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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think you did anything wrong; I think your MIL is just highly sensitive about her place in the pecking order. However, I do think that changes of plans are harder for the elderly and it would have been nice for you to have left your mom at your house so that someone was there to meet MIL and explain what was happening. If I was dealing with two old ladies who were nervous about going to an event alone and finding parking, I wouldn’t have let one of them show up to an empty house.[/quote]

Yep this right here is the perfect insight. You didn’t do anything wrong, but you didn’t make the best call. Aging really changes people’s adaptability. Just a fact to be aware of. [/quote]

I agree with both of these posts.  I would apologize only because it costs basically nothing to apologize and move on.  Unless you needed your mom to run in to get the food while you double parked, would have been better to leave your mom at the house.  Or at least a note on the door that says "Diane -- sorry just ran out to pick up Larla's chicken nuggets so we aren't late for show.  Will be back in a flash to get you."
If you really want to make it up to her, invite her over for something when your mom isn't there.

PS someone needs to invent a Larla analog for adults.

PPS Whoever was saying that they should have just skipped the chicken nuggets has never dealt with a tween with anxiety.  Choral/orchestra concert night was THE WORST at my house, and not helped by the fact that our choral/orchestra/band directors were pitching their pre-concert message for the kids that ignore everything, not the kids that stress over everything (e.g., "If you are not on stage in full concert dress by 6 p.m. sharp, you will receive an F on the performance in my class." -- Despite the fact that I NEVER saw this happen in 10 years of MS performances, my anxious kids could not be convinced they would not fail if they were not on the stage at 5:55.).[/quote]

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