This may or may not end up being true, but I believe it is the reason behind the trend you observe.

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Anonymous wrote:The trick is to marry someone you love who you know has potential. I didn't know this at the time, but in retrospect, I can see now that you have to snag such a man in college or your very young twenties when you are still at the height of your youth/beauty. Pick a guy who has great earning potential (> 500k) and who you could also love.

Yes, the hot nice guys with potential always seem to be born with a girlfriend. So annoying.

Because smart girls lock them down early.

I don’t know how “smart” they are if they base their whole lives and future on some young guy instead of working on their own potential.

It’s smart to have a smart partner locked down early in life. They have a rich, loving and resourceful partner to build their future with while their dumb friends party away their looks and wind up alone.

And they are usually one-dimensional, uninteresting and lacking in substance as a result of their lives being 100% based on the whims of another human being and never building or achieving anything on their own or for themselves. And, after all of that, they often “wind up alone” too.

Sorry, haters, but career women aren't "more interesting" than SAHMs.

Disagree. SAHMs are the most boring people on earth. I am a woman. My mom was a SAHM. She did nothing. Seriously. My dad cooked and cleaned and worked. She was a freeloader. And has nothing of interest to say. Can’t stand them.

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Anonymous wrote:The trick is to marry someone you love who you know has potential. I didn't know this at the time, but in retrospect, I can see now that you have to snag such a man in college or your very young twenties when you are still at the height of your youth/beauty. Pick a guy who has great earning potential (> 500k) and who you could also love.

The trick is to be the person with potential so that you are free to love who you wish

Those aren’t mutually exclusive.

Yes, they usually are since rich guys can never be with anyone smarter or better than them.

Unproven generalization.

I have never heard of a rich guy who wasn’t like this, but OK.

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Anonymous wrote:The trick is to marry someone you love who you know has potential. I didn't know this at the time, but in retrospect, I can see now that you have to snag such a man in college or your very young twenties when you are still at the height of your youth/beauty. Pick a guy who has great earning potential (> 500k) and who you could also love.

Yes, the hot nice guys with potential always seem to be born with a girlfriend. So annoying.

Because smart girls lock them down early.

I don’t know how “smart” they are if they base their whole lives and future on some young guy instead of working on their own potential.

It’s smart to have a smart partner locked down early in life. They have a rich, loving and resourceful partner to build their future with while their dumb friends party away their looks and wind up alone.

And they are usually one-dimensional, uninteresting and lacking in substance as a result of their lives being 100% based on the whims of another human being and never building or achieving anything on their own or for themselves. And, after all of that, they often “wind up alone” too.

Sorry, haters, but career women aren't "more interesting" than SAHMs.

Disagree. SAHMs are the most boring people on earth. I am a woman. My mom was a SAHM. She did nothing. Seriously. My dad cooked and cleaned and worked. She was a freeloader. And has nothing of interest to say. Can’t stand them.

I know many SAHMs who are extremely intelligent and have a lot to say. They can't talk about work like working moms can, but guess what, what working moms do is usually excruciatingly boring and people only pretend to be interested in it just to be polite.