DD Semester Away: I hate you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD went to Spain with a bunch of kids from her school for a semester abroad.

Out of the blue I get a text, “I’ve been talking to my friends, and they all agree you are a horrible controlling parent and I don’t want to talk to you.”

I didn’t respond because she said she didn’t want to talk to me, and I felt she was just baiting me anyway. The only time this came up at home was when I wouldn’t permit her to go a HS party when I knew the parents were out of town. I told her then I will not apologize for parenting. It turns out that one kid got so drunk that another kid called an ambulance. I never said “told you so” or anything like that, but apparently that made it all the worse that I didn’t let her go because everyone who went was talking about the drama and she was an outsider.

Apparently she has been harboring feelings about this over the past several years. I didn’t stop her from dating, or going out with her friends. She dressed the way she wanted to, took the classes she wanted to, did whatever hobbies that interested her. I can’t think of any other time I gave her a hard no and I was within my right as a parent to say no.

I am a single parent so I guess there is no one else for her to blame. WWYD? I am inclined to do what she wants and just not text her.

Tell her you're going no contact to honor her request. Let her know her possessions will be packed and out front on the say she returns.

[Anonymous]

End all support. A few years working the Deli at Giant or mopping floors at an Assisted Living Center May properly adjust her attitude.

[Anonymous]

what if she was kidnapped and was told to text that/someone texted on her behalf?

that way, you won't think it is weird if you can't reach her. are there chaperones there? Can you confirm that she is ok?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what if she was kidnapped and was told to text that/someone texted on her behalf?

that way, you won't think it is weird if you can't reach her. are there chaperones there? Can you confirm that she is ok?

It sounds like OP's daughter is in college, not high school. There most likely would not be chaperones, as they are adults.

[Anonymous]

So, are you sure SHE sent it? I have seen kids prank their friends by sending texts like these from the friends phone.

[Anonymous]

I would call to make sure she actually sent the text. I wouldn't assume it was from her.

[Anonymous]

Original post was from January.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Original post was from January.

That's not that long ago. I've seen some threads pop up after years!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ignore her text.

Are you paying for her to be there?

Stop.

Cut off her phone. Ie suspend service.

Car insurance cut it off.

way to prove the girl right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, your DD could be extremely stressed about by being in another country. It's very difficult. Also, she could be coming under the influence of unsavory people. She is your daughter. Try contacting her to find out how she is. Text her, "Please call me" and then talk to her about her experience in this new place, and maybe, maybe also about her very concerning text but only if you get the feeling she is okay. She doesn't sound okay though. She needs your help.

No. Texting "please call me" is indeed controlling. I don't even like it when non-controlling people text me that.

Op should either: call her and leave a voicemail asking for a call back, nicely. Text her back saying "I really want to discuss this with you. I'll call you later this week." Or text her "call me whenever you're ready to talk."

Call and leave a voicemail??🤣🤣🤣 do you even have teens.

OP the best answer was the poster who said to text back and remind her you love her and you are sorry she felt that way. Most likely she was drinking and got overly emotional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Original post was from January.

Ugh - I hate when people bump old posts and you only realize after you read 1/2 the posts!

[Anonymous]

OP - any updates?

[Anonymous]

Following up

[Anonymous]

Why were so many responses so scorched earth and vindictive? Such a petty way to treat your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why were so many responses so scorched earth and vindictive? Such a petty way to treat your kid.

It's truly bizarre. This post reads a little fake. But if it's real, I would respond - I love you and always want to be a better mom for you. I'll call you tomorrow.
OP - were you not planning on visiting her at some point?