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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great :-)

We're research scientists, BTW. 
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?
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Well, certainly, but some of us know the difference between working on cancer treatments and getting tired, hungry kids some fast food as requested by the birthday girl on the way home from an excursion. I’m not rushing anyone along when ordering at a fine dining establishment. There is an art to knowing when to be a perfectionist and when to go with the flow. I think it’s a valuable skill. -OP[/quote]

This.

My spouse and in-laws are like this. We need to have long, drawn out discussions about when we plan to leave for the vacation destination or holiday event…when will we leave, when will we arrive, what about traffic, parking, meals, etc. It’s exhausting. It’s like they are incapable of relaxing.

Then every now and then my spouse will throw me a curveball. I’ll anticipate the usual perseveration over unimportant minutiae and then out of nowhere he will accuse me of not going with the flow…when the reality is he just needs to be in control. He needs to leave when he is ready, eat what he wants when he is hungry, exercise on his schedule, etc. Exhausting.

I periodically travel for business and I’ve noticed I have more fun sightseeing on my own schedule. I also maintain a more relaxed vibe at our vacation home when he isn’t there. The kids really aren’t difficult or high maintenance…but my husband is.

Knowing his parents and siblings, I realize it’s not his fault. He was conditioned. [/quote]

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