MIL upset over dinner misunderstanding

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like everyone knew and agreed to the plan to pick up Chick-fil-A for the kid on the way to the performance. I'm just saying I'd want some too if I were in that car.

But grandma wasn’t in the car. Because she chose to be late.

Op has never clarified how late she actually was. All we know is grandma called at 4 45 to say she was running late, and OP was ultimately surprised she got there as quickly as she did.

I asked the same questions pages ago. OP never responded. It's just the usual MIL bashing going on when we don't even have all the details. I bet this OP is the same as the thanksgiving menu MIL thread. The usual people get whipped up into a frenzy whenever MIL is involved and go on and on about it.

Yikes, you just commenting on every MIL-related thread to bash the OP? What's wrong with you?

The OP isn't in any of these threads. Do you know how any of this works? The OP is creating a story, posts exactly one follow up then leaves. It's her MO.

...so yes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you did anything wrong; I think your MIL is just highly sensitive about her place in the pecking order. However, I do think that changes of plans are harder for the elderly and it would have been nice for you to have left your mom at your house so that someone was there to meet MIL and explain what was happening. If I was dealing with two old ladies who were nervous about going to an event alone and finding parking, I wouldn’t have let one of them show up to an empty house.

Yep this right here is the perfect insight. You didn’t do anything wrong, but you didn’t make the best call. Aging really changes people’s adaptability. Just a fact to be aware of.

I agree with both of these posts. I would apologize only because it costs basically nothing to apologize and move on. Unless you needed your mom to run in to get the food while you double parked, would have been better to leave your mom at the house. Or at least a note on the door that says "Diane -- sorry just ran out to pick up Larla's chicken nuggets so we aren't late for show. Will be back in a flash to get you."
If you really want to make it up to her, invite her over for something when your mom isn't there.

PS someone needs to invent a Larla analog for adults.

PPS Whoever was saying that they should have just skipped the chicken nuggets has never dealt with a tween with anxiety. Choral/orchestra concert night was THE WORST at my house, and not helped by the fact that our choral/orchestra/band directors were pitching their pre-concert message for the kids that ignore everything, not the kids that stress over everything (e.g., "If you are not on stage in full concert dress by 6 p.m. sharp, you will receive an F on the performance in my class." -- Despite the fact that I NEVER saw this happen in 10 years of MS performances, my anxious kids could not be convinced they would not fail if they were not on the stage at 5:55.).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like everyone knew and agreed to the plan to pick up Chick-fil-A for the kid on the way to the performance. I'm just saying I'd want some too if I were in that car.

But grandma wasn’t in the car. Because she chose to be late.

Op has never clarified how late she actually was. All we know is grandma called at 4 45 to say she was running late, and OP was ultimately surprised she got there as quickly as she did.

I asked the same questions pages ago. OP never responded. It's just the usual MIL bashing going on when we don't even have all the details. I bet this OP is the same as the thanksgiving menu MIL thread. The usual people get whipped up into a frenzy whenever MIL is involved and go on and on about it.

Yikes, you just commenting on every MIL-related thread to bash the OP? What's wrong with you?

The OP isn't in any of these threads. Do you know how any of this works? The OP is creating a story, posts exactly one follow up then leaves. It's her MO.

So not only are you derailing every MIL adjacent thread, you don't even pay attention to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like everyone knew and agreed to the plan to pick up Chick-fil-A for the kid on the way to the performance. I'm just saying I'd want some too if I were in that car.

But grandma wasn’t in the car. Because she chose to be late.

Op has never clarified how late she actually was. All we know is grandma called at 4 45 to say she was running late, and OP was ultimately surprised she got there as quickly as she did.

I asked the same questions pages ago. OP never responded. It's just the usual MIL bashing going on when we don't even have all the details. I bet this OP is the same as the thanksgiving menu MIL thread. The usual people get whipped up into a frenzy whenever MIL is involved and go on and on about it.

Yikes, you just commenting on every MIL-related thread to bash the OP? What's wrong with you?

The OP isn't in any of these threads. Do you know how any of this works? The OP is creating a story, posts exactly one follow up then leaves. It's her MO.

...so yes.

You honestly think you're giving advice to an OP who just can't figure out how to deal with this fake MIL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Next time don't invite her.

Lol, this. Easy solution.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like everyone knew and agreed to the plan to pick up Chick-fil-A for the kid on the way to the performance. I'm just saying I'd want some too if I were in that car.

But grandma wasn’t in the car. Because she chose to be late.

Op has never clarified how late she actually was. All we know is grandma called at 4 45 to say she was running late, and OP was ultimately surprised she got there as quickly as she did.

I asked the same questions pages ago. OP never responded. It's just the usual MIL bashing going on when we don't even have all the details. I bet this OP is the same as the thanksgiving menu MIL thread. The usual people get whipped up into a frenzy whenever MIL is involved and go on and on about it.

Yikes, you just commenting on every MIL-related thread to bash the OP? What's wrong with you?

The OP isn't in any of these threads. Do you know how any of this works? The OP is creating a story, posts exactly one follow up then leaves. It's her MO.

...so yes.

You honestly think you're giving advice to an OP who just can't figure out how to deal with this fake MIL?

You're just trolling then. Are you ok? Did something happen to make you extra upset today? Did your son or DIL not say they loved you or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like everyone knew and agreed to the plan to pick up Chick-fil-A for the kid on the way to the performance. I'm just saying I'd want some too if I were in that car.

But grandma wasn’t in the car. Because she chose to be late.

I'm not saying this as if I were the MIL in this story. I'm just just saying if I'm in a car that is stopping for Chick-fil-A, I'd want some too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like everyone knew and agreed to the plan to pick up Chick-fil-A for the kid on the way to the performance. I'm just saying I'd want some too if I were in that car.

But grandma wasn’t in the car. Because she chose to be late.

Op has never clarified how late she actually was. All we know is grandma called at 4 45 to say she was running late, and OP was ultimately surprised she got there as quickly as she did.

I asked the same questions pages ago. OP never responded. It's just the usual MIL bashing going on when we don't even have all the details. I bet this OP is the same as the thanksgiving menu MIL thread. The usual people get whipped up into a frenzy whenever MIL is involved and go on and on about it.

Yikes, you just commenting on every MIL-related thread to bash the OP? What's wrong with you?

The OP isn't in any of these threads. Do you know how any of this works? The OP is creating a story, posts exactly one follow up then leaves. It's her MO.

...so yes.

You honestly think you're giving advice to an OP who just can't figure out how to deal with this fake MIL?

You're just trolling then. Are you ok? Did something happen to make you extra upset today? Did your son or DIL not say they loved you or something?

Babe, take your own advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like everyone knew and agreed to the plan to pick up Chick-fil-A for the kid on the way to the performance. I'm just saying I'd want some too if I were in that car.

But grandma wasn’t in the car. Because she chose to be late.

Op has never clarified how late she actually was. All we know is grandma called at 4 45 to say she was running late, and OP was ultimately surprised she got there as quickly as she did.

I asked the same questions pages ago. OP never responded. It's just the usual MIL bashing going on when we don't even have all the details. I bet this OP is the same as the thanksgiving menu MIL thread. The usual people get whipped up into a frenzy whenever MIL is involved and go on and on about it.

What boundaries did you trample on to create the issues you have with your DIL?

Why can't the OP just explain the timeline though?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like everyone knew and agreed to the plan to pick up Chick-fil-A for the kid on the way to the performance. I'm just saying I'd want some too if I were in that car.

But grandma wasn’t in the car. Because she chose to be late.

Op has never clarified how late she actually was. All we know is grandma called at 4 45 to say she was running late, and OP was ultimately surprised she got there as quickly as she did.

I asked the same questions pages ago. OP never responded. It's just the usual MIL bashing going on when we don't even have all the details. I bet this OP is the same as the thanksgiving menu MIL thread. The usual people get whipped up into a frenzy whenever MIL is involved and go on and on about it.

What boundaries did you trample on to create the issues you have with your DIL?

Why can't the OP just explain the timeline though?

I asked this on the previous page and was asked to sit this one out. So to that user: I'm not the only one