Fussy, finicky people who can’t just go with the flow

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?

Exactly! I’m married to an engineer. He’s thoughtful and precise. It saves lives. It has also greatly improved how my household runs (second marriage). I’m Team OP’s DH.

Is it your current husband’s second marriage, too?

It is. And we’re very happily married with kids (his, mine, and ours).

[Anonymous]

Are there actually people in this world who take more than an hour to decide if they want to go to a movie? Oh dear, find other friends, no thanks. I go see basically any movie if someone else throws it out there—sure! I don’t like horror, but I’ll even see a horror movie if there’s an actor or director I like involved. I didn’t think I’d enjoy “I Am Legend” but I thought it was really interesting and well-made. I can appreciate just about any movie. Plus I love the experience of going to the theater and getting popcorn and watching trailers to see what’s coming out soon.

Trailers help me enjoy even crappy movies. I remember seeing campy “Burlesque” with my cousins and not particularly loving it, but seeing the trailer for “Black Swan” and getting really excited for that. Then, when it came out, my cousins and I were back in the theater.

Then again, I’m a say-yes-to-life person. It’s better than sitting home, waiting for the absolute most perfect things ever to happen. Stay home if that suits you, but I’m up for anything. I make plans and I say yes to whatever other people want to do. I experience lots of different things that way.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Do you have a phone? Use it and look up the menu. If you miss the order window, oh well. I’m sure you can find a way to feed yourself.

Yes, I’ll likely get some real food for myself, not chemical-saturated fast food.

Be sure to tell the 6yo birthday kid that you won’t be participating in their birthday dinner, Dad. Or should you have gotten to override a child’s birthday pick?

I would never buy a kid CFA, since, as someone pointed out earlier, it is owned by homophobes. So it wouldn’t be an option. But keep financing hate, while you proudly display an “in this house we believe” sign on your lawn. Hypocrisy at its finest.

Please list every brand you consume, from hand sanitizer to shoes to clothing to pens to your car. Go on, we’ll wait. And then we’ll start picking every corporation you support apart. Don’t forget every stock in every brokerage account, even the ones you don’t personally pick. We will wait.

K, BRB.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Sorry moron, in this case OPs husband has eaten there. He knows what's on the menu, this isn't about you. But then you're probably the type OP is talking about. Can't go with the flow, need to be special, all eyes on you.

I got your attention, didn’t I?

We always knew you were in it for the attention.

And you continue to provide it.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?

Exactly! I’m married to an engineer. He’s thoughtful and precise. It saves lives. It has also greatly improved how my household runs (second marriage). I’m Team OP’s DH.

Is it your current husband’s second marriage, too?

It is. And we’re very happily married with kids (his, mine, and ours).

Well then he’s not exactly “thoughtful and precise,” is he? He may save lives for his job, but he’s significantly harmed his kids’ lives with a divorce. I think it’s hilarious you think he is some perfect man when he failed at marriage and having a happy family, the most important basic things in life.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?

Exactly! I’m married to an engineer. He’s thoughtful and precise. It saves lives. It has also greatly improved how my household runs (second marriage). I’m Team OP’s DH.

Is it your current husband’s second marriage, too?

It is. And we’re very happily married with kids (his, mine, and ours).

Well then he’s not exactly “thoughtful and precise,” is he? He may save lives for his job, but he’s significantly harmed his kids’ lives with a divorce. I think it’s hilarious you think he is some perfect man when he failed at marriage and having a happy family, the most important basic things in life.

Wow! That escalated quickly. You know nothing about the circumstances why someone is on a second marriage and you assume they had a casual divorce that harmed their kids? This is just more evidence of how dangerous impulsive people can be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?

Exactly! I’m married to an engineer. He’s thoughtful and precise. It saves lives. It has also greatly improved how my household runs (second marriage). I’m Team OP’s DH.

Is it your current husband’s second marriage, too?

It is. And we’re very happily married with kids (his, mine, and ours).

Well then he’s not exactly “thoughtful and precise,” is he? He may save lives for his job, but he’s significantly harmed his kids’ lives with a divorce. I think it’s hilarious you think he is some perfect man when he failed at marriage and having a happy family, the most important basic things in life.

Wow! That escalated quickly. You know nothing about the circumstances why someone is on a second marriage and you assume they had a casual divorce that harmed their kids? This is just more evidence of how dangerous impulsive people can be.

You want to act like a smug smuggington because your husband picks the perfect movie or restaurant…OK. Funny how he couldn’t make the correct decision when picking a life partner, rather more important than a movie, wouldn’t you say? And his failure to be “thoughtful and precise” has deeply impacted his kids. For life.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?

Exactly! I’m married to an engineer. He’s thoughtful and precise. It saves lives. It has also greatly improved how my household runs (second marriage). I’m Team OP’s DH.

Is it your current husband’s second marriage, too?

It is. And we’re very happily married with kids (his, mine, and ours).

Well then he’s not exactly “thoughtful and precise,” is he? He may save lives for his job, but he’s significantly harmed his kids’ lives with a divorce. I think it’s hilarious you think he is some perfect man when he failed at marriage and having a happy family, the most important basic things in life.

DP. Engineering is not a precision science. We deal with the physical world and models that "are wrong but still useful." If you are doing anything with more than three significant figures, you aren't engineering. That's the level of precision you can expect from an engineer.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?

Exactly! I’m married to an engineer. He’s thoughtful and precise. It saves lives. It has also greatly improved how my household runs (second marriage). I’m Team OP’s DH.

Is it your current husband’s second marriage, too?

It is. And we’re very happily married with kids (his, mine, and ours).

Well then he’s not exactly “thoughtful and precise,” is he? He may save lives for his job, but he’s significantly harmed his kids’ lives with a divorce. I think it’s hilarious you think he is some perfect man when he failed at marriage and having a happy family, the most important basic things in life.

Wow! That escalated quickly. You know nothing about the circumstances why someone is on a second marriage and you assume they had a casual divorce that harmed their kids? This is just more evidence of how dangerous impulsive people can be.

You want to act like a smug smuggington because your husband picks the perfect movie or restaurant…OK. Funny how he couldn’t make the correct decision when picking a life partner, rather more important than a movie, wouldn’t you say? And his failure to be “thoughtful and precise” has deeply impacted his kids. For life.

You are a deeply troubled person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 100% with OP. How some people make it through the day without being able to make basic decisions is beyond me.

I agree, with particular emphasis on people needing forever to choose what to order at restaurants. If you need more than 5 min to peruse a menu, you need to check out the menu online before going to a restaurant.

And those of you who run a restaurant, please stop with the gigantic menus with zillions of offerings. Even fast food places are overwhelming people these days with their variety. More is not always better.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?

Well, certainly, but some of us know the difference between working on cancer treatments and getting tired, hungry kids some fast food as requested by the birthday girl on the way home from an excursion. I’m not rushing anyone along when ordering at a fine dining establishment. There is an art to knowing when to be a perfectionist and when to go with the flow. I think it’s a valuable skill. -OP

PP you replied to. Sorry, I disagree entirely. Just because it's lowly fast-food, doesn't mean every item is the same. Just because it's a kid movie, doesn't mean there isn't a wide range of quality. It seems as though you care more about getting through the day, even if you don't enjoy it, than you care about savoring each moment. That's unutterably strange to me.

I actually don't know any people like you, OP. None of my friends or relatives are as impatient/impulsive and seemingly un-discerning as you. I agree that extreme personalities are always a little difficult, but in the case you're describing, I have to wonder if you're the extreme personality.

Taking the kids to chick fil a or a movie about ducks is not for the enjoyment of the adults. It’s for the kids. Adults need to suck it up and just enjoy the company of the kids.

I hear you, OP.

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I have a dear friend who is very fussy and finicky. When we go on trips together, she will want to plan out daily activities ten months in advance including such detail as “should we start the walking tour at 9 or 10am.” And, dinner must be at 6:30 and when I say restaurants in Rome don’t open until 7, she will track one down that is open at 6:30. We’ve been good friends for a long time so it’s something that I just deal with….as does her husband.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a dear friend who is very fussy and finicky. When we go on trips together, she will want to plan out daily activities ten months in advance including such detail as “should we start the walking tour at 9 or 10am.” And, dinner must be at 6:30 and when I say restaurants in Rome don’t open until 7, she will track one down that is open at 6:30. We’ve been good friends for a long time so it’s something that I just deal with….as does her husband.

This sounds more like someone that likes to plan, rather than what OP is describing.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a dear friend who is very fussy and finicky. When we go on trips together, she will want to plan out daily activities ten months in advance including such detail as “should we start the walking tour at 9 or 10am.” And, dinner must be at 6:30 and when I say restaurants in Rome don’t open until 7, she will track one down that is open at 6:30. We’ve been good friends for a long time so it’s something that I just deal with….as does her husband.

This sounds more like someone that likes to plan, rather than what OP is describing.

Clearly, damned if you have a preference and damned if you take more than five min to figure out if you have a preference. The only thing safe to have is enthusiastic agreement with whatever OP proposes.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a dear friend who is very fussy and finicky. When we go on trips together, she will want to plan out daily activities ten months in advance including such detail as “should we start the walking tour at 9 or 10am.” And, dinner must be at 6:30 and when I say restaurants in Rome don’t open until 7, she will track one down that is open at 6:30. We’ve been good friends for a long time so it’s something that I just deal with….as does her husband.

This sounds more like someone that likes to plan, rather than what OP is describing.

Clearly, damned if you have a preference and damned if you take more than five min to figure out if you have a preference. The only thing safe to have is enthusiastic agreement with whatever OP proposes.

Um, don’t you mean OP’s kids? They were the ones who picked the movie, and the birthday restaurant.

Do you get that you don’t have to go to the movies, with anyone, ever? Do you get that if a kid picks a restaurant, you don’t have to go? You can just say “no thanks” instead of acting like deciding to go to a movie or get a chicken sandwich is really that taxing for you. Trust me, no one will miss you if you don’t participate. We know you’ll miss out on the attention of the decision-making process, but honestly, don’t care if you’re there or not.