Advice for Daughter Traveling with College BF

[Anonymous]

My daughter is a sophomore and has been dating a nice young man since her 2nd semester. This will be her fast time traveling with him. She will be meeting his family and joining them at their ski house. We are nervous about this since her boyfriend is from a far more affluent background than we are - we have met him once and he is very likeable so hopefully his family will be as well. Should she bring a hostess gift for the mother? Also should she assume that she will be covering her own lift tickets, meals, and what not ? Really wanting this trip to go well for her.

[Anonymous]

Oh, come on, this is fake. If she’s doing this to best you, she already knows what to do.

[Anonymous]

Assume she is paying for everything but I would think they will at least cover group meals - I highly doubt they would ask for money for that. I hope that if she does end up having to pay for things it isn't too much of a financial challenge.

I think most hostess gifts are pointless and stupid but many disagree with me so probably best to err on the side of caution and bring one. She should ask her boyfriend, though most likely he is clueless and doesn't know.

What is the sleeping arrangement?

[Anonymous]

She should definitely bring a hostess gift. It's a gesture, not a payment, so cost isn't important. A small box of good quality chocolates would be fine.

Teach your daughter to always have money to cover herself, and to get herself home. She should ask the boyfriend to give her an estimate of how much lift tickets, ski rentals, etc. cost so she can bring enough. That way he can either say $2,000 or no we're covering all that. Even if he says the latter she should still bring enough money for everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assume she is paying for everything but I would think they will at least cover group meals - I highly doubt they would ask for money for that. I hope that if she does end up having to pay for things it isn't too much of a financial challenge.

I think most hostess gifts are pointless and stupid but many disagree with me so probably best to err on the side of caution and bring one. She should ask her boyfriend, though most likely he is clueless and doesn't know.

What is the sleeping arrangement?

She will have her own bedroom. Both my husband and I and from what I know his parents are more comfortable with it being this way.

[Anonymous]

She should bring a hostess gift, a nice cookbook, chocolates, linen napkins, things like that. Her BF’s family will most likely pay for her lift tickets but it’s best not to assume and to offer to pay her own way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assume she is paying for everything but I would think they will at least cover group meals - I highly doubt they would ask for money for that. I hope that if she does end up having to pay for things it isn't too much of a financial challenge.

I think most hostess gifts are pointless and stupid but many disagree with me so probably best to err on the side of caution and bring one. She should ask her boyfriend, though most likely he is clueless and doesn't know.

What is the sleeping arrangement?

She will have her own bedroom. Both my husband and I and from what I know his parents are more comfortable with it being this way.

Even with her own bedroom, there could still be situations for the boy to try to pressure her into s*x during this trip! You need to have “the talk” with her ahead of time. Its especially important for her to understand things, including birth control, how to use it, and of course consent.

[Anonymous]

Second a nice box of high quality chocolate. She should be ready to pay for herself, but since she is an invited guest it should be covered by BF's family.

[Anonymous]

Pack a box of contraceptives. Accident happens

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assume she is paying for everything but I would think they will at least cover group meals - I highly doubt they would ask for money for that. I hope that if she does end up having to pay for things it isn't too much of a financial challenge.

I think most hostess gifts are pointless and stupid but many disagree with me so probably best to err on the side of caution and bring one. She should ask her boyfriend, though most likely he is clueless and doesn't know.

What is the sleeping arrangement?

She will have her own bedroom. Both my husband and I and from what I know his parents are more comfortable with it being this way.

Even with her own bedroom, there could still be situations for the boy to try to pressure her into s*x during this trip! You need to have “the talk” with her ahead of time. Its especially important for her to understand things, including birth control, how to use it, and of course consent.

OMG.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assume she is paying for everything but I would think they will at least cover group meals - I highly doubt they would ask for money for that. I hope that if she does end up having to pay for things it isn't too much of a financial challenge.

I think most hostess gifts are pointless and stupid but many disagree with me so probably best to err on the side of caution and bring one. She should ask her boyfriend, though most likely he is clueless and doesn't know.

What is the sleeping arrangement?

She will have her own bedroom. Both my husband and I and from what I know his parents are more comfortable with it being this way.

Even with her own bedroom, there could still be situations for the boy to try to pressure her into s*x during this trip! You need to have “the talk” with her ahead of time. Its especially important for her to understand things, including birth control, how to use it, and of course consent.

Umm… they are most likely already having sex if they’ve been together as long as stated in the OP and in college. They’re probably annoyed the parents are making them sleep apart and will sneak off in the middle of the night… but in any case, far too late for the the “talk”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assume she is paying for everything but I would think they will at least cover group meals - I highly doubt they would ask for money for that. I hope that if she does end up having to pay for things it isn't too much of a financial challenge.

I think most hostess gifts are pointless and stupid but many disagree with me so probably best to err on the side of caution and bring one. She should ask her boyfriend, though most likely he is clueless and doesn't know.

What is the sleeping arrangement?

She will have her own bedroom. Both my husband and I and from what I know his parents are more comfortable with it being this way.

Even with her own bedroom, there could still be situations for the boy to try to pressure her into s*x during this trip! You need to have “the talk” with her ahead of time. It's especially important for her to understand things, including birth control, how to use it, and of course consent.

What college sophomore doesn't know this stuff? If someone 19 still needs a how babies are made talk from their mother, then they are not mature enough to live away from home, let alone go on a trip with a boyfriend!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assume she is paying for everything but I would think they will at least cover group meals - I highly doubt they would ask for money for that. I hope that if she does end up having to pay for things it isn't too much of a financial challenge.

I think most hostess gifts are pointless and stupid but many disagree with me so probably best to err on the side of caution and bring one. She should ask her boyfriend, though most likely he is clueless and doesn't know.

What is the sleeping arrangement?

She will have her own bedroom. Both my husband and I and from what I know his parents are more comfortable with it being this way.

Even with her own bedroom, there could still be situations for the boy to try to pressure her into s*x during this trip! You need to have “the talk” with her ahead of time. It's especially important for her to understand things, including birth control, how to use it, and of course consent.

What college sophomore doesn't know this stuff? If someone 19 still needs a how babies are made talk from their mother, then they are not mature enough to live away from home, let alone go on a trip with a boyfriend!

+1
PP has got to be a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a sophomore and has been dating a nice young man since her 2nd semester. This will be her fast time traveling with him. She will be meeting his family and joining them at their ski house. We are nervous about this since her boyfriend is from a far more affluent background than we are - we have met him once and he is very likeable so hopefully his family will be as well. Should she bring a hostess gift for the mother? Also should she assume that she will be covering her own lift tickets, meals, and what not ? Really wanting this trip to go well for her.

Yes bring a hostess gift of some sort — something small like chocolate or good coffee, but don’t show up empty handed. Make sure she has enough cash to pay for herself but I’d bet they’re covering her….

[Anonymous]

Gift. She speaks plenty to any elders. She does all she can to be a contributing, helpful house guest.