ILs sleeping in master while staying to watch kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a pet sitter and frequently my clients tell me to sleep wherever I feel most comfortable whether that’s the guest room or master bedroom. Sometimes I choose the master. I don’t see the big deal.

Of course you don't see the big deal, you don't own a house or have a husband you sleep & have sex with every night. To personal to share.

Just out of curiosity, how do you know all this? Pet sitter = no husband, sex, or home ownership?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

+1 there’s a lot of people on this thread who weren’t raised to value others...

+2 I'm really stunned at how insecure some of the people are on this thread. Like letting their parents sleep in their bed while they are away is going to harm them somehow. Crazy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

+1 there’s a lot of people on this thread who weren’t raised to value others...

+2 I'm really stunned at how insecure some of the people are on this thread. Like letting their parents sleep in their bed while they are away is going to harm them somehow. Crazy!

I’m surprised about all these adults who are Squemish about their parents or ILs having sex.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

+1 there’s a lot of people on this thread who weren’t raised to value others...

+2 I'm really stunned at how insecure some of the people are on this thread. Like letting their parents sleep in their bed while they are away is going to harm them somehow. Crazy!

I’m surprised about all these adults who are Squemish about their parents or ILs having sex.

I posted earlier I really think this is family or culture based. In my family this would be unthinkable (me offering, them asking/accepting). It never happened when I was a child and it won't happen when I'm an adult.

It is as unfathomable to me that you all are totally cool with people in your personal space as it is to you that someone could value privacy enough to not want people, even very close family members, in their space. But like I said my parents are the same way and would willingly spend mucho $$$ at a hotel to avoid it.

If it was necessary for some reason I would of course get over it (like, I don't know, my parents become unexpectedly destitute and my guest bed caught on fire).

[Anonymous]

I don’t even go in the master bedroom when I’m in my kids houses. Or if I’m babysitting or sleeping over. Why would I demand to sleep in their bed in their bedroom?

Maybe bc I’m not from a multigenerational house in an emerging market county.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t even go in the master bedroom when I’m in my kids houses. Or if I’m babysitting or sleeping over. Why would I demand to sleep in their bed in their bedroom?

I only have little kids right now but I can imagine being the same as you when they're older. The master bedroom is where a married couple sleeps, makes love, has a sanctuary away from the kids. It wouldn't be my place to even wander around in there, let alone demand to sleep in their bed.

This thread has been eye opening for sure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think so much of this is the values you hold / learned growing up.

In our family, the older couple (grandoarents) were always given the most comfortable bed. It was just part of what you did for older guests. You went out of your way to make them comfortable. Part of a respecting your elders type value mindset.

Many people have their worst beds in their guest rooms as they are rarely used. They are pull out sofas, old or hard mattresses, just generally not as comfortable.

Why not put a comfortable bed in all of your rooms? Why should anyone in your house being sleeping on truly uncomfortable mattresses?

Please tell this to my MIL. We sleep on a bed that my SIL had in middle and high school. She’s now 45.

Same here. This is why we have not visited in years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

+1 there’s a lot of people on this thread who weren’t raised to value others...

+2 I'm really stunned at how insecure some of the people are on this thread. Like letting their parents sleep in their bed while they are away is going to harm them somehow. Crazy!

There are many people on this thread who must be keeping the psychotherapists of DC busy. Snowflakes who can't handle the thought of someone sleeping in their bed! #Firstworldproblems

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

+1 there’s a lot of people on this thread who weren’t raised to value others...

+2 I'm really stunned at how insecure some of the people are on this thread. Like letting their parents sleep in their bed while they are away is going to harm them somehow. Crazy!

There are many people on this thread who must be keeping the psychotherapists of DC busy. Snowflakes who can't handle the thought of someone sleeping in their bed! #Firstworldproblems

Oh, just shut up already.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

+1 there’s a lot of people on this thread who weren’t raised to value others...

+2 I'm really stunned at how insecure some of the people are on this thread. Like letting their parents sleep in their bed while they are away is going to harm them somehow. Crazy!

There are many people on this thread who must be keeping the psychotherapists of DC busy. Snowflakes who can't handle the thought of someone sleeping in their bed! #Firstworldproblems

Oh, just shut up already.

+1

The psychotherapists are probably already pretty busy with people like the PP who have so much time and vitriol that they need to troll internet forums insulting people but contributing nothing.

[Anonymous]

Guest bedroom all the way! As long as it’s comfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

+1 there’s a lot of people on this thread who weren’t raised to value others...

+2 I'm really stunned at how insecure some of the people are on this thread. Like letting their parents sleep in their bed while they are away is going to harm them somehow. Crazy!

There are many people on this thread who must be keeping the psychotherapists of DC busy. Snowflakes who can't handle the thought of someone sleeping in their bed! #Firstworldproblems

Oh, just shut up already.

+1



The psychotherapists are probably already pretty busy with people like the PP who have so much time and vitriol that they need to troll internet forums insulting people but contributing nothing.

Ha ha, I’m a psychotherapist and I’m totally #teamguestroom absent of cultural issues. Boundaries are healthy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

+1 there’s a lot of people on this thread who weren’t raised to value others...

+2 I'm really stunned at how insecure some of the people are on this thread. Like letting their parents sleep in their bed while they are away is going to harm them somehow. Crazy!

There are many people on this thread who must be keeping the psychotherapists of DC busy. Snowflakes who can't handle the thought of someone sleeping in their bed! #Firstworldproblems

Oh, just shut up already.

+1



The psychotherapists are probably already pretty busy with people like the PP who have so much time and vitriol that they need to troll internet forums insulting people but contributing nothing.

Ha ha, I’m a psychotherapist and I’m totally #teamguestroom absent of cultural issues. Boundaries are healthy

You should do an AMA, PP!

[Anonymous]

My bedroom has minor clutter and daily use items on the dressers, nightstands, bathroom. The guest room has open closet and drawer space, a clean and stocked bathroom and a comfy bed. Why should I clear out my space? They have them live out of a suitcase or I’d have to box up our tins to leave them drawer space.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

+1 there’s a lot of people on this thread who weren’t raised to value others...

+2 I'm really stunned at how insecure some of the people are on this thread. Like letting their parents sleep in their bed while they are away is going to harm them somehow. Crazy!

There are many people on this thread who must be keeping the psychotherapists of DC busy. Snowflakes who can't handle the thought of someone sleeping in their bed! #Firstworldproblems

Oh, just shut up already.

+1



The psychotherapists are probably already pretty busy with people like the PP who have so much time and vitriol that they need to troll internet forums insulting people but contributing nothing.

Ha ha, I’m a psychotherapist and I’m totally #teamguestroom absent of cultural issues. Boundaries are healthy

Of course you are. Someone has to validate their patients’ sense of narcissism. “Yes it is my sanctuary! Let the elderly parents sleep in the less comfortable room at the same time I ask them to watch my kids for free.”