ILs sleeping in master while staying to watch kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you want to stay in someone else’s bedroom instead of a guest room? I don’t even like to go into other people’s bedrooms, it just feels like intruding.

That’s because it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry- if you sleep in a hotel, you are sleeping in the same bed that 100's of others have slept in. Change the sheets, wash the blankets, etc. after your guests leave. Not a big deal. Let them decide what is most comfortable.

Comfortable for whom?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry- if you sleep in a hotel, you are sleeping in the same bed that 100's of others have slept in. Change the sheets, wash the blankets, etc. after your guests leave. Not a big deal. Let them decide what is most comfortable.

Comfortable for whom?

For the person asking for a giant favor

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Anonymous wrote:WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU DEMAND TO SLEEP IN THE BED YOUR ADULT CHILD AND HER SPOUSE SLEEP IN WHEN THERE IS A FINE, EMPTY GUEST ROOM DOWN THE HALL?

How did this even become an option? I'd rather buy a new mattress for guest bed or whatever the "issue" is. stop this now.

BECAUSE AS THE OP MENTIONED THE MASTER BEDROOM HAS AN ATTACHED BATH, A BIG TV AND IS QUIETER AND MORE COMFORTABLE. (Did the all CAPS help me get my point across?)

THE GUEST ROOM ALSO HAS AN ATTACHED BATH. And who is seriously trashy enough to demand to sleep in someone else's marital bed (!) just because they can't survive a night on a comfortable queen bed without being able to watch TV in bed? AND THEY ARE THERE TO WATCH THE KIDS, so yeah they should be closer to the kids.

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OP and spouse are in the master bedroom daily so presumably if it's good enough for the OP to keep an eye on her kids on a daily basis, it's good enough for Grandma and Grandpa for a week. OP said that the master's attached bath is "better" than the guest room bath whatever that means.

Of course it's good enough to keep an eye on the kids. The point is that if you're at someone's house under the guise of minding their kids, you can't very well complain that you need to spend more time with the kids. It's like staying at someone's house for pet sitting but then not wanting the pets to be close to you while you're watching TV or sleeping.

And nobody is doubting that the master is better. People are saying that the guest bedroom with queen bed and attached bath should be good enough.

Do you seriously go into someone's home, even if yes you're technically doing them a favor, and then refuse to drink the wine and liquor that they made available to you and invited you to drink and instead demand the very best thing in their wine cellar? Just because they drink it sometimes so you should be afforded the same luxury?

Some people are totally clueless.

But OP's inlaws are asking for something costless--using a bedroom that no one is using because OP will be on vacation with her spouse-not drinking up all her wine. OP may feel put out by sharing her space, but her in-laws are doing her a huge favor in caring for her kids.
OP's inlaws are doing her a big favor so presumably

Some people care about their privacy, having everything just how they left it, not needing to pack up their bedroom to leave for a couple of nights, knowing (or at least feeling) like people haven't "accidentally" discovered things that you didn't want them to see, etc, a lot more than a couple hundred bucks for a bottle of wine. Several people on this thread have commented that if the guest suite wasn't good enough for the inlaws then they'd rather just have paid someone else to mind the kids and stay in the nice guest suite. Personally, I'd be the same.

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It would not be costless for me. It would cost me my peace of mind, and my privacy.

If my in-laws had concerns about the comfort of the guestroom, I would figure out what the room needed to be more comfortable, and address that before they arrived.

If someone sleeping in your bed for a few nights while you’re away costs you your peace of mind, you have bigger problems (that require psychological support.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry- if you sleep in a hotel, you are sleeping in the same bed that 100's of others have slept in. Change the sheets, wash the blankets, etc. after your guests leave. Not a big deal. Let them decide what is most comfortable.

Comfortable for whom?

For the person asking for a giant favor

This. oP is asking for free childcare for a week. Letting the ILs sleep where they are most comfortable is a small favor in return.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU DEMAND TO SLEEP IN THE BED YOUR ADULT CHILD AND HER SPOUSE SLEEP IN WHEN THERE IS A FINE, EMPTY GUEST ROOM DOWN THE HALL?

How did this even become an option? I'd rather buy a new mattress for guest bed or whatever the "issue" is. stop this now.

BECAUSE AS THE OP MENTIONED THE MASTER BEDROOM HAS AN ATTACHED BATH, A BIG TV AND IS QUIETER AND MORE COMFORTABLE. (Did the all CAPS help me get my point across?)

THE GUEST ROOM ALSO HAS AN ATTACHED BATH. And who is seriously trashy enough to demand to sleep in someone else's marital bed (!) just because they can't survive a night on a comfortable queen bed without being able to watch TV in bed? AND THEY ARE THERE TO WATCH THE KIDS, so yeah they should be closer to the kids.

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OP and spouse are in the master bedroom daily so presumably if it's good enough for the OP to keep an eye on her kids on a daily basis, it's good enough for Grandma and Grandpa for a week. OP said that the master's attached bath is "better" than the guest room bath whatever that means.

Of course it's good enough to keep an eye on the kids. The point is that if you're at someone's house under the guise of minding their kids, you can't very well complain that you need to spend more time with the kids. It's like staying at someone's house for pet sitting but then not wanting the pets to be close to you while you're watching TV or sleeping.

And nobody is doubting that the master is better. People are saying that the guest bedroom with queen bed and attached bath should be good enough.

Do you seriously go into someone's home, even if yes you're technically doing them a favor, and then refuse to drink the wine and liquor that they made available to you and invited you to drink and instead demand the very best thing in their wine cellar? Just because they drink it sometimes so you should be afforded the same luxury?

Some people are totally clueless.

But OP's inlaws are asking for something costless--using a bedroom that no one is using because OP will be on vacation with her spouse-not drinking up all her wine. OP may feel put out by sharing her space, but her in-laws are doing her a huge favor in caring for her kids.
OP's inlaws are doing her a big favor so presumably

Some people care about their privacy, having everything just how they left it, not needing to pack up their bedroom to leave for a couple of nights, knowing (or at least feeling) like people haven't "accidentally" discovered things that you didn't want them to see, etc, a lot more than a couple hundred bucks for a bottle of wine. Several people on this thread have commented that if the guest suite wasn't good enough for the inlaws then they'd rather just have paid someone else to mind the kids and stay in the nice guest suite. Personally, I'd be the same.

+1

It would not be costless for me. It would cost me my peace of mind, and my privacy.

If my in-laws had concerns about the comfort of the guestroom, I would figure out what the room needed to be more comfortable, and address that before they arrived.

If someone sleeping in your bed for a few nights while you’re away costs you your peace of mind, you have bigger problems (that require psychological support.)

If having your in laws in your bed costs you your peace of mind, why on earth would you let them watch your kids? Some people have f’ed up priorities.

[Anonymous]

Hell to the No! Lol. My in laws or my parents can’t sleep on my bed. Hotel bed is different from my bed. I’m sorry! That is my little space! Mine!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry- if you sleep in a hotel, you are sleeping in the same bed that 100's of others have slept in. Change the sheets, wash the blankets, etc. after your guests leave. Not a big deal. Let them decide what is most comfortable.

Comfortable for whom?

For the person asking for a giant favor

This. oP is asking for free childcare for a week. Letting the ILs sleep where they are most comfortable is a small favor in return.

That’s what I meant, just hit submit too quickly. NOT the person getting the giant favor.

[Anonymous]

It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

Same. I’m really surprised that the majority wouldn’t allow their parents or in-laws to sleep in their bed. Very strange to me and kind of sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

So every time your parents visit, you clear off your dresser and night stands for them, and move all your toiletries and stuff to the guest room to use for yourself, and then move it all back again after they leave, instead of just offering them the empty guest bedroom?

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Anonymous wrote:It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

So every time your parents visit, you clear off your dresser and night stands for them, and move all your toiletries and stuff to the guest room to use for yourself, and then move it all back again after they leave, instead of just offering them the empty guest bedroom?

YES!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

So every time your parents visit, you clear off your dresser and night stands for them, and move all your toiletries and stuff to the guest room to use for yourself, and then move it all back again after they leave, instead of just offering them the empty guest bedroom?

YES!

I forgot to add the following. We also: clear space in the closet, pull out three luggage racks, put out a basket of toiletries in the bathroom, put flowers on the nightstands, pull out a basket of little amenities (bottles of water, chocolates, little flashlight, alarm clock, 2-3 books, extra chargers, new ear buds, etc) that we put out on a side table, put the remote control and cable guide where they can find it, … These are just the things I can think off of the top of my head.

They are our parents, for crying out loud!!! Of course, we go the extra mile. Get this: we even do the same thing for my husband's two great-aunts, who are widows who come to visit every few months, and who prefer sleeping together on the larger master bed than the queen in the guest room.

[Anonymous]

Well good for you. After this thread I consider myself very lucky that my father and ILs are all relatively low maintenance, and have no problem making themselves at home in our guest room in their frequent visits.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is a sign of respect to offer your best to your guests, especially your elders. I am having a hard time with all of these narcissistic posts. Who are you people that you won't offer your bed to your parents? Sad, very sad.

So every time your parents visit, you clear off your dresser and night stands for them, and move all your toiletries and stuff to the guest room to use for yourself, and then move it all back again after they leave, instead of just offering them the empty guest bedroom?

YES!

I forgot to add the following. We also: clear space in the closet, pull out three luggage racks, put out a basket of toiletries in the bathroom, put flowers on the nightstands, pull out a basket of little amenities (bottles of water, chocolates, little flashlight, alarm clock, 2-3 books, extra chargers, new ear buds, etc) that we put out on a side table, put the remote control and cable guide where they can find it, … These are just the things I can think off of the top of my head.

They are our parents, for crying out loud!!! Of course, we go the extra mile. Get this: we even do the same thing for my husband's two great-aunts, who are widows who come to visit every few months, and who prefer sleeping together on the larger master bed than the queen in the guest room.

+1. We have a bigger house now, but we used to live in a 2 BR condo. Whenever we had guests we would sleep with our child and the guest (ILs, friends, other relatives) would get our room. And neither Dh nor I blinked an eyeball at having people in our room.