Collecting friends' phones

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd support that. I assume if a kid wanted to reach a parent they could simply ask for their phone then.

+1

Love it. We all survived sleepovers and birthday parties without phones. Kids today will be fine.
--parent of a 15 and 11 year old

OP here-I'm of two minds. While yes, I agree they can survive without screens and it's responsible and kind not to cause drama on social media, I also see it as overstepping aboundary, as the hosting parent is essentially taking the child's personal property. I have told my girls and their friends, "put your phones down" and reminded them to not take pictures and post on social media when they're at our house, but stopped short of actually collecting their phones and holding them in my bedroom while they sleep. Something seems a little improper to me about that.

Oh good grief. The host mom isn't using the phones or selling them. She's not removing them from the property.

Maybe she should get those bags they make you lock your phone in for concerts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd support that. I assume if a kid wanted to reach a parent they could simply ask for their phone then.

Agreed. I think it would be good to let the parents know in advance too.
That way if they need to get in touch with their child they can call the home phone.

I agree, the house rules apply.

Do you people actually have "house rules?"
What kind of dysfunctional family needs an actual set of rules?

Every house has rules. We are not talking about a proclamation posted on the front door. Just general rules of conduct

Here are some of ours
No shoes in the house
No eating in the bedrooms
No laptop, kindle, ipad, etc during the week

I am sure once he is old enough to have a phone we'll add no phones at the table

So if your kid comes over I would expect them to take off their shoes and not eat in the bedrooms
If we were having an after school play date I might relax the screen time one.

Anytime DS has gone to sleepover with his own device I remind him that the rules of that house apply. When the parent says put the device away it goes away. I am fine with a parent "parenting" my child when my child is under that parent's supervision.

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[Anonymous]

All I got to say is thank goodness I don't have to interact with any of y'all nutjobs outside of waving, "Hi" when picking my kid up from school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is ridiculous to collect phones
It is ridiculous to attempt to parent other people's children
It is ridiculous to give your kid a phone if they can't be trusted with it
It is ridiculous to try to hide a sleepover from other kids so their feelings aren't hurt
It is ridiculous to invite kids over to your house who can't be trusted
And it's ridiculous to expect people with 10 year olds to have this conversation effectively with people who have 16 year olds.

You don't know they can't be trusted until they break that trust, an I right? Surely all parents whose children have turned out to be bullies or mean girls at one time "could be trusted." Your logic is idiotic, and that's putting it nicely. I question your parenting skills.

Sounds like you accompany your children every where and do all their activities with them. It's the only way you can be sure they don't break trust. It must be hard living with such fear.

[Anonymous]

Land the helicopters, ladies
Your children's future employment depends on it