Mommas, don't let your sons grow up to be assholes

[Anonymous]

Okay folks. I'm the OP. I totally get that people are fed up with the snow and being stuck inside with their family for a LONG time. I've been at work this week and seen a lot (I'm an ER nurse) from quite a few heart attacks to a mom who backed up over her child as she helped dig out the family car. Thankfully the child will be fine. And I'm not the only one wondering about why family members are not pulling their own weight (see other threads about hubbies not doing anything around the house). My neighbor came over last night after work and bitched for 2 hrs about her hubby not doing anything We had wine and chocolate and I listened. All of the men on my street work for the Feds so the moms are even more annoyed that their husbands aren't helping out since they are putting in a few hrs on the computer and then they are "done." People are free to call me names- princess (that's a good one , entitled, lazy, etc. I know that I am none of those things but if it makes you feel better- go ahead. It wouldn't matter if I waited for the snow plow to come along and then start shoveling since they will always dump the same snow from the street right in front of me. My 2 neighbors on the cul de sac live far enough away from me that the snow doesn't end up in front of their driveways. Just mine. The plow actually has to backup all the way up the street in order to get out. The 8 ft of snow in front of my driveway is inevitable. I tried selling my house about a year or 2 ago but nobody was interested. In my next life, I'd love a condo with underground parking My complaints about men were about specific men who made rude comments to me. I was not bashing all men. My late husband was a fantastic man. He would've never said things to me or anyone else that my neighbors said to me. It has been hard these past few yrs without him. I hope this is the last snow storm for a LONG LONG time. We will all make it through this. And please drive slowly and carefully out there. I've seen way too many car crashes the last few days in the ER.

[Anonymous]

The biggest lesson that I've learned as a single mother is that assertiveness is a requirement.

I would have died a real, slow death long ago if I operated with the assumption and silent hope that others would magically come to my rescue in a crises.


OP's venting sounds like sexist expectations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The biggest lesson that I've learned as a single mother is that assertiveness is a requirement.

I would have died a real, slow death long ago if I operated with the assumption and silent hope that others would magically come to my rescue in a crises.


OP's venting sounds like sexist expectations.

I agree.

A widow from another room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The biggest lesson that I've learned as a single mother is that assertiveness is a requirement.

I would have died a real, slow death long ago if I operated with the assumption and silent hope that others would magically come to my rescue in a crises.


OP's venting sounds like sexist expectations.

I agree.

A widow from another room.

Married woman here and i also agree. It would be nice if people just offered assistance but sometimes you just have to ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay folks. I'm the OP. I totally get that people are fed up with the snow and being stuck inside with their family for a LONG time. I've been at work this week and seen a lot (I'm an ER nurse) from quite a few heart attacks to a mom who backed up over her child as she helped dig out the family car. Thankfully the child will be fine. And I'm not the only one wondering about why family members are not pulling their own weight (see other threads about hubbies not doing anything around the house). My neighbor came over last night after work and bitched for 2 hrs about her hubby not doing anything We had wine and chocolate and I listened. All of the men on my street work for the Feds so the moms are even more annoyed that their husbands aren't helping out since they are putting in a few hrs on the computer and then they are "done." People are free to call me names- princess (that's a good one , entitled, lazy, etc. I know that I am none of those things but if it makes you feel better- go ahead. It wouldn't matter if I waited for the snow plow to come along and then start shoveling since they will always dump the same snow from the street right in front of me. My 2 neighbors on the cul de sac live far enough away from me that the snow doesn't end up in front of their driveways. Just mine. The plow actually has to backup all the way up the street in order to get out. The 8 ft of snow in front of my driveway is inevitable. I tried selling my house about a year or 2 ago but nobody was interested. In my next life, I'd love a condo with underground parking My complaints about men were about specific men who made rude comments to me. I was not bashing all men. My late husband was a fantastic man. He would've never said things to me or anyone else that my neighbors said to me. It has been hard these past few yrs without him. I hope this is the last snow storm for a LONG LONG time. We will all make it through this. And please drive slowly and carefully out there. I've seen way too many car crashes the last few days in the ER.

As an ER nurse you seem to have a lot of spare time on your hands (posting here on DCUM) given the high need for ER nurses during this snow emergency. Especially with all the extra heart attacks and overextended moms who accidentally run over their children because no one is helping them shelving. Hmmm, I wonder if other medical staff are also reading and posting on this forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay folks. I'm the OP. I totally get that people are fed up with the snow and being stuck inside with their family for a LONG time. I've been at work this week and seen a lot (I'm an ER nurse) from quite a few heart attacks to a mom who backed up over her child as she helped dig out the family car. Thankfully the child will be fine. And I'm not the only one wondering about why family members are not pulling their own weight (see other threads about hubbies not doing anything around the house). My neighbor came over last night after work and bitched for 2 hrs about her hubby not doing anything We had wine and chocolate and I listened. All of the men on my street work for the Feds so the moms are even more annoyed that their husbands aren't helping out since they are putting in a few hrs on the computer and then they are "done." People are free to call me names- princess (that's a good one , entitled, lazy, etc. I know that I am none of those things but if it makes you feel better- go ahead. It wouldn't matter if I waited for the snow plow to come along and then start shoveling since they will always dump the same snow from the street right in front of me. My 2 neighbors on the cul de sac live far enough away from me that the snow doesn't end up in front of their driveways. Just mine. The plow actually has to backup all the way up the street in order to get out. The 8 ft of snow in front of my driveway is inevitable. I tried selling my house about a year or 2 ago but nobody was interested. In my next life, I'd love a condo with underground parking My complaints about men were about specific men who made rude comments to me. I was not bashing all men. My late husband was a fantastic man. He would've never said things to me or anyone else that my neighbors said to me. It has been hard these past few yrs without him. I hope this is the last snow storm for a LONG LONG time. We will all make it through this. And please drive slowly and carefully out there. I've seen way too many car crashes the last few days in the ER.

As an ER nurse you seem to have a lot of spare time on your hands (posting here on DCUM) given the high need for ER nurses during this snow emergency. Especially with all the extra heart attacks and overextended moms who accidentally run over their children because no one is helping them shelving. Hmmm, I wonder if other medical staff are also reading and posting on this forum.

*meant shoveling*

[Anonymous]

I work MWF 12 hr shifts and every other weekend.

[Anonymous]

"As an ER nurse you seem to have a lot of spare time on your hands (posting here on DCUM) given the high need for ER nurses during this snow emergency. Especially with all the extra heart attacks and overextended moms who accidentally run over their children because no one is helping them shelving. Hmmm, I wonder if other medical staff are also reading and posting on this forum."

Tee hee. The more the Princess whine, the more I lose interest in her story. But she does make one salient point:

"My complaints about men were about specific men who made rude comments to me. I was not bashing all men. My late husband was a fantastic man. He would've never said things to me or anyone else that my neighbors said to me. "

Princess Whiney - what goes around comes around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"As an ER nurse you seem to have a lot of spare time on your hands (posting here on DCUM) given the high need for ER nurses during this snow emergency. Especially with all the extra heart attacks and overextended moms who accidentally run over their children because no one is helping them shelving. Hmmm, I wonder if other medical staff are also reading and posting on this forum."

Tee hee. The more the Princess whine, the more I lose interest in her story. But she does make one salient point:

"My complaints about men were about specific men who made rude comments to me. I was not bashing all men. My late husband was a fantastic man. He would've never said things to me or anyone else that my neighbors said to me. "

Princess Whiney - what goes around comes around.

Sounds like she considers the men in her neighborhood, low class and beneath her. No wonder they didn't help.

[Anonymous]

The story keeps changing. Now the problem is that her neighbors made RUDE comments to her. HORROR of horrors.

[Anonymous]

OP, I agree with you. Don't listen to the bitches on this board. They have DH's and people to help them. Love the "princess" comments. Original - not.
And, the paranoia about if you're really an ER nurse.
These people have nothing better to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with you. Don't listen to the bitches on this board. They have DH's and people to help them. Love the "princess" comments. Original - not.
And, the paranoia about if you're really an ER nurse.
These people have nothing better to do.

No DH or staff to the ready to rescue me when I start crying and wringing my hands in distress.

Bitches on this board with nothing better to do? Look at youself.

[Anonymous]

OP - my mom is a nurse, so, first, I thank you for your hard work, particularly when most of us don't have to deal with digging out to get to work this week.

I'm convinced that there are a handful of negative, unhappy, hen pecking, contrarian women on this board who make sport of going through each thread to pick apart every post and poster. Read enough threads on the forum and you see the clear pattern. Someone gets nasty and then everyone jumps on board to join in. You could say that the whole neighborhood helped you dig out and they would say you weren't grateful enough. There will always be the nasty naysayers, so don't let them get you down.

[Anonymous]

"There will always be the nasty naysayers, so don't let them get you down. "

If the Princess has true grit, she won't need anyone to tell her this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"There will always be the nasty naysayers, so don't let them get you down. "

If the Princess has true grit, she won't need anyone to tell her this.

I'm the PP you quoted. Thank you for illustrating my point so clearly I knew it wouldn't take long.