I think my husband is secretly applying for jobs outside of DC

[Anonymous]

Yes, also in academia at public institutions.

[Anonymous]

Right now you are thinking about the you, you, you of today. Add 5-10 years, and then a smaller town, slower paced, family friendly locale will be awesome. This is your ticket out of the rat race. Embrace and celebrate!

[Anonymous]

You mentioned that your husband is Indian.

I lived in New Delhi for five years and my observation was that educated Indian men have a very high sense of entitlement and would never compromise their career goals for the sake of a spouse.

Remember, he comes from a society that still strongly believes in marriage dowrys.

In my five years there I never once met a successful indian man that would submit to what you are asking of your husband.

I befrinded an IndianAmerican woman there who was a Foreign Service Specialist at the American Embassy. She confided to me that she had pulled every string available to only get posted in the U.S, India and the U.K. as these were the only countries her Indian National businessman husband would follow her to. He told her if she got posted to a third world country she was on her own.

[Anonymous]

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in the middle of no where. Think Ohio , Alabama , Georgia.

I hope he finds a job in the middle of no where just to make you mad. I feel sorry for him to have a snob for a wife.

Yeah, better to have a hillbilly hick wife who pulls out her white robe and hood on the weekends

There's nothing snobby about not wanting to raise your family in a no diverse hick town where Friday night football is the big thing.

Wow. Talk about prejudice.

[Anonymous]

Interviewed recently for a faculty position. They received over 100 applications, chose four to interview and offered a job to one. Let your husband interview. Interviewing is always good practice, particularly academic interviews with a job talk. Before you start issuing ultimatums about where you will or will not live, see if he actually has the job.

[Anonymous]

Why would you buy a house while he is in school and you guys don't know where he will be able to find a job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interviewed recently for a faculty position. They received over 100 applications, chose four to interview and offered a job to one. Let your husband interview. Interviewing is always good practice, particularly academic interviews with a job talk. Before you start issuing ultimatums about where you will or will not live, see if he actually has the job.

Yes, good advice. And these days, I've seen/heard of people having to go on the fall job market for several cycles before finally landing a TT job. So it could be a longer process than anticipated, if he's focused only on academic TT jobs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Where in Ohio? It has three big cities.....

Oxford, Ohio

Why not here?

Cincinnati Children's Hospital Medical Center

Yes this could work but that would be one hell of a commute! I like having choices here in DC . It's nice knowing that I could find a job here in case something were to happen to my current job. I think I am always a bit worried about losing my job.

It's 40 miles from one to the other. THat is NOT one hell of a commute, princess.