Great aunt died during Thanksgiving

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Anonymous wrote:Whether people check voice mail in general or not, if someone sees that their parent has called and left a message don’t they check? Or call the parent back? I cannot fathom a time that if I saw a call from my parent that I would wait over 7 days to check in. Especially if one of those days was a holiday and we weren’t together. Wouldn’t it be normal to check in even if they hadn’t called?

I have strangers who call me insisting I called them (those spoofed number scams). Yet OP can't even call her mom back seeing a missed call and disregarding the message?

You're a loser boomer if you call someone who you think called you.

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Anonymous wrote:If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up? Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that.

You leave a voice-mail if the person doesn't answer the phone I'd rather leave a voice mail than text about a death. I'm young and I use visual voice-mail. It turns my voice mails into text messages for me to see. So I read my voice messages.

If a person is busy, you text them. Hey I have something to tell you, not an emergency I'll call you in the AM.

Okay hon, just wait until you need to take pictures of stuff with your phone and blow them up just to be able to read them.

What were all missing Is the OP didn’t listen to the voicemail. She probably would not have responded to her mom’s text. I bet this is not the first one.

Not true at all. Just because someone misses a VM doesn’t in any way mean they wouldn’t respond to a text, and you have no reason to believe that from OP’s original post. Total projection.

+1 VMs can get lost in the shuffle because I don’t go into my message box often. I open my text messages often.

And regardless, sometimes messages slip through the cracks even if you do check VMs, especially around a busy holiday.

Who in the world a) leaves a VM that a relative died and b) loses their shit over one missed message.

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Anonymous wrote:Whether people check voice mail in general or not, if someone sees that their parent has called and left a message don’t they check? Or call the parent back? I cannot fathom a time that if I saw a call from my parent that I would wait over 7 days to check in. Especially if one of those days was a holiday and we weren’t together. Wouldn’t it be normal to check in even if they hadn’t called?

I have strangers who call me insisting I called them (those spoofed number scams). Yet OP can't even call her mom back seeing a missed call and disregarding the message?

You're a loser boomer if you call someone who you think called you.

Well, yeah, but people do that. Which is why people don't pick up for unfamiliar numbers But when it'a a missed call from you MOM you can call her back.

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Anonymous wrote:Your mother left you a message seven days ago and you haven’t checked it? Weird.

I am old, in my 50s and I never check my voicemail. If anything is urgent people will text and call again.

If you miss a message then you can't get mad. That's how it works. People don't have all day to keep calling you.

DP and if your threshold for getting upset is a single missed call/voicemail then your expectations of family relationships are too high. People are busy, especially working moms of young kids who are hosting a holiday. Expecting perfectionism in never ever missing a single call is an unrealistic burden to place on anyone.

But sounds like OP’s mom has plenty of time to just sit and stew over one voicemail because she does not have a busy fulfilling life.

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Anonymous wrote:If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up? Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that.

You leave a voice-mail if the person doesn't answer the phone I'd rather leave a voice mail than text about a death. I'm young and I use visual voice-mail. It turns my voice mails into text messages for me to see. So I read my voice messages.

If a person is busy, you text them. Hey I have something to tell you, not an emergency I'll call you in the AM.

Okay hon, just wait until you need to take pictures of stuff with your phone and blow them up just to be able to read them.

What were all missing Is the OP didn’t listen to the voicemail. She probably would not have responded to her mom’s text. I bet this is not the first one.

Not true at all. Just because someone misses a VM doesn’t in any way mean they wouldn’t respond to a text, and you have no reason to believe that from OP’s original post. Total projection.

+1 VMs can get lost in the shuffle because I don’t go into my message box often. I open my text messages often.

And regardless, sometimes messages slip through the cracks even if you do check VMs, especially around a busy holiday.

Who in the world a) leaves a VM that a relative died and b) loses their shit over one missed message.

OP gets mad. That's who. Otherwise what are we talking about? She's massed she ignored a VM and missed important news.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your mother left you a message seven days ago and you haven’t checked it? Weird.

I am old, in my 50s and I never check my voicemail. If anything is urgent people will text and call again.

If you miss a message then you can't get mad. That's how it works. People don't have all day to keep calling you.

DP and if your threshold for getting upset is a single missed call/voicemail then your expectations of family relationships are too high. People are busy, especially working moms of young kids who are hosting a holiday. Expecting perfectionism in never ever missing a single call is an unrealistic burden to place on anyone.

But sounds like OP’s mom has plenty of time to just sit and stew over one voicemail because she does not have a busy fulfilling life.

With all due respect OP is the one mad and upset here. Not her mom. Mom didn't write an OP crying that her daughter ignored her VM.

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Anonymous wrote:If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up? Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that.

You leave a voice-mail if the person doesn't answer the phone I'd rather leave a voice mail than text about a death. I'm young and I use visual voice-mail. It turns my voice mails into text messages for me to see. So I read my voice messages.

If a person is busy, you text them. Hey I have something to tell you, not an emergency I'll call you in the AM.

Okay hon, just wait until you need to take pictures of stuff with your phone and blow them up just to be able to read them.

What were all missing Is the OP didn’t listen to the voicemail. She probably would not have responded to her mom’s text. I bet this is not the first one.

Not true at all. Just because someone misses a VM doesn’t in any way mean they wouldn’t respond to a text, and you have no reason to believe that from OP’s original post. Total projection.

+1 VMs can get lost in the shuffle because I don’t go into my message box often. I open my text messages often.

And regardless, sometimes messages slip through the cracks even if you do check VMs, especially around a busy holiday.

Who in the world a) leaves a VM that a relative died and b) loses their shit over one missed message.

+1 - the mom is a drama monger (see OP; she seems to have problems with everyone) and was spoiling for a fight.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up? Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that.

You leave a voice-mail if the person doesn't answer the phone I'd rather leave a voice mail than text about a death. I'm young and I use visual voice-mail. It turns my voice mails into text messages for me to see. So I read my voice messages.

If a person is busy, you text them. Hey I have something to tell you, not an emergency I'll call you in the AM.

Okay hon, just wait until you need to take pictures of stuff with your phone and blow them up just to be able to read them.

What were all missing Is the OP didn’t listen to the voicemail. She probably would not have responded to her mom’s text. I bet this is not the first one.

Not true at all. Just because someone misses a VM doesn’t in any way mean they wouldn’t respond to a text, and you have no reason to believe that from OP’s original post. Total projection.

+1 VMs can get lost in the shuffle because I don’t go into my message box often. I open my text messages often.

And regardless, sometimes messages slip through the cracks even if you do check VMs, especially around a busy holiday.

Who in the world a) leaves a VM that a relative died and b) loses their shit over one missed message.

+1 - the mom is a drama monger (see OP; she seems to have problems with everyone) and was spoiling for a fight.

Saying your mom "carved a hole in your chest" is pretty ridiculous over the top language. Wouldn't you agree?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up? Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that.

You leave a voice-mail if the person doesn't answer the phone I'd rather leave a voice mail than text about a death. I'm young and I use visual voice-mail. It turns my voice mails into text messages for me to see. So I read my voice messages.

If a person is busy, you text them. Hey I have something to tell you, not an emergency I'll call you in the AM.

Okay hon, just wait until you need to take pictures of stuff with your phone and blow them up just to be able to read them.

What were all missing Is the OP didn’t listen to the voicemail. She probably would not have responded to her mom’s text. I bet this is not the first one.

Not true at all. Just because someone misses a VM doesn’t in any way mean they wouldn’t respond to a text, and you have no reason to believe that from OP’s original post. Total projection.

+1 VMs can get lost in the shuffle because I don’t go into my message box often. I open my text messages often.

And regardless, sometimes messages slip through the cracks even if you do check VMs, especially around a busy holiday.

Who in the world a) leaves a VM that a relative died and b) loses their shit over one missed message.

+1 - the mom is a drama monger (see OP; she seems to have problems with everyone) and was spoiling for a fight.

Saying your mom "carved a hole in your chest" is pretty ridiculous over the top language. Wouldn't you agree?

I think it's a perfectly apt way to describe your life long relationship with someone who is over the top and dramatic.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up? Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that.

You leave a voice-mail if the person doesn't answer the phone I'd rather leave a voice mail than text about a death. I'm young and I use visual voice-mail. It turns my voice mails into text messages for me to see. So I read my voice messages.

If a person is busy, you text them. Hey I have something to tell you, not an emergency I'll call you in the AM.

Okay hon, just wait until you need to take pictures of stuff with your phone and blow them up just to be able to read them.

What were all missing Is the OP didn’t listen to the voicemail. She probably would not have responded to her mom’s text. I bet this is not the first one.

Not true at all. Just because someone misses a VM doesn’t in any way mean they wouldn’t respond to a text, and you have no reason to believe that from OP’s original post. Total projection.

+1 VMs can get lost in the shuffle because I don’t go into my message box often. I open my text messages often.

And regardless, sometimes messages slip through the cracks even if you do check VMs, especially around a busy holiday.

Who in the world a) leaves a VM that a relative died and b) loses their shit over one missed message.

+1 - the mom is a drama monger (see OP; she seems to have problems with everyone) and was spoiling for a fight.

Saying your mom "carved a hole in your chest" is pretty ridiculous over the top language. Wouldn't you agree?

I think it's a perfectly apt way to describe your life long relationship with someone who is over the top and dramatic.

Lol. That apple didn't fall far from the tree.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up? Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that.

You leave a voice-mail if the person doesn't answer the phone I'd rather leave a voice mail than text about a death. I'm young and I use visual voice-mail. It turns my voice mails into text messages for me to see. So I read my voice messages.

If a person is busy, you text them. Hey I have something to tell you, not an emergency I'll call you in the AM.

Okay hon, just wait until you need to take pictures of stuff with your phone and blow them up just to be able to read them.

What were all missing Is the OP didn’t listen to the voicemail. She probably would not have responded to her mom’s text. I bet this is not the first one.

Not true at all. Just because someone misses a VM doesn’t in any way mean they wouldn’t respond to a text, and you have no reason to believe that from OP’s original post. Total projection.

+1 VMs can get lost in the shuffle because I don’t go into my message box often. I open my text messages often.

And regardless, sometimes messages slip through the cracks even if you do check VMs, especially around a busy holiday.

Who in the world a) leaves a VM that a relative died and b) loses their shit over one missed message.

OP gets mad. That's who. Otherwise what are we talking about? She's massed she ignored a VM and missed important news.

OP said her mom “savaged her” for missing the call, that is pretty nuts.

I communicate with my mom almost daily and she is one of the people I’m closest to. Most often we text, but a couple times per week one of us will call the other.

She knows I work full time and have 3 young kids, so she gives me grace if I miss a call. Also she is a texter herself thankfully and isn’t stuck in the past leaving important info over voicemail. And she and my dad are busy in retirement so sometimes she misses my calls. If I don’t hear back I’ll try again later. NBD. Neither of us berate the other for missing a call.

Also she would never leave a message that someone died. What if you check the call on speaker phone in car and get suddenly upset while driving. Or your out in public and don’t have a place to compose yourself? It’s actually quite thoughtless.

My grandfather died recently and my mom texted and told me she had important news and to call when I could. I had an idea it was bad news because my grandfather had been in the hospital so I found a time and quiet place to call her back. I’d hate to have gotten than news while trying to cook dinner and put kids to bed.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up? Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that.

You leave a voice-mail if the person doesn't answer the phone I'd rather leave a voice mail than text about a death. I'm young and I use visual voice-mail. It turns my voice mails into text messages for me to see. So I read my voice messages.

If a person is busy, you text them. Hey I have something to tell you, not an emergency I'll call you in the AM.

Okay hon, just wait until you need to take pictures of stuff with your phone and blow them up just to be able to read them.

What were all missing Is the OP didn’t listen to the voicemail. She probably would not have responded to her mom’s text. I bet this is not the first one.

Not true at all. Just because someone misses a VM doesn’t in any way mean they wouldn’t respond to a text, and you have no reason to believe that from OP’s original post. Total projection.

+1 VMs can get lost in the shuffle because I don’t go into my message box often. I open my text messages often.

And regardless, sometimes messages slip through the cracks even if you do check VMs, especially around a busy holiday.

Who in the world a) leaves a VM that a relative died and b) loses their shit over one missed message.

OP gets mad. That's who. Otherwise what are we talking about? She's massed she ignored a VM and missed important news.

OP said her mom “savaged her” for missing the call, that is pretty nuts.

I communicate with my mom almost daily and she is one of the people I’m closest to. Most often we text, but a couple times per week one of us will call the other.

She knows I work full time and have 3 young kids, so she gives me grace if I miss a call. Also she is a texter herself thankfully and isn’t stuck in the past leaving important info over voicemail. And she and my dad are busy in retirement so sometimes she misses my calls. If I don’t hear back I’ll try again later. NBD. Neither of us berate the other for missing a call.

Also she would never leave a message that someone died. What if you check the call on speaker phone in car and get suddenly upset while driving. Or your out in public and don’t have a place to compose yourself? It’s actually quite thoughtless.

My grandfather died recently and my mom texted and told me she had important news and to call when I could. I had an idea it was bad news because my grandfather had been in the hospital so I found a time and quiet place to call her back. I’d hate to have gotten than news while trying to cook dinner and put kids to bed.

OP is obviously prone to exaggeration. Hopefully she learned a lesson.

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Anonymous wrote:100% facts that those of you droning on about how “no one our age listens to voicemail” cannot figure out HOW to deactivate voicemail! Oops, you are such modern wizards of technology but cannot admit that you *don’t know how* to deactivate it. LOL.

We. Don’t. Want. To. It’s not that we don’t know how. I’m not sure why this bothers you so much that people choose not to deactivate a feature on their phones that isn’t impacting their lives.

Except here you all are, talking about how annoying and frustrating it is. So clearly it *does* impact your lives.

Go to the Apple Store and they can help you learn how to use your phone and remove features that are oh so archaic and annoying.

I’m not at all talking about how annoying and frustrating it is. I am explaining to people responding on this thread that OP isn’t at all unusual in not checking voicemails. Some posters here seem extremely surprised that someone wouldn’t check voicemails. I think it’s associated with age of the posters.

I’m 39 and I’ve disabled VM because I don’t use it. And then there are those of you whining how annoying ancient people who leave voicemails on, yet you leave the platform active on your phone.

You can find a young, tech savvy person to help you disable VM instead of whining and complaining about it so much.

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Anonymous wrote:100% facts that those of you droning on about how “no one our age listens to voicemail” cannot figure out HOW to deactivate voicemail! Oops, you are such modern wizards of technology but cannot admit that you *don’t know how* to deactivate it. LOL.

We. Don’t. Want. To. It’s not that we don’t know how. I’m not sure why this bothers you so much that people choose not to deactivate a feature on their phones that isn’t impacting their lives.

Except here you all are, talking about how annoying and frustrating it is. So clearly it *does* impact your lives.

Go to the Apple Store and they can help you learn how to use your phone and remove features that are oh so archaic and annoying.

I’m not at all talking about how annoying and frustrating it is. I am explaining to people responding on this thread that OP isn’t at all unusual in not checking voicemails. Some posters here seem extremely surprised that someone wouldn’t check voicemails. I think it’s associated with age of the posters.

I’m 39 and I’ve disabled VM because I don’t use it. And then there are those of you whining how annoying ancient people who leave voicemails on, yet you leave the platform active on your phone.

You can find a young, tech savvy person to help you disable VM instead of whining and complaining about it so much.

Also, if you haven’t disabled but refuse to check it, isn’t that… just rude if someone leaves a voicemail expecting that someone at least listens to it because it’s on your phone? Why are you so rude?

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Anonymous wrote:100% facts that those of you droning on about how “no one our age listens to voicemail” cannot figure out HOW to deactivate voicemail! Oops, you are such modern wizards of technology but cannot admit that you *don’t know how* to deactivate it. LOL.

We. Don’t. Want. To. It’s not that we don’t know how. I’m not sure why this bothers you so much that people choose not to deactivate a feature on their phones that isn’t impacting their lives.

Except here you all are, talking about how annoying and frustrating it is. So clearly it *does* impact your lives.

Go to the Apple Store and they can help you learn how to use your phone and remove features that are oh so archaic and annoying.

I’m not at all talking about how annoying and frustrating it is. I am explaining to people responding on this thread that OP isn’t at all unusual in not checking voicemails. Some posters here seem extremely surprised that someone wouldn’t check voicemails. I think it’s associated with age of the posters.

You don't get to not know how to fully utilize the functionality of your phone AND get mad that you consequently missed a message. Pick one.

It’s OP’s mom who is mad, not OP. I’m not mad either.