Big Law spouses - give me your tips and tricks

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Anonymous wrote:I am a SAHM of 5 kids ages 9 and under. We homeschool. My husband is extremely busy. One part of being a high-earning family is having a large home that we open to others weekly, often multiple times. And that requires a lot of maintenance. Our house manager has changed my life. She comes two full days a week and one half-day and works from home one day. She does anything and everything house-related and also some childcare. A light bulb is burned out - I text or email her and she changes it when she’s next there. Garage door stops working? She’s on it. Just some examples. She handles pool cleaners, house cleaners, yard guys, HVAC, fridge repair, locksmith, general contractor, car inspections, really anything. And sets up for parties. It’s hard to find a good house manager - it took many months of working with an agency. But it became clear right away that we got a really good one. I highly recommend going this route to make your life easier. And it also means my husband isn’t working on honey-do lists when he’s home. (Although he is handy and enjoys doing some manual labor himself.)

I wish there was some way of contacting you. We should be friends. I send to private school though. Can't imagine home schooling unless you hire people

Do you mean hire people to homeschool? It’s really not too hard to do yourself. I enjoy it a lot … but I also have a nanny two mornings a week and use her and the house manager to watch the toddler while I do lessons. We have a new baby and aren’t getting anything done at the moment n

I have full time help and a new baby and I cannot do what you're doing!

My husband spends hours working daily on paternity leave. Not complaining, just it's a different lifestyle. We don't have a house manager but we have a lot of help. I didn't want to be dependent on one person.

[Anonymous]

Who on earth would homeschool if they were married to a big law partner. That’s what people who can’t afford private school do in lieu of public school.

Just saying. I didn’t whore myself out to big law associates in my 20s just to be teaching a snot nosed kid how to count by fives in my 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who on earth would homeschool if they were married to a big law partner. That’s what people who can’t afford private school do in lieu of public school.

Just saying. I didn’t whore myself out to big law associates in my 20s just to be teaching a snot nosed kid how to count by fives in my 30s.

I laughed out loud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who on earth would homeschool if they were married to a big law partner. That’s what people who can’t afford private school do in lieu of public school.

Just saying. I didn’t whore myself out to big law associates in my 20s just to be teaching a snot nosed kid how to count by fives in my 30s.

I laughed out loud.

And I’m laughing all the way to the bank because I used to stand at the bus stop outside Gibson Dunn in a low cut top.

[Anonymous]

I am the homeschooling PP. It is a joy to learn alongside my kids. I have a top law degree myself but the time I get to spend with my kids is worth so much more to me and to our family than working outside the home. (I can say this because I have help!)

Sorry to the PP who asked for the agency name - I didn’t like the agency at all and I’m not in DC. I’m sure there are many in the DC area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the homeschooling PP. It is a joy to learn alongside my kids. I have a top law degree myself but the time I get to spend with my kids is worth so much more to me and to our family than working outside the home. (I can say this because I have help!)

Sorry to the PP who asked for the agency name - I didn’t like the agency at all and I’m not in DC. I’m sure there are many in the DC area.

This really is weird. Homeschool parents are poor. I don’t know anyone…anyone that homeschools their kids themselves that has $$$$s.

The only rich people that homeschool (and they would never actually use the term) hire professionals and it is usually because they take their kids on their 200 foot yacht (true story) around the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the homeschooling PP. It is a joy to learn alongside my kids. I have a top law degree myself but the time I get to spend with my kids is worth so much more to me and to our family than working outside the home. (I can say this because I have help!)

Sorry to the PP who asked for the agency name - I didn’t like the agency at all and I’m not in DC. I’m sure there are many in the DC area.

This really is weird. Homeschool parents are poor. I don’t know anyone…anyone that homeschools their kids themselves that has $$$$s.

The only rich people that homeschool (and they would never actually use the term) hire professionals and it is usually because they take their kids on their 200 foot yacht (true story) around the world.

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DP. I know a family with a huge amount of money that homeschools. The mom could have been a Fortune 500 CEO if she hadn't stayed home with her kids if the way she runs her home is any indication.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who on earth would homeschool if they were married to a big law partner. That’s what people who can’t afford private school do in lieu of public school.

Just saying. I didn’t whore myself out to big law associates in my 20s just to be teaching a snot nosed kid how to count by fives in my 30s.

😂😂😂

I homeschooled too. I did it during virtual learning, for obvious reasons, and then it turned out that I absolutely loved it. I would have kept doing it if I was better about making sure my kid had a social life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the homeschooling PP. It is a joy to learn alongside my kids. I have a top law degree myself but the time I get to spend with my kids is worth so much more to me and to our family than working outside the home. (I can say this because I have help!)

Sorry to the PP who asked for the agency name - I didn’t like the agency at all and I’m not in DC. I’m sure there are many in the DC area.

This really is weird. Homeschool parents are poor. I don’t know anyone…anyone that homeschools their kids themselves that has $$$$s.

The only rich people that homeschool (and they would never actually use the term) hire professionals and it is usually because they take their kids on their 200 foot yacht (true story) around the world.

Lots of people homeschool because they are trying to indoctrinate their children in some weird fringe religion or don’t believe science, etc. I’d imagine the Venn diagram between that and big law would be small, but you never know.

[Anonymous]

I regret not homeschooling in elementary. I would have taken advantage of it to do extended travel. Covid homeschooling was a lot more effective for us than school too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the homeschooling PP. It is a joy to learn alongside my kids. I have a top law degree myself but the time I get to spend with my kids is worth so much more to me and to our family than working outside the home. (I can say this because I have help!)

Sorry to the PP who asked for the agency name - I didn’t like the agency at all and I’m not in DC. I’m sure there are many in the DC area.

I think it's more interesting that you have more than 3 kids.

And I don't have a degree (so clearly my husband married me only for my looks... just kidding!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a SAHM of 5 kids ages 9 and under. We homeschool. My husband is extremely busy. One part of being a high-earning family is having a large home that we open to others weekly, often multiple times. And that requires a lot of maintenance. Our house manager has changed my life. She comes two full days a week and one half-day and works from home one day. She does anything and everything house-related and also some childcare. A light bulb is burned out - I text or email her and she changes it when she’s next there. Garage door stops working? She’s on it. Just some examples. She handles pool cleaners, house cleaners, yard guys, HVAC, fridge repair, locksmith, general contractor, car inspections, really anything. And sets up for parties. It’s hard to find a good house manager - it took many months of working with an agency. But it became clear right away that we got a really good one. I highly recommend going this route to make your life easier. And it also means my husband isn’t working on honey-do lists when he’s home. (Although he is handy and enjoys doing some manual labor himself.)

Can you give us an idea of what you pay for this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the homeschooling PP. It is a joy to learn alongside my kids. I have a top law degree myself but the time I get to spend with my kids is worth so much more to me and to our family than working outside the home. (I can say this because I have help!)

Sorry to the PP who asked for the agency name - I didn’t like the agency at all and I’m not in DC. I’m sure there are many in the DC area.

I’m sorry but you sound like a flaming weirdo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the homeschooling PP. It is a joy to learn alongside my kids. I have a top law degree myself but the time I get to spend with my kids is worth so much more to me and to our family than working outside the home. (I can say this because I have help!)

Sorry to the PP who asked for the agency name - I didn’t like the agency at all and I’m not in DC. I’m sure there are many in the DC area.

I’m sorry but you sound like a flaming weirdo.

I think she sounds awesome.
Signed, pp who is also married to an (equity) partner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the homeschooling PP. It is a joy to learn alongside my kids. I have a top law degree myself but the time I get to spend with my kids is worth so much more to me and to our family than working outside the home. (I can say this because I have help!)

Sorry to the PP who asked for the agency name - I didn’t like the agency at all and I’m not in DC. I’m sure there are many in the DC area.

I totally get you, PP! I am the PP who also homeschooled for a bit, and I don't think that people get how fun and rewarding homeschooling can be. I learned so much history, science, grammar, literature, math, etc. And a lot of parents complain about their kids using tech in school and not learning handwriting; guess what? My son has great handwriting and he was almost tech-free for a year and a half (he did typing, coding, and online "tours" of art museums and historical sites). We did no religious instruction.

I think it's great that OP isn't going to quit her job; a bit part of thriving as a big law spouse is doing what makes you happy as much as you can. For me for that period of time it was definitely homeschooling.

Side note: the amount of money PP would spend on tutors or private school to give her kids the education they are getting now would be substantially more than my husband's entire income. He is, however, a lowly non-equity partner, so maybe PP could actually afford it.