Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Do you have a phone? Use it and look up the menu. If you miss the order window, oh well. I’m sure you can find a way to feed yourself.

Yes, I’ll likely get some real food for myself, not chemical-saturated fast food.

Be sure to tell the 6yo birthday kid that you won’t be participating in their birthday dinner, Dad. Or should you have gotten to override a child’s birthday pick?

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?

Well, certainly, but some of us know the difference between working on cancer treatments and getting tired, hungry kids some fast food as requested by the birthday girl on the way home from an excursion. I’m not rushing anyone along when ordering at a fine dining establishment. There is an art to knowing when to be a perfectionist and when to go with the flow. I think it’s a valuable skill. -OP

PP you replied to. Sorry, I disagree entirely. Just because it's lowly fast-food, doesn't mean every item is the same. Just because it's a kid movie, doesn't mean there isn't a wide range of quality. It seems as though you care more about getting through the day, even if you don't enjoy it, than you care about savoring each moment. That's unutterably strange to me.

I actually don't know any people like you, OP. None of my friends or relatives are as impatient/impulsive and seemingly un-discerning as you. I agree that extreme personalities are always a little difficult, but in the case you're describing, I have to wonder if you're the extreme personality.

Please know that the DCUM sample is very skewed. You are the difficult ones. Spending time thinking about the Chik Fil A order when you know a person is trying to put the order in and you know what the options at Chik Fil A are is rude and self centered. You are saying - I do not care that you are the person responsible for the planning and procurement of the meal and the planning and organization of the rest of the day. Please stop what you are doing and wait while I, king of the castle have some deep thoughts about the merits of each CFA option, and also, read the CFA menu to me, like you are my servant, because I am too busy to pull up the phone or recall the information that is likely stored in my brain about the CFA options. I need to really think hard about whether I want the strips or the nuggets, or a grilled v fried sandwich. Because every single morsel that goes into my mouth must be absolute perfection and exactly what I desire at all times.

I’m absolutely loving how spun up people are about this. Also, that these supposedly busy people have time to post multiple paragraph screeds about it. This thread is hilarious!

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Sorry moron, in this case OPs husband has eaten there. He knows what's on the menu, this isn't about you. But then you're probably the type OP is talking about. Can't go with the flow, need to be special, all eyes on you.

I got your attention, didn’t I?

I mean, the PP is right. You apparently weren’t capable of reading the OP closely enough to see that the husband had eaten there many times before. So your comment about *you* having never eaten there was completely irrelevant.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Sorry moron, in this case OPs husband has eaten there. He knows what's on the menu, this isn't about you. But then you're probably the type OP is talking about. Can't go with the flow, need to be special, all eyes on you.

I got your attention, didn’t I?

I mean, the PP is right. You apparently weren’t capable of reading the OP closely enough to see that the husband had eaten there many times before. So your comment about *you* having never eaten there was completely irrelevant.

+1. Look at the selfish, fussy man outing himself as self-centered and fussy!

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Anonymous wrote:I think these people must not be understanding that you've actually made a decision, not so much throwing an idea out. If you've already decided to see Migration, it's not "do you feel like seeing a movie today?" They think there's room to negotiate or come up with alternatives. For indecisive people, maybe your language needs to be more direct without question marks.

Yeah the dude needs to understand that it’s the kids who run the show and he, I am sorry, “they” are an afterthought

Nobody else’s kid runs my life. Maybe they feel the same.

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Anonymous wrote:You seem really pushy OP
If you feel this way, just don't ask them or ask all ahead of time. I hate pushy people who rush others. Your imaginary deadline isn't anyone's issue. It's yours

I’m not OP, but how do you get anything done? A movie starts at a set time. That’s not an imaginary deadline. If you show up 40 minutes late, they don’t restart it from the beginning for you.

Movies are scheduled well in advance.

So your spouse can’t wake up on a rainy Sunday and suggest a movie? That’s sad AF.

WTH? Of course they can suggest it but it is super annoying to get bent out of shape over it like OP is doing. Suggest a movie, not demand it and be pushy AF about it.

She wasn’t demanding or pushy. She was taking her kids to see a movie they requested. She invited ILs to come along, on her dime, and gave them more than an hour to decide. If you think that’s “pushy,” you have issues.

Oooh, “on her dime.” Wowowowow. A movie. Noblesse oblige, indeed!

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Do you have a phone? Use it and look up the menu. If you miss the order window, oh well. I’m sure you can find a way to feed yourself.

Yes, I’ll likely get some real food for myself, not chemical-saturated fast food.

Be sure to tell the 6yo birthday kid that you won’t be participating in their birthday dinner, Dad. Or should you have gotten to override a child’s birthday pick?

I would never buy a kid CFA, since, as someone pointed out earlier, it is owned by homophobes. So it wouldn’t be an option. But keep financing hate, while you proudly display an “in this house we believe” sign on your lawn. Hypocrisy at its finest.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?

Well, certainly, but some of us know the difference between working on cancer treatments and getting tired, hungry kids some fast food as requested by the birthday girl on the way home from an excursion. I’m not rushing anyone along when ordering at a fine dining establishment. There is an art to knowing when to be a perfectionist and when to go with the flow. I think it’s a valuable skill. -OP

This.

My spouse and in-laws are like this. We need to have long, drawn out discussions about when we plan to leave for the vacation destination or holiday event…when will we leave, when will we arrive, what about traffic, parking, meals, etc. It’s exhausting. It’s like they are incapable of relaxing.

Then every now and then my spouse will throw me a curveball. I’ll anticipate the usual perseveration over unimportant minutiae and then out of nowhere he will accuse me of not going with the flow…when the reality is he just needs to be in control. He needs to leave when he is ready, eat what he wants when he is hungry, exercise on his schedule, etc. Exhausting.

I periodically travel for business and I’ve noticed I have more fun sightseeing on my own schedule. I also maintain a more relaxed vibe at our vacation home when he isn’t there. The kids really aren’t difficult or high maintenance…but my husband is.

Knowing his parents and siblings, I realize it’s not his fault. He was conditioned.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Do you have a phone? Use it and look up the menu. If you miss the order window, oh well. I’m sure you can find a way to feed yourself.

Yes, I’ll likely get some real food for myself, not chemical-saturated fast food.

Be sure to tell the 6yo birthday kid that you won’t be participating in their birthday dinner, Dad. Or should you have gotten to override a child’s birthday pick?

I would never buy a kid CFA, since, as someone pointed out earlier, it is owned by homophobes. So it wouldn’t be an option. But keep financing hate, while you proudly display an “in this house we believe” sign on your lawn. Hypocrisy at its finest.

your boycott will surely put CFA out of business

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Anonymous wrote:You seem really pushy OP
If you feel this way, just don't ask them or ask all ahead of time. I hate pushy people who rush others. Your imaginary deadline isn't anyone's issue. It's yours

I’m not OP, but how do you get anything done? A movie starts at a set time. That’s not an imaginary deadline. If you show up 40 minutes late, they don’t restart it from the beginning for you.

Movies are scheduled well in advance.

So your spouse can’t wake up on a rainy Sunday and suggest a movie? That’s sad AF.

WTH? Of course they can suggest it but it is super annoying to get bent out of shape over it like OP is doing. Suggest a movie, not demand it and be pushy AF about it.

She wasn’t demanding or pushy. She was taking her kids to see a movie they requested. She invited ILs to come along, on her dime, and gave them more than an hour to decide. If you think that’s “pushy,” you have issues.

Oooh, “on her dime.” Wowowowow. A movie. Noblesse oblige, indeed!

Inviting someone and offering to pay is a nice thing to do. Hemming and hawing for more than an hour, saying no, then grousing at the last moment even though OP said you can still come along you’ll just have to buy your tickets at the kiosk—come on, that’s rude.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Do you have a phone? Use it and look up the menu. If you miss the order window, oh well. I’m sure you can find a way to feed yourself.

Yes, I’ll likely get some real food for myself, not chemical-saturated fast food.

Be sure to tell the 6yo birthday kid that you won’t be participating in their birthday dinner, Dad. Or should you have gotten to override a child’s birthday pick?

I would never buy a kid CFA, since, as someone pointed out earlier, it is owned by homophobes. So it wouldn’t be an option. But keep financing hate, while you proudly display an “in this house we believe” sign on your lawn. Hypocrisy at its finest.

Please list every brand you consume, from hand sanitizer to shoes to clothing to pens to your car. Go on, we’ll wait. And then we’ll start picking every corporation you support apart. Don’t forget every stock in every brokerage account, even the ones you don’t personally pick. We will wait.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Do you have a phone? Use it and look up the menu. If you miss the order window, oh well. I’m sure you can find a way to feed yourself.

Yes, I’ll likely get some real food for myself, not chemical-saturated fast food.

Be sure to tell the 6yo birthday kid that you won’t be participating in their birthday dinner, Dad. Or should you have gotten to override a child’s birthday pick?

I would never buy a kid CFA, since, as someone pointed out earlier, it is owned by homophobes. So it wouldn’t be an option. But keep financing hate, while you proudly display an “in this house we believe” sign on your lawn. Hypocrisy at its finest.

Please list every brand you consume, from hand sanitizer to shoes to clothing to pens to your car. Go on, we’ll wait. And then we’ll start picking every corporation you support apart. Don’t forget every stock in every brokerage account, even the ones you don’t personally pick. We will wait.

Don’t bother. PP realizes she is wrong, and has now pivoted to “Well I wouldn’t eat at there ANYWAY”

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Sorry moron, in this case OPs husband has eaten there. He knows what's on the menu, this isn't about you. But then you're probably the type OP is talking about. Can't go with the flow, need to be special, all eyes on you.

I got your attention, didn’t I?

We always knew you were in it for the attention.

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Anonymous wrote:So irritating! I love my husband, but seriously, everything is always a production. We recently went to see a light show, and it was past dinner time, so I’m putting in a Chick-fil-A order for pickup on my phone (birthday kid’s request, and we knew this was their pick before we left the house). “Wellllll, I don’t knowwwwww, I need to look at the menu.” It’s Chick-fil-A. You get a sandwich, nuggets or a salad, pretty much. “Read me the mennnuuuuuu” and then proceeds to get a regular sandwich, like he always does.

His parents are the same way. I can’t just throw out an idea, every detail has to be picked over. “Do you want to see a kids’ movie today? The girls want to go see ‘Migration.’” Well what’s it about, blah blah blah…it’s a kid movie. About ducks. “Well let me read about it, gee, I don’t know.” It is a kid movie. I’m paying. In or out. “Well what are the times.” Well, 11:30, 2, 3:40. “WELLLLLLL, I don’t KNOWWWWWW…” You have nothing else to do today. You are parked on my sofa. In or out.

I just can’t stand how some adults don’t get that not everything is a production, not every single meal is super important, not every single activity is super important, it’s about the big picture and the flow of the day. Just go along to get along, sometimes! In or out!

Pick up through the drive through at Chic fil a - tell him you put the mobile order in and he can see the menu when you get there and he can order

Movie tickets - order yours and send him the details, let him know you will be there and if he wants to go he can buy a ticket at the theater

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Anonymous wrote:So irritating! I love my husband, but seriously, everything is always a production. We recently went to see a light show, and it was past dinner time, so I’m putting in a Chick-fil-A order for pickup on my phone (birthday kid’s request, and we knew this was their pick before we left the house). “Wellllll, I don’t knowwwwww, I need to look at the menu.” It’s Chick-fil-A. You get a sandwich, nuggets or a salad, pretty much. “Read me the mennnuuuuuu” and then proceeds to get a regular sandwich, like he always does.

His parents are the same way. I can’t just throw out an idea, every detail has to be picked over. “Do you want to see a kids’ movie today? The girls want to go see ‘Migration.’” Well what’s it about, blah blah blah…it’s a kid movie. About ducks. “Well let me read about it, gee, I don’t know.” It is a kid movie. I’m paying. In or out. “Well what are the times.” Well, 11:30, 2, 3:40. “WELLLLLLL, I don’t KNOWWWWWW…” You have nothing else to do today. You are parked on my sofa. In or out.

I just can’t stand how some adults don’t get that not everything is a production, not every single meal is super important, not every single activity is super important, it’s about the big picture and the flow of the day. Just go along to get along, sometimes! In or out!

Pick up through the drive through at Chic fil a - tell him you put the mobile order in and he can see the menu when you get there and he can order

Movie tickets - order yours and send him the details, let him know you will be there and if he wants to go he can buy a ticket at the theater

I would not pick up the mobile order then wait for his order if he placed it when he got there. Nobody else deserves cold food. Instead I would just start reminding him what leftovers are in the fridge for his dinner since he wouldn't be eating with the rest of us. You snooze, you lose.