If you are a sugar baby why did you decide to be one?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a SB because it makes sense. Most men are cheaters or have some major flaw. Why settle down with someone who’s going to treat.

I’m smart, beautiful, and in my 40s. I’ll ride it out til it ends.

Smart woman.

I'm doing this too! I'm early 40s, Masters in Kinesiology. I'm a personal trainer and Pilates teacher (own my studio) and thru that I meet tons of men. I'm very petite so I have alwys looked younger. I've been taken on wonderful trips and received beautiful jewelry and expensive bags and clothes. When I needed to upgrade my studio one of my guys gave me the money. It saves me tens of thousands on paying for my worldly vacations and I am keeping the goods to sell for extra retirement money.

I know I won't look like this forever but so far so good.

It amazes me why men waste their money like this. Can someone explain? Some wealthy women may do so but nowhere near the extent men do it.

I actually credit to this sexy sugar baby but not saying " because she deserved it".

Supply and demand. Because men like sex with attractive women out of their league and most can’t easily do that without paying for it. If men could do this for free they would, believe me. You can think of it as paying for experiences vs things.

That's stupid. Men derive a lot of sexual satisfaction from PIV. The woman could be 400 lbs, very ugly, if a man finds a way to cover her face and rail her from.the back he will do so..once he cums that urge for sex is gone. So the fact that some men are willing to put a woman on payroll just for that come on lol

Quintessential “I have zero understanding of the male gender” moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My last few relationships haven't been official SB relationships, but they have been 8-15 years older than me and pay for our dates (I'll buy some snacks at the gas station or little things like that).

My friends have sugar daddies who pay per date. They have larger age gaps and more red flags but it works for them.

they buy you dinner in exchange for …?

[Anonymous]

Where is the best place to find a sugar baby?

[Anonymous]

These threads about sugaring bother me. It feels like virtual pimping and thinly veiled attempt to recruit women into prostitution. I suppose you are targeting young women and also middle-aged women who are single mothers and/or divorced and strapped for cash (the latter likely more the case for this site).

The reality is, these sites are pretty seedy despite the glamorizing spin on it. Wealthy men who are attractive can get plenty of sex without paying for it (yes, even the married ones). It’s the gross men or the sexual deviants who have to resort to this. There is a danger aspect to it, which goes both ways, for the men and women who do this. Where there is money, there are criminal elements looking to take advantage.

I don’t care if other grown adult women do this. But as a mother, I won’t stand for it. And as a woman I won’t stand for it. I don’t see any similar threat encouraging men to be male escorts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where is the best place to find a sugar baby?

Seeking.com

You need a LOT of patience though. the site has a lot more scammers and toe dippers than legit sugar babies

And DC tends to be ugly babies. You will find a gem or two but she will be expensive

If you travel for work, cities like LA and NYC are sugar daddy heaven

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These threads about sugaring bother me. It feels like virtual pimping and thinly veiled attempt to recruit women into prostitution. I suppose you are targeting young women and also middle-aged women who are single mothers and/or divorced and strapped for cash (the latter likely more the case for this site).

The reality is, these sites are pretty seedy despite the glamorizing spin on it. Wealthy men who are attractive can get plenty of sex without paying for it (yes, even the married ones). It’s the gross men or the sexual deviants who have to resort to this. There is a danger aspect to it, which goes both ways, for the men and women who do this. Where there is money, there are criminal elements looking to take advantage.

I don’t care if other grown adult women do this. But as a mother, I won’t stand for it. And as a woman I won’t stand for it. I don’t see any similar threat encouraging men to be male escorts.

+1

It's just prostitution. Period. "Sugar baby" and "sugar daddy" are just prostitute and john. And nope, calling it "sex work" is just an attempt to normalize and destigmatize it. It should be stigmatized. Go on, DCUM, blast me, I don't care.

Among desperate women who are truly in dire straits, without other viable options, I understand why they'd turn to prostitution. But college students, young women entering the workforce, grown-ass adult women who are already earning? They don't have the excuse of being truly indigent, or without any other options, or being forced into that life. They choose to sell themselves for (as some have listed here) nicer apartments, designer bags, jewelry, trips. I guess they divorce sex from emotion or self-respect entirely. I suppose they'll say they respect themselves for finding a way to have the goodies they desire. I wonder how many of them, when (or if) they fall in love, wiliingly tell the men they love about how they sold themselves for designer goodies? Not food or a roof over their heads, but a posher apartment and new clothes?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My last few relationships haven't been official SB relationships, but they have been 8-15 years older than me and pay for our dates (I'll buy some snacks at the gas station or little things like that).

My friends have sugar daddies who pay per date. They have larger age gaps and more red flags but it works for them.

they buy you dinner in exchange for …?

It's not so much of an exchange thing for me. I actually like them and enjoy sex with them. I'm just saying that since they are older, I expect more financially. If we are going away for a night they pay for the room, etc. Women my age typically have a 50/50 mindset, which I have gotten away from. But these are boyfriends, not sugar daddies.

My friends are the ones who have real sugar daddies. They pay about 500 per date.

[Anonymous]

Sex is often transactional, in and out of relationships. Look at how many women want an expensive piece of jewelry (ring) in order to agree to marry someone. They set the stage for needing material things and money in order to share their affection / intimacy. And it continues in marriage. Read the relationship forum threads.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My last few relationships haven't been official SB relationships, but they have been 8-15 years older than me and pay for our dates (I'll buy some snacks at the gas station or little things like that).

My friends have sugar daddies who pay per date. They have larger age gaps and more red flags but it works for them.

they buy you dinner in exchange for …?

It's not so much of an exchange thing for me. I actually like them and enjoy sex with them. I'm just saying that since they are older, I expect more financially. If we are going away for a night they pay for the room, etc. Women my age typically have a 50/50 mindset, which I have gotten away from. But these are boyfriends, not sugar daddies.

My friends are the ones who have real sugar daddies. They pay about 500 per date.

You have interesting friends. It’s flat one prostitution and they don’t pay for “dates”. They pay for a sex session. $500 is a cheap prostitute rate particular given they need to spend on medical, clothing, contraception etc. I bet the session is not hour long so the girl actually gets something about $50-100/hr, close to Uber driver .

I cant imagine a woman making $600/hr at a professors job doing it.

Men usually exploit women in art-related professions - models, dancers etc. The perv guy who was propositioning this on a date with me had a prior SB who was a dancer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These threads about sugaring bother me. It feels like virtual pimping and thinly veiled attempt to recruit women into prostitution. I suppose you are targeting young women and also middle-aged women who are single mothers and/or divorced and strapped for cash (the latter likely more the case for this site).

The reality is, these sites are pretty seedy despite the glamorizing spin on it. Wealthy men who are attractive can get plenty of sex without paying for it (yes, even the married ones). It’s the gross men or the sexual deviants who have to resort to this. There is a danger aspect to it, which goes both ways, for the men and women who do this. Where there is money, there are criminal elements looking to take advantage.

I don’t care if other grown adult women do this. But as a mother, I won’t stand for it. And as a woman I won’t stand for it. I don’t see any similar threat encouraging men to be male escorts.

+100.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sex is often transactional, in and out of relationships. Look at how many women want an expensive piece of jewelry (ring) in order to agree to marry someone. They set the stage for needing material things and money in order to share their affection / intimacy. And it continues in marriage. Read the relationship forum threads.

stop trying to normalize prostitution.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My last few relationships haven't been official SB relationships, but they have been 8-15 years older than me and pay for our dates (I'll buy some snacks at the gas station or little things like that).

My friends have sugar daddies who pay per date. They have larger age gaps and more red flags but it works for them.

they buy you dinner in exchange for …?

It's not so much of an exchange thing for me. I actually like them and enjoy sex with them. I'm just saying that since they are older, I expect more financially. If we are going away for a night they pay for the room, etc. Women my age typically have a 50/50 mindset, which I have gotten away from. But these are boyfriends, not sugar daddies.

My friends are the ones who have real sugar daddies. They pay about 500 per date.

You have interesting friends. It’s flat one prostitution and they don’t pay for “dates”. They pay for a sex session. $500 is a cheap prostitute rate particular given they need to spend on medical, clothing, contraception etc. I bet the session is not hour long so the girl actually gets something about $50-100/hr, close to Uber driver .

I cant imagine a woman making $600/hr at a professors job doing it.

Men usually exploit women in art-related professions - models, dancers etc. The perv guy who was propositioning this on a date with me had a prior SB who was a dancer.

from a purely economic standpoint, the “sugaring” transaction affords some additional value to the woman that might make it rationale to give a discount. if the customer agrees to a regular schedule AND the “baby” ascertains that he is safe and the kind of sex he wants isn’t painful or overly difficult for her, then there’s reason for her to give him a discount. It’s a much better deal than having to have a pimp for security, see a new man every weekend, and face the continued risk of violence/painful sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My last few relationships haven't been official SB relationships, but they have been 8-15 years older than me and pay for our dates (I'll buy some snacks at the gas station or little things like that).

My friends have sugar daddies who pay per date. They have larger age gaps and more red flags but it works for them.

they buy you dinner in exchange for …?

It's not so much of an exchange thing for me. I actually like them and enjoy sex with them. I'm just saying that since they are older, I expect more financially. If we are going away for a night they pay for the room, etc. Women my age typically have a 50/50 mindset, which I have gotten away from. But these are boyfriends, not sugar daddies.

My friends are the ones who have real sugar daddies. They pay about 500 per date.

You have interesting friends. It’s flat one prostitution and they don’t pay for “dates”. They pay for a sex session. $500 is a cheap prostitute rate particular given they need to spend on medical, clothing, contraception etc. I bet the session is not hour long so the girl actually gets something about $50-100/hr, close to Uber driver .

I cant imagine a woman making $600/hr at a professors job doing it.

Men usually exploit women in art-related professions - models, dancers etc. The perv guy who was propositioning this on a date with me had a prior SB who was a dancer.

from a purely economic standpoint, the “sugaring” transaction affords some additional value to the woman that might make it rationale to give a discount. if the customer agrees to a regular schedule AND the “baby” ascertains that he is safe and the kind of sex he wants isn’t painful or overly difficult for her, then there’s reason for her to give him a discount. It’s a much better deal than having to have a pimp for security, see a new man every weekend, and face the continued risk of violence/painful sex.

I hope you and other posters realize how horrendous is what you wrote. Women shouldn't be going on Seeking.com romanticizing prostitution or hoping to land a millionaire. Even if they look like Julia Roberts, chances are they will be treated like a cheap wh...

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand how you can be okay with sex outside marriage but be against prostitution. They are both wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Where is the best place to find a sugar baby?

Seeking.com

You need a LOT of patience though. the site has a lot more scammers and toe dippers than legit sugar babies

And DC tends to be ugly babies. You will find a gem or two but she will be expensive

If you travel for work, cities like LA and NYC are sugar daddy heaven