Wife Goes Silent on Work Travel

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Anonymous wrote:Check her suitcase when she unpacks for usual items or unusual stains. Does she need sexy underwear for work?

Do this, OP. Every time my DH travels for 2 weeks I keep an eye on new items, smells, and other signs I won’t mention here.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

Oh, god. You pathetic, insecure little man. No, Your wife isn’t cheating on you. And your child’s K teacher doesn’t want you. You’re getting older, aren’t you? And a bit insecure about whether or not you’re still sexually attractive? So you have to make up little stories to tell yourself about younger women wanting you, and you have to clamp down on your wife to ensure she doesn’t stray. She’s probably a bit younger and more attractive than you, which makes you nervous. Men like you are a dime a dozen, a cliche. Pleas keep your crisis of confidence to yourself, and don’t confront your wife, or make a pass at the teacher.

Uhhh, you OK?

You do know there are plenty of attractive men out there right?

Not OP but my kid's K teacher (about 10 years ago) was a cute early 30s single woman. My husband was 38 ten years ago. And yes, he's cute. In another universe they could have been a couple.

God, I get so tired of other women slamming normal guys as creeps or md life crisis losers just because they admit to being attractive. Do you seriously not work with any men you find cute? I'm not talking about having affairs I'm talking about recognizing that someone is attractive.

He may be attractive, but is delusional if he thinks lots of younger women are gagging for him. And his insecurity really dries up the ole vageen.

What thread are you reading? Did OP list his age? Did he list the age of the K teacher?

Why do you hate men? Do they ignore you?

Not at all. I have a husband and a boyfriend. Neither of them go about crowing about their good looks, or stew jealously about my potential illicit sexual activity when I’m on business trips.

Youre not a very god troll. In this attempt you claim to have a DH and an AP. But then claim DH wouldn't dare be jealous.

That means your DH is an imbecile. Which makes you one too.

Next!

Uh, no. My husband knows all about it, because my husband’s girlfriend is my boyfriend’s wife. We’re dating each other, the four of us, get it? There are more ways to live than your stifled little bourgeois mind can dream of.

2 3dg3y 4 me!!!!

I see this has made you lose your mind.

I see that you're incredibly unintelligent.

I'm not the one writing like a 12 year old. You should probably get off the internet and do some homework.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

They always stay in Hiltons overseas. It's part of the contract. They all have wifi. They don't share rooms. I see zero reason why she can't spend 3 minutes at the end of the day saying hello, I'm safe, tell the kids I love them.

Reading the responses has me depressed. I just needed a gut check to see if my concerns were legit. I'm gonna have a long talk when she gets home.

Maybe she can't stand you and is enjoying her time away from you.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

They always stay in Hiltons overseas. It's part of the contract. They all have wifi. They don't share rooms. I see zero reason why she can't spend 3 minutes at the end of the day saying hello, I'm safe, tell the kids I love them.

Reading the responses has me depressed. I just needed a gut check to see if my concerns were legit. I'm gonna have a long talk when she gets home.

Yup, Your gut is right. This is completely off. She should be able to facetime for 3 minutes.

You may consider holding off until you have more evidence. Because if she's affairing and gets suspicious she'll be more cautious. You might be better off putting a gps tracking thing in her luggage. Or a hidden recorder. What are they called? a voice activated recorder. I don't know how long they last, but if you could secret one into her purse or her luggage or laptop bag ... worth trying. Check her emails and her texting. Get some evidence before you accuse her.

Or, you know, talk to her. Since this is your wife and your marriage, not a stakeout. If I found out my husband had done all this to me, I'd divorce so fast his head would spin.

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Anonymous wrote:Op on her next trip call the Hilton Hotel switchboard and ask to be connected to the room phone where your wife told you she is.staying.

She does tell you her room number right?

Honestly it's apparent she's.been having a.long term affair with someone she works with. Most likely her boss. They use the trips overseas to f@ck. She can't facetime or you'd see her riding her boss.

What? No. I travel for work all the time and this is not a thing that anyone does.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

Oh, god. You pathetic, insecure little man. No, Your wife isn’t cheating on you. And your child’s K teacher doesn’t want you. You’re getting older, aren’t you? And a bit insecure about whether or not you’re still sexually attractive? So you have to make up little stories to tell yourself about younger women wanting you, and you have to clamp down on your wife to ensure she doesn’t stray. She’s probably a bit younger and more attractive than you, which makes you nervous. Men like you are a dime a dozen, a cliche. Pleas keep your crisis of confidence to yourself, and don’t confront your wife, or make a pass at the teacher.

Uhhh, you OK?

You do know there are plenty of attractive men out there right?

Not OP but my kid's K teacher (about 10 years ago) was a cute early 30s single woman. My husband was 38 ten years ago. And yes, he's cute. In another universe they could have been a couple.

God, I get so tired of other women slamming normal guys as creeps or md life crisis losers just because they admit to being attractive. Do you seriously not work with any men you find cute? I'm not talking about having affairs I'm talking about recognizing that someone is attractive.

He may be attractive, but is delusional if he thinks lots of younger women are gagging for him. And his insecurity really dries up the ole vageen.

It’s fact of life that younger women desire successful older men. Enjoy your cats and wine.

I'm the one with the husband and boyfriend, so no, that doesn't really describe me. Unless you mean pussy and wine. That I do enjoy from time to time.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

Oh, god. You pathetic, insecure little man. No, Your wife isn’t cheating on you. And your child’s K teacher doesn’t want you. You’re getting older, aren’t you? And a bit insecure about whether or not you’re still sexually attractive? So you have to make up little stories to tell yourself about younger women wanting you, and you have to clamp down on your wife to ensure she doesn’t stray. She’s probably a bit younger and more attractive than you, which makes you nervous. Men like you are a dime a dozen, a cliche. Pleas keep your crisis of confidence to yourself, and don’t confront your wife, or make a pass at the teacher.

Uhhh, you OK?

You do know there are plenty of attractive men out there right?

Not OP but my kid's K teacher (about 10 years ago) was a cute early 30s single woman. My husband was 38 ten years ago. And yes, he's cute. In another universe they could have been a couple.

God, I get so tired of other women slamming normal guys as creeps or md life crisis losers just because they admit to being attractive. Do you seriously not work with any men you find cute? I'm not talking about having affairs I'm talking about recognizing that someone is attractive.

He may be attractive, but is delusional if he thinks lots of younger women are gagging for him. And his insecurity really dries up the ole vageen.

What thread are you reading? Did OP list his age? Did he list the age of the K teacher?

Why do you hate men? Do they ignore you?

Not at all. I have a husband and a boyfriend. Neither of them go about crowing about their good looks, or stew jealously about my potential illicit sexual activity when I’m on business trips.

Pretty sure you don’t have either of those.

That's likely because you're so homely and unappealing, you couldn't imagine anyone getting so much dong.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

Oh, god. You pathetic, insecure little man. No, Your wife isn’t cheating on you. And your child’s K teacher doesn’t want you. You’re getting older, aren’t you? And a bit insecure about whether or not you’re still sexually attractive? So you have to make up little stories to tell yourself about younger women wanting you, and you have to clamp down on your wife to ensure she doesn’t stray. She’s probably a bit younger and more attractive than you, which makes you nervous. Men like you are a dime a dozen, a cliche. Pleas keep your crisis of confidence to yourself, and don’t confront your wife, or make a pass at the teacher.

Uhhh, you OK?

You do know there are plenty of attractive men out there right?

Not OP but my kid's K teacher (about 10 years ago) was a cute early 30s single woman. My husband was 38 ten years ago. And yes, he's cute. In another universe they could have been a couple.

God, I get so tired of other women slamming normal guys as creeps or md life crisis losers just because they admit to being attractive. Do you seriously not work with any men you find cute? I'm not talking about having affairs I'm talking about recognizing that someone is attractive.

He may be attractive, but is delusional if he thinks lots of younger women are gagging for him. And his insecurity really dries up the ole vageen.

What thread are you reading? Did OP list his age? Did he list the age of the K teacher?

Why do you hate men? Do they ignore you?

Not at all. I have a husband and a boyfriend. Neither of them go about crowing about their good looks, or stew jealously about my potential illicit sexual activity when I’m on business trips.

So a cheating wh*re is trying to give someone else marital advice? This is rich!

If you read my further posts you will see that there's no cheating going on. Everything is out in the open.

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Anonymous wrote:Look. Op your wife's real life at least in her head is these business trips where she can play Mata Hari. You say she isn't I.c but she is close.enough not to make any difference. Top secret clearance and taking poly s?

Meanwhile you are her trusty day care provider back home.

What would her answer be if you told her "make a choice-your job or our marriage? I can't tolerate these separations any longer.". I think everyone realizes your sh@t would be on the curb pronto.

+1. OP, I’m really annoyed at you. First post you’re like “She doesn’t do intel work!” and then pages later you tell us she works with intel ppl all the time. Well, duh, that’s why she’s out of contact. She’s some sort of consultant, tech, or finance person who services the IC. Her unavailability is normal given her work. You sound jealous of this “exciting” life but she also may be going overboard with how important she is and how she has to keep communications limited.

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Anonymous wrote:Check her suitcase when she unpacks for usual items or unusual stains. Does she need sexy underwear for work?

Do this, OP. Every time my DH travels for 2 weeks I keep an eye on new items, smells, and other signs I won’t mention here.

It is sad that people live like this.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

They always stay in Hiltons overseas. It's part of the contract. They all have wifi. They don't share rooms. I see zero reason why she can't spend 3 minutes at the end of the day saying hello, I'm safe, tell the kids I love them.

Reading the responses has me depressed. I just needed a gut check to see if my concerns were legit. I'm gonna have a long talk when she gets home.

Yup, Your gut is right. This is completely off. She should be able to facetime for 3 minutes.

You may consider holding off until you have more evidence. Because if she's affairing and gets suspicious she'll be more cautious. You might be better off putting a gps tracking thing in her luggage. Or a hidden recorder. What are they called? a voice activated recorder. I don't know how long they last, but if you could secret one into her purse or her luggage or laptop bag ... worth trying. Check her emails and her texting. Get some evidence before you accuse her.

Or, you know, talk to her. Since this is your wife and your marriage, not a stakeout. If I found out my husband had done all this to me, I'd divorce so fast his head would spin.

No you wouldn't. Plus, he's been trying to talk with her ... but she won't (4 texts over 2 weeks? C'mon.)

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

Oh, god. You pathetic, insecure little man. No, Your wife isn’t cheating on you. And your child’s K teacher doesn’t want you. You’re getting older, aren’t you? And a bit insecure about whether or not you’re still sexually attractive? So you have to make up little stories to tell yourself about younger women wanting you, and you have to clamp down on your wife to ensure she doesn’t stray. She’s probably a bit younger and more attractive than you, which makes you nervous. Men like you are a dime a dozen, a cliche. Pleas keep your crisis of confidence to yourself, and don’t confront your wife, or make a pass at the teacher.

Uhhh, you OK?

You do know there are plenty of attractive men out there right?

Not OP but my kid's K teacher (about 10 years ago) was a cute early 30s single woman. My husband was 38 ten years ago. And yes, he's cute. In another universe they could have been a couple.

God, I get so tired of other women slamming normal guys as creeps or md life crisis losers just because they admit to being attractive. Do you seriously not work with any men you find cute? I'm not talking about having affairs I'm talking about recognizing that someone is attractive.

He may be attractive, but is delusional if he thinks lots of younger women are gagging for him. And his insecurity really dries up the ole vageen.

It’s fact of life that younger women desire successful older men. Enjoy your cats and wine.

I'm the one with the husband and boyfriend, so no, that doesn't really describe me. Unless you mean pussy and wine. That I do enjoy from time to time.

Yeah, right, uh huh, ok.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, no real issues with trust. As I mentioned we've never cheated and we are both attractive, fit, very social people- meaning we could if we wanted. In fact, if I weren't mistaken I'm about 95% sure our daughter's K teacher was picking up on me during the PTCs last week. Smiled constantly, never broke eye contact and touched me on the shoulder as I left.

The hang up is the travel with men and no mention of them. And I do know they socialize and drink as a group because one of her colleagues (35, male, single, ex military) just got fired after the last trip for being drunk twice, including once around the client. This is a big no-no with her employer.

I simply can't envision being single, drinking, in some far flung place with attractive women and not picking up on them.

Oh, god. You pathetic, insecure little man. No, Your wife isn’t cheating on you. And your child’s K teacher doesn’t want you. You’re getting older, aren’t you? And a bit insecure about whether or not you’re still sexually attractive? So you have to make up little stories to tell yourself about younger women wanting you, and you have to clamp down on your wife to ensure she doesn’t stray. She’s probably a bit younger and more attractive than you, which makes you nervous. Men like you are a dime a dozen, a cliche. Pleas keep your crisis of confidence to yourself, and don’t confront your wife, or make a pass at the teacher.

Uhhh, you OK?

You do know there are plenty of attractive men out there right?

Not OP but my kid's K teacher (about 10 years ago) was a cute early 30s single woman. My husband was 38 ten years ago. And yes, he's cute. In another universe they could have been a couple.

God, I get so tired of other women slamming normal guys as creeps or md life crisis losers just because they admit to being attractive. Do you seriously not work with any men you find cute? I'm not talking about having affairs I'm talking about recognizing that someone is attractive.

He may be attractive, but is delusional if he thinks lots of younger women are gagging for him. And his insecurity really dries up the ole vageen.

What thread are you reading? Did OP list his age? Did he list the age of the K teacher?

Why do you hate men? Do they ignore you?

Not at all. I have a husband and a boyfriend. Neither of them go about crowing about their good looks, or stew jealously about my potential illicit sexual activity when I’m on business trips.

So a cheating wh*re is trying to give someone else marital advice? This is rich!

If you read my further posts you will see that there's no cheating going on. Everything is out in the open.

Fine. Than make it "diseased whore"

lol.

[Anonymous]

It’s not hard for a cheating wife to FaceTime when she’s riding a work colleague. Always with the work colleagues.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

They always stay in Hiltons overseas. It's part of the contract. They all have wifi. They don't share rooms. I see zero reason why she can't spend 3 minutes at the end of the day saying hello, I'm safe, tell the kids I love them.

Reading the responses has me depressed. I just needed a gut check to see if my concerns were legit. I'm gonna have a long talk when she gets home.

Yup, Your gut is right. This is completely off. She should be able to facetime for 3 minutes.

You may consider holding off until you have more evidence. Because if she's affairing and gets suspicious she'll be more cautious. You might be better off putting a gps tracking thing in her luggage. Or a hidden recorder. What are they called? a voice activated recorder. I don't know how long they last, but if you could secret one into her purse or her luggage or laptop bag ... worth trying. Check her emails and her texting. Get some evidence before you accuse her.

Or, you know, talk to her. Since this is your wife and your marriage, not a stakeout. If I found out my husband had done all this to me, I'd divorce so fast his head would spin.

This.