My married friend told me that he's gay...

[Anonymous]

*wasn't

[Anonymous]

Wife here, I would want my husband to be honest and we'd go from there. I have zero desire to stay in a sham marriage or to deny us both the chance to find true happiness. This is not a case of pulling up your bootstraps and recommitting to your marriage.

Like PP's, I know two couples that this happened to--one husband and one wife. Everyone survived, and the adult children seem well adjusted and close to both sets of parents.

[Anonymous]

It's strange that some of you women would have no problem being married to a gay man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's strange that some of you women would have no problem being married to a gay man.

This is truly the craziest thing I've gotten out of this topic. I habe to think these are women who don't really enjoy sex or romance they would be just as happy without it.

As someone who has been married for 16years and who has passion and chemistry alive and well in my marriage, no way in hell would I want to remain married to a gay man, or bemarried to ANY man who was with me out of a sense of duty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's strange that some of you women would have no problem being married to a gay man.

This is truly the craziest thing I've gotten out of this topic. I habe to think these are women who don't really enjoy sex or romance they would be just as happy without it.

As someone who has been married for 16years and who has passion and chemistry alive and well in my marriage, no way in hell would I want to remain married to a gay man, or bemarried to ANY man who was with me out of a sense of duty.

I think some of these women already have sexless marriages, so they just don't care. Very sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's strange that some of you women would have no problem being married to a gay man.

This is truly the craziest thing I've gotten out of this topic. I habe to think these are women who don't really enjoy sex or romance they would be just as happy without it.

As someone who has been married for 16years and who has passion and chemistry alive and well in my marriage, no way in hell would I want to remain married to a gay man, or bemarried to ANY man who was with me out of a sense of duty.

Who says it would be sexless? If you stay married to keep your family in the same house it doesn't preclude either party from dating. Straight couples do this. Not sure why you think gay men care less about breaking up families than straight men. You may not be having sex with each other but that doesn't mean you aren't having sex at all. People do live like this and they aren't unhappy or putting on a sham marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's strange that some of you women would have no problem being married to a gay man.

This is truly the craziest thing I've gotten out of this topic. I habe to think these are women who don't really enjoy sex or romance they would be just as happy without it.

As someone who has been married for 16years and who has passion and chemistry alive and well in my marriage, no way in hell would I want to remain married to a gay man, or bemarried to ANY man who was with me out of a sense of duty.

Who says it would be sexless? If you stay married to keep your family in the same house it doesn't preclude either party from dating. Straight couples do this. Not sure why you think gay men care less about breaking up families than straight men. You may not be having sex with each other but that doesn't mean you aren't having sex at all. People do live like this and they aren't unhappy or putting on a sham marriage.

That is not what posters are saying. They are saying he has a duty to remain faithful to his wife.

Being a beard is a totally different situation.

[Anonymous]

in the meantime while he's, "finding himself" he could give his wife a nasty desease. I feel sorry for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:in the meantime while he's, "finding himself" he could give his wife a nasty desease. I feel sorry for her.

Gay guys aren't all promiscuous sex maniacs. It doesn't sound like this guy is likely get too wild.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:in the meantime while he's, "finding himself" he could give his wife a nasty desease. I feel sorry for her.

Gay guys aren't all promiscuous sex maniacs. It doesn't sound like this guy is likely get too wild.

-better check your statistics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:in the meantime while he's, "finding himself" he could give his wife a nasty desease. I feel sorry for her.

Gay guys aren't all promiscuous sex maniacs. It doesn't sound like this guy is likely get too wild.

-better check your statistics.

What are the statistics?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:in the meantime while he's, "finding himself" he could give his wife a nasty desease. I feel sorry for her.

Please. A gay man who is coming out to his wife and exploring his sexuality HONESTLY is a lot more likely to behave safely. The unsafe behavior is likely to result from a man being deeply in denial about his actions, being unwilling to use protection, and not being honest with his wife. If I knew my husband was sexually involved with people other than me, I would insist that we use condoms (if we had sex). If I did not know, I would assume that we could continue as before. That's when the diseases spread.