ILs sleeping in master while staying to watch kids?

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Anonymous wrote:WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU DEMAND TO SLEEP IN THE BED YOUR ADULT CHILD AND HER SPOUSE SLEEP IN WHEN THERE IS A FINE, EMPTY GUEST ROOM DOWN THE HALL?

How did this even become an option? I'd rather buy a new mattress for guest bed or whatever the "issue" is. stop this now.

BECAUSE AS THE OP MENTIONED THE MASTER BEDROOM HAS AN ATTACHED BATH, A BIG TV AND IS QUIETER AND MORE COMFORTABLE. (Did the all CAPS help me get my point across?)

THE GUEST ROOM ALSO HAS AN ATTACHED BATH. And who is seriously trashy enough to demand to sleep in someone else's marital bed (!) just because they can't survive a night on a comfortable queen bed without being able to watch TV in bed? AND THEY ARE THERE TO WATCH THE KIDS, so yeah they should be closer to the kids.

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OP and spouse are in the master bedroom daily so presumably if it's good enough for the OP to keep an eye on her kids on a daily basis, it's good enough for Grandma and Grandpa for a week. OP said that the master's attached bath is "better" than the guest room bath whatever that means.

To me this comes down to how you treat family. They are caring for your two children while you go on vacation, and you want them to be happy during the visit. For whatever reason, they don't find the guest room comfortable and have proposed an alternative solution. I would accommodate them.

To me, it comes down to how you treat your spouse. Who is, ultimately, who you chose to marry, and where your loyalty should be. It's pretty disrespectful to them to let someone violate their private space and sleep in their bed when they feel strongly against it for whatever reason.

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Sorry- if you sleep in a hotel, you are sleeping in the same bed that 100's of others have slept in. Change the sheets, wash the blankets, etc. after your guests leave. Not a big deal. Let them decide what is most comfortable.

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Anonymous wrote:WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU DEMAND TO SLEEP IN THE BED YOUR ADULT CHILD AND HER SPOUSE SLEEP IN WHEN THERE IS A FINE, EMPTY GUEST ROOM DOWN THE HALL?

How did this even become an option? I'd rather buy a new mattress for guest bed or whatever the "issue" is. stop this now.

BECAUSE AS THE OP MENTIONED THE MASTER BEDROOM HAS AN ATTACHED BATH, A BIG TV AND IS QUIETER AND MORE COMFORTABLE. (Did the all CAPS help me get my point across?)

THE GUEST ROOM ALSO HAS AN ATTACHED BATH. And who is seriously trashy enough to demand to sleep in someone else's marital bed (!) just because they can't survive a night on a comfortable queen bed without being able to watch TV in bed? AND THEY ARE THERE TO WATCH THE KIDS, so yeah they should be closer to the kids.

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OP and spouse are in the master bedroom daily so presumably if it's good enough for the OP to keep an eye on her kids on a daily basis, it's good enough for Grandma and Grandpa for a week. OP said that the master's attached bath is "better" than the guest room bath whatever that means.

Of course it's good enough to keep an eye on the kids. The point is that if you're at someone's house under the guise of minding their kids, you can't very well complain that you need to spend more time with the kids. It's like staying at someone's house for pet sitting but then not wanting the pets to be close to you while you're watching TV or sleeping.

And nobody is doubting that the master is better. People are saying that the guest bedroom with queen bed and attached bath should be good enough.

Do you seriously go into someone's home, even if yes you're technically doing them a favor, and then refuse to drink the wine and liquor that they made available to you and invited you to drink and instead demand the very best thing in their wine cellar? Just because they drink it sometimes so you should be afforded the same luxury?

Some people are totally clueless.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never let my in laws sleep in my bedroom! That’s just weird!!! My mil would probably go through my drawers honestly. She use to open my mail... no no no!!! Is the spouse that wants this are these their parents? I just thinks it’s weird either way. Now if I didn’t have a guest room then yeah I can see why people would do that. But gross!

Why is it gross? Do you never sleep in any other bed? Do you feel revolted and grossed out when you have to sleep in someone's guest room? Do you think they have purchased a brand new bed for you that they will throw away after you leave? What do you think your parents are going to do in your bed that can't be remedied with a clean mattress pad and sheets?

I assume if your MIL opens your mail then you don't allow her to babysit, either, and I don't blame you.

Actually I do, she loves having them and loves to have them overnight. I would never keep her from her grandkids. But overnights are at her house. They lived with us for a few months it was awful. I don’t trust they would respect my privacy which has been proven. I’m not grossed out sleeping in guest rooms. But I don’t know it’s just something about my in laws in my bed just is gross to me. Sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU DEMAND TO SLEEP IN THE BED YOUR ADULT CHILD AND HER SPOUSE SLEEP IN WHEN THERE IS A FINE, EMPTY GUEST ROOM DOWN THE HALL?

How did this even become an option? I'd rather buy a new mattress for guest bed or whatever the "issue" is. stop this now.

BECAUSE AS THE OP MENTIONED THE MASTER BEDROOM HAS AN ATTACHED BATH, A BIG TV AND IS QUIETER AND MORE COMFORTABLE. (Did the all CAPS help me get my point across?)

THE GUEST ROOM ALSO HAS AN ATTACHED BATH. And who is seriously trashy enough to demand to sleep in someone else's marital bed (!) just because they can't survive a night on a comfortable queen bed without being able to watch TV in bed? AND THEY ARE THERE TO WATCH THE KIDS, so yeah they should be closer to the kids.

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OP and spouse are in the master bedroom daily so presumably if it's good enough for the OP to keep an eye on her kids on a daily basis, it's good enough for Grandma and Grandpa for a week. OP said that the master's attached bath is "better" than the guest room bath whatever that means.

Of course it's good enough to keep an eye on the kids. The point is that if you're at someone's house under the guise of minding their kids, you can't very well complain that you need to spend more time with the kids. It's like staying at someone's house for pet sitting but then not wanting the pets to be close to you while you're watching TV or sleeping.

And nobody is doubting that the master is better. People are saying that the guest bedroom with queen bed and attached bath should be good enough.

Do you seriously go into someone's home, even if yes you're technically doing them a favor, and then refuse to drink the wine and liquor that they made available to you and invited you to drink and instead demand the very best thing in their wine cellar? Just because they drink it sometimes so you should be afforded the same luxury?

Some people are totally clueless.

But OP's inlaws are asking for something costless--using a bedroom that no one is using because OP will be on vacation with her spouse-not drinking up all her wine. OP may feel put out by sharing her space, but her in-laws are doing her a huge favor in caring for her kids.
OP's inlaws are doing her a big favor so presumably

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Anonymous wrote:WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU DEMAND TO SLEEP IN THE BED YOUR ADULT CHILD AND HER SPOUSE SLEEP IN WHEN THERE IS A FINE, EMPTY GUEST ROOM DOWN THE HALL?

How did this even become an option? I'd rather buy a new mattress for guest bed or whatever the "issue" is. stop this now.

BECAUSE AS THE OP MENTIONED THE MASTER BEDROOM HAS AN ATTACHED BATH, A BIG TV AND IS QUIETER AND MORE COMFORTABLE. (Did the all CAPS help me get my point across?)

THE GUEST ROOM ALSO HAS AN ATTACHED BATH. And who is seriously trashy enough to demand to sleep in someone else's marital bed (!) just because they can't survive a night on a comfortable queen bed without being able to watch TV in bed? AND THEY ARE THERE TO WATCH THE KIDS, so yeah they should be closer to the kids.

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OP and spouse are in the master bedroom daily so presumably if it's good enough for the OP to keep an eye on her kids on a daily basis, it's good enough for Grandma and Grandpa for a week. OP said that the master's attached bath is "better" than the guest room bath whatever that means.

To me this comes down to how you treat family. They are caring for your two children while you go on vacation, and you want them to be happy during the visit. For whatever reason, they don't find the guest room comfortable and have proposed an alternative solution. I would accommodate them.

To me, it comes down to how you treat your spouse. Who is, ultimately, who you chose to marry, and where your loyalty should be. It's pretty disrespectful to them to let someone violate their private space and sleep in their bed when they feel strongly against it for whatever reason.

Having your relatives sleep in your bed for a few nights is not at a "violation." If OP feels so strongly about that, she shouldn't ask them to take care of her kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I used to invite my MIL to use our master bedroom until the time she decided to go through my closet, including a storage box in the waaaay back where I keep special mementos from my dead mother, take them out, and then remove post-it notes from a book in said box--handwritten notes from my dead mother to me about the book--and throw them away.

So yeah, no. No one goes into the master bedroom anymore.

I’m so sorry. I hope you cut her off completely, as she deserved.

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Anonymous wrote:WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU DEMAND TO SLEEP IN THE BED YOUR ADULT CHILD AND HER SPOUSE SLEEP IN WHEN THERE IS A FINE, EMPTY GUEST ROOM DOWN THE HALL?

How did this even become an option? I'd rather buy a new mattress for guest bed or whatever the "issue" is. stop this now.

BECAUSE AS THE OP MENTIONED THE MASTER BEDROOM HAS AN ATTACHED BATH, A BIG TV AND IS QUIETER AND MORE COMFORTABLE. (Did the all CAPS help me get my point across?)

THE GUEST ROOM ALSO HAS AN ATTACHED BATH. And who is seriously trashy enough to demand to sleep in someone else's marital bed (!) just because they can't survive a night on a comfortable queen bed without being able to watch TV in bed? AND THEY ARE THERE TO WATCH THE KIDS, so yeah they should be closer to the kids.

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OP and spouse are in the master bedroom daily so presumably if it's good enough for the OP to keep an eye on her kids on a daily basis, it's good enough for Grandma and Grandpa for a week. OP said that the master's attached bath is "better" than the guest room bath whatever that means.

Of course it's good enough to keep an eye on the kids. The point is that if you're at someone's house under the guise of minding their kids, you can't very well complain that you need to spend more time with the kids. It's like staying at someone's house for pet sitting but then not wanting the pets to be close to you while you're watching TV or sleeping.

And nobody is doubting that the master is better. People are saying that the guest bedroom with queen bed and attached bath should be good enough.

Do you seriously go into someone's home, even if yes you're technically doing them a favor, and then refuse to drink the wine and liquor that they made available to you and invited you to drink and instead demand the very best thing in their wine cellar? Just because they drink it sometimes so you should be afforded the same luxury?

Some people are totally clueless.

But OP's inlaws are asking for something costless--using a bedroom that no one is using because OP will be on vacation with her spouse-not drinking up all her wine. OP may feel put out by sharing her space, but her in-laws are doing her a huge favor in caring for her kids.
OP's inlaws are doing her a big favor so presumably

Some people care about their privacy, having everything just how they left it, not needing to pack up their bedroom to leave for a couple of nights, knowing (or at least feeling) like people haven't "accidentally" discovered things that you didn't want them to see, etc, a lot more than a couple hundred bucks for a bottle of wine. Several people on this thread have commented that if the guest suite wasn't good enough for the inlaws then they'd rather just have paid someone else to mind the kids and stay in the nice guest suite. Personally, I'd be the same.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d turn down the sitting on these terms. There’s a guest room. For guests. Which the grandparents are. In our house, grandparents would have to come in at least a day in advance of any trip we took and stay a day on the other end, so they don’t be in the guest room anyway for those nights. HAving them in the master in between would just mean multiple sets of sheets to wash and I’d have to strip and make our bed both right before we left and right when we got back in the door? No thanks. Doesn’t matter if it’s my parents or his making this request.

DP Well, if I were the grandparents I would stay home if not allowed to use the better bedroom. Take your kids on vacation or stay at home!

Well, I can say that I would never dream of insisting upon using my adult children's master bedrooms/baths. If something was wrong with the bed in the guest room, I would most likely even fork over the money to buy a new mattress for the bed that I could sleep on.

If I've agreed to watch my grandchildren while their parents go out of town I would actually want to be in the room closest to the children so that I could hear them better

I don't understand why parents put their adult children into these awkward situations. It's rude.

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Anonymous wrote:WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU DEMAND TO SLEEP IN THE BED YOUR ADULT CHILD AND HER SPOUSE SLEEP IN WHEN THERE IS A FINE, EMPTY GUEST ROOM DOWN THE HALL?

How did this even become an option? I'd rather buy a new mattress for guest bed or whatever the "issue" is. stop this now.

BECAUSE AS THE OP MENTIONED THE MASTER BEDROOM HAS AN ATTACHED BATH, A BIG TV AND IS QUIETER AND MORE COMFORTABLE. (Did the all CAPS help me get my point across?)

THE GUEST ROOM ALSO HAS AN ATTACHED BATH. And who is seriously trashy enough to demand to sleep in someone else's marital bed (!) just because they can't survive a night on a comfortable queen bed without being able to watch TV in bed? AND THEY ARE THERE TO WATCH THE KIDS, so yeah they should be closer to the kids.

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OP and spouse are in the master bedroom daily so presumably if it's good enough for the OP to keep an eye on her kids on a daily basis, it's good enough for Grandma and Grandpa for a week. OP said that the master's attached bath is "better" than the guest room bath whatever that means.

Of course it's good enough to keep an eye on the kids. The point is that if you're at someone's house under the guise of minding their kids, you can't very well complain that you need to spend more time with the kids. It's like staying at someone's house for pet sitting but then not wanting the pets to be close to you while you're watching TV or sleeping.

And nobody is doubting that the master is better. People are saying that the guest bedroom with queen bed and attached bath should be good enough.

Do you seriously go into someone's home, even if yes you're technically doing them a favor, and then refuse to drink the wine and liquor that they made available to you and invited you to drink and instead demand the very best thing in their wine cellar? Just because they drink it sometimes so you should be afforded the same luxury?

Some people are totally clueless.

But OP's inlaws are asking for something costless--using a bedroom that no one is using because OP will be on vacation with her spouse-not drinking up all her wine. OP may feel put out by sharing her space, but her in-laws are doing her a huge favor in caring for her kids.
OP's inlaws are doing her a big favor so presumably

Some people care about their privacy, having everything just how they left it, not needing to pack up their bedroom to leave for a couple of nights, knowing (or at least feeling) like people haven't "accidentally" discovered things that you didn't want them to see, etc, a lot more than a couple hundred bucks for a bottle of wine. Several people on this thread have commented that if the guest suite wasn't good enough for the inlaws then they'd rather just have paid someone else to mind the kids and stay in the nice guest suite. Personally, I'd be the same.

+1 Me too.

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Why would you want to stay in someone else’s bedroom instead of a guest room? I don’t even like to go into other people’s bedrooms, it just feels like intruding.

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Anonymous wrote:WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU DEMAND TO SLEEP IN THE BED YOUR ADULT CHILD AND HER SPOUSE SLEEP IN WHEN THERE IS A FINE, EMPTY GUEST ROOM DOWN THE HALL?

How did this even become an option? I'd rather buy a new mattress for guest bed or whatever the "issue" is. stop this now.

BECAUSE AS THE OP MENTIONED THE MASTER BEDROOM HAS AN ATTACHED BATH, A BIG TV AND IS QUIETER AND MORE COMFORTABLE. (Did the all CAPS help me get my point across?)

THE GUEST ROOM ALSO HAS AN ATTACHED BATH. And who is seriously trashy enough to demand to sleep in someone else's marital bed (!) just because they can't survive a night on a comfortable queen bed without being able to watch TV in bed? AND THEY ARE THERE TO WATCH THE KIDS, so yeah they should be closer to the kids.

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OP and spouse are in the master bedroom daily so presumably if it's good enough for the OP to keep an eye on her kids on a daily basis, it's good enough for Grandma and Grandpa for a week. OP said that the master's attached bath is "better" than the guest room bath whatever that means.

Of course it's good enough to keep an eye on the kids. The point is that if you're at someone's house under the guise of minding their kids, you can't very well complain that you need to spend more time with the kids. It's like staying at someone's house for pet sitting but then not wanting the pets to be close to you while you're watching TV or sleeping.

And nobody is doubting that the master is better. People are saying that the guest bedroom with queen bed and attached bath should be good enough.

Do you seriously go into someone's home, even if yes you're technically doing them a favor, and then refuse to drink the wine and liquor that they made available to you and invited you to drink and instead demand the very best thing in their wine cellar? Just because they drink it sometimes so you should be afforded the same luxury?

Some people are totally clueless.

But OP's inlaws are asking for something costless--using a bedroom that no one is using because OP will be on vacation with her spouse-not drinking up all her wine. OP may feel put out by sharing her space, but her in-laws are doing her a huge favor in caring for her kids.
OP's inlaws are doing her a big favor so presumably

Some people care about their privacy, having everything just how they left it, not needing to pack up their bedroom to leave for a couple of nights, knowing (or at least feeling) like people haven't "accidentally" discovered things that you didn't want them to see, etc, a lot more than a couple hundred bucks for a bottle of wine. Several people on this thread have commented that if the guest suite wasn't good enough for the inlaws then they'd rather just have paid someone else to mind the kids and stay in the nice guest suite. Personally, I'd be the same.

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I don’t feel that way, but I’ve had many years of roommates so I’m not so picky about my private space. Again Op is welcome to get a sitter she pays it sharing her master suite is so offensive to her.

[Anonymous]

Oh, let them have the master. Before you leave, tell them which spot in the bed is the firmest to have sex and let them know where you keep your lube and toys just in case they want to get a little freaky. Tell Pops not to mind the tampons and help himself to DH's Viagra in the medicine cabinet. After all, sharing is caring! Leave your panties on the floor next to the bed and ask them if they wouldn't mind throwing them in the wash for you and the bedsheets too while they're at it since you and DH had sex in the bed just before they came. You wouldn't want them to have to put up with the wet spots. Ta ta. See you in a few days. Thanks for watching the kids... (Shut door, run to car.)

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, let them have the master. Before you leave, tell them which spot in the bed is the firmest to have sex and let them know where you keep your lube and toys just in case they want to get a little freaky. Tell Pops not to mind the tampons and help himself to DH's Viagra in the medicine cabinet. After all, sharing is caring! Leave your panties on the floor next to the bed and ask them if they wouldn't mind throwing them in the wash for you and the bedsheets too while they're at it since you and DH had sex in the bed just before they came. You wouldn't want them to have to put up with the wet spots. Ta ta. See you in a few days. Thanks for watching the kids... (Shut door, run to car.)

Oh chill out lady (or go clean up your room if you’re in the habit of leaving your panties on the floor and not washing your sheets after they get dirty.)

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Anonymous wrote:WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU DEMAND TO SLEEP IN THE BED YOUR ADULT CHILD AND HER SPOUSE SLEEP IN WHEN THERE IS A FINE, EMPTY GUEST ROOM DOWN THE HALL?

How did this even become an option? I'd rather buy a new mattress for guest bed or whatever the "issue" is. stop this now.

BECAUSE AS THE OP MENTIONED THE MASTER BEDROOM HAS AN ATTACHED BATH, A BIG TV AND IS QUIETER AND MORE COMFORTABLE. (Did the all CAPS help me get my point across?)

THE GUEST ROOM ALSO HAS AN ATTACHED BATH. And who is seriously trashy enough to demand to sleep in someone else's marital bed (!) just because they can't survive a night on a comfortable queen bed without being able to watch TV in bed? AND THEY ARE THERE TO WATCH THE KIDS, so yeah they should be closer to the kids.

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OP and spouse are in the master bedroom daily so presumably if it's good enough for the OP to keep an eye on her kids on a daily basis, it's good enough for Grandma and Grandpa for a week. OP said that the master's attached bath is "better" than the guest room bath whatever that means.

Of course it's good enough to keep an eye on the kids. The point is that if you're at someone's house under the guise of minding their kids, you can't very well complain that you need to spend more time with the kids. It's like staying at someone's house for pet sitting but then not wanting the pets to be close to you while you're watching TV or sleeping.

And nobody is doubting that the master is better. People are saying that the guest bedroom with queen bed and attached bath should be good enough.

Do you seriously go into someone's home, even if yes you're technically doing them a favor, and then refuse to drink the wine and liquor that they made available to you and invited you to drink and instead demand the very best thing in their wine cellar? Just because they drink it sometimes so you should be afforded the same luxury?

Some people are totally clueless.

But OP's inlaws are asking for something costless--using a bedroom that no one is using because OP will be on vacation with her spouse-not drinking up all her wine. OP may feel put out by sharing her space, but her in-laws are doing her a huge favor in caring for her kids.
OP's inlaws are doing her a big favor so presumably

Some people care about their privacy, having everything just how they left it, not needing to pack up their bedroom to leave for a couple of nights, knowing (or at least feeling) like people haven't "accidentally" discovered things that you didn't want them to see, etc, a lot more than a couple hundred bucks for a bottle of wine. Several people on this thread have commented that if the guest suite wasn't good enough for the inlaws then they'd rather just have paid someone else to mind the kids and stay in the nice guest suite. Personally, I'd be the same.

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It would not be costless for me. It would cost me my peace of mind, and my privacy.

If my in-laws had concerns about the comfort of the guestroom, I would figure out what the room needed to be more comfortable, and address that before they arrived.