Great aunt died during Thanksgiving

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Anonymous wrote:100% facts that those of you droning on about how “no one our age listens to voicemail” cannot figure out HOW to deactivate voicemail! Oops, you are such modern wizards of technology but cannot admit that you *don’t know how* to deactivate it. LOL.

We. Don’t. Want. To. It’s not that we don’t know how. I’m not sure why this bothers you so much that people choose not to deactivate a feature on their phones that isn’t impacting their lives.

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Anonymous wrote:If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up? Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that.

You leave a voice-mail if the person doesn't answer the phone I'd rather leave a voice mail than text about a death. I'm young and I use visual voice-mail. It turns my voice mails into text messages for me to see. So I read my voice messages.

If a person is busy, you text them. Hey I have something to tell you, not an emergency I'll call you in the AM.

Okay hon, just wait until you need to take pictures of stuff with your phone and blow them up just to be able to read them.

What were all missing Is the OP didn’t listen to the voicemail. She probably would not have responded to her mom’s text. I bet this is not the first one.

Not true at all. Just because someone misses a VM doesn’t in any way mean they wouldn’t respond to a text, and you have no reason to believe that from OP’s original post. Total projection.

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Anonymous wrote:If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up? Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that.

You leave a voice-mail if the person doesn't answer the phone I'd rather leave a voice mail than text about a death. I'm young and I use visual voice-mail. It turns my voice mails into text messages for me to see. So I read my voice messages.

If a person is busy, you text them. Hey I have something to tell you, not an emergency I'll call you in the AM.

Okay hon, just wait until you need to take pictures of stuff with your phone and blow them up just to be able to read them.

Or you call me when you’re not busy. Some of you really think the earth revolves around you and people should pill out all the stops to get a hold of you. You aren’t that important.

It was Thanksgiving crazy lady, everybody is busy.

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Anonymous wrote:If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up? Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that.

Ok, not to sound heartless here, but it's a great aunt (not a grand aunt--that's just not how that works). She was obviously elderly and it was her time. And how close is anybody, really to even their aunts, much less their great aunts? This is the normal course of life, this is not an untimely death. OP is really reaching for a reason to be the center of all sympathy and attention here. The VM was fine. And by the way, you don't even have to listen to VMs these days, just read it. Is there a single VM system that doesn't transcribe the message?

If it's not that important then who cares that she found out a week later in a phone conversation with her mom.

What size font is that?

Why are you getting ageist about people who have better phone skills? OP can’t figure out voicemail or transcribed voicemails. Why is that? Should her mom show her?

Nobody is hanging on your every word in your VM, ill talk to you in a week. Bye bye.

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Anonymous wrote:100% facts that those of you droning on about how “no one our age listens to voicemail” cannot figure out HOW to deactivate voicemail! Oops, you are such modern wizards of technology but cannot admit that you *don’t know how* to deactivate it. LOL.

We. Don’t. Want. To. It’s not that we don’t know how. I’m not sure why this bothers you so much that people choose not to deactivate a feature on their phones that isn’t impacting their lives.

Except here you all are, talking about how annoying and frustrating it is. So clearly it *does* impact your lives.

Go to the Apple Store and they can help you learn how to use your phone and remove features that are oh so archaic and annoying.

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Anonymous wrote:100% facts that those of you droning on about how “no one our age listens to voicemail” cannot figure out HOW to deactivate voicemail! Oops, you are such modern wizards of technology but cannot admit that you *don’t know how* to deactivate it. LOL.

We. Don’t. Want. To. It’s not that we don’t know how. I’m not sure why this bothers you so much that people choose not to deactivate a feature on their phones that isn’t impacting their lives.

Except here you all are, talking about how annoying and frustrating it is. So clearly it *does* impact your lives.

Go to the Apple Store and they can help you learn how to use your phone and remove features that are oh so archaic and annoying.

I’m not at all talking about how annoying and frustrating it is. I am explaining to people responding on this thread that OP isn’t at all unusual in not checking voicemails. Some posters here seem extremely surprised that someone wouldn’t check voicemails. I think it’s associated with age of the posters.

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Anonymous wrote:Your mother left you a message seven days ago and you haven’t checked it? Weird.

I am old, in my 50s and I never check my voicemail. If anything is urgent people will text and call again.

If you miss a message then you can't get mad. That's how it works. People don't have all day to keep calling you.

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Anonymous wrote:If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up? Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that.

You leave a voice-mail if the person doesn't answer the phone I'd rather leave a voice mail than text about a death. I'm young and I use visual voice-mail. It turns my voice mails into text messages for me to see. So I read my voice messages.

If a person is busy, you text them. Hey I have something to tell you, not an emergency I'll call you in the AM.

Okay hon, just wait until you need to take pictures of stuff with your phone and blow them up just to be able to read them.

Or you call me when you’re not busy. Some of you really think the earth revolves around you and people should pill out all the stops to get a hold of you. You aren’t that important.

It was Thanksgiving crazy lady, everybody is busy.

For 7 days. Didn't realize people like you were out here fighting fires every single day! OP is wasting time here, she's not that busy. Same for you.

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Anonymous wrote:100% facts that those of you droning on about how “no one our age listens to voicemail” cannot figure out HOW to deactivate voicemail! Oops, you are such modern wizards of technology but cannot admit that you *don’t know how* to deactivate it. LOL.

We. Don’t. Want. To. It’s not that we don’t know how. I’m not sure why this bothers you so much that people choose not to deactivate a feature on their phones that isn’t impacting their lives.

Except here you all are, talking about how annoying and frustrating it is. So clearly it *does* impact your lives.

Go to the Apple Store and they can help you learn how to use your phone and remove features that are oh so archaic and annoying.

I’m not at all talking about how annoying and frustrating it is. I am explaining to people responding on this thread that OP isn’t at all unusual in not checking voicemails. Some posters here seem extremely surprised that someone wouldn’t check voicemails. I think it’s associated with age of the posters.

You don't get to not know how to fully utilize the functionality of your phone AND get mad that you consequently missed a message. Pick one.

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Anonymous wrote:If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up? Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that.

You leave a voice-mail if the person doesn't answer the phone I'd rather leave a voice mail than text about a death. I'm young and I use visual voice-mail. It turns my voice mails into text messages for me to see. So I read my voice messages.

If a person is busy, you text them. Hey I have something to tell you, not an emergency I'll call you in the AM.

Okay hon, just wait until you need to take pictures of stuff with your phone and blow them up just to be able to read them.

Or you call me when you’re not busy. Some of you really think the earth revolves around you and people should pill out all the stops to get a hold of you. You aren’t that important.

It was Thanksgiving crazy lady, everybody is busy.

For 7 days. Didn't realize people like you were out here fighting fires every single day! OP is wasting time here, she's not that busy. Same for you.

+1 but but but but they are sooooo busy! They can’t spare a minute. /s

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Whether people check voice mail in general or not, if someone sees that their parent has called and left a message don’t they check? Or call the parent back? I cannot fathom a time that if I saw a call from my parent that I would wait over 7 days to check in. Especially if one of those days was a holiday and we weren’t together. Wouldn’t it be normal to check in even if they hadn’t called?

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly I'd be pissed at you for not listening to my VM for 7 days too. You make excuses but it does not look good from where your mom is sitting.

It’s weird to call, leave a VM that Great Aunt Larla died, not follow up, and then berate someone over it a week later.

The onus is on the VM recipient to follow up.

If I have important news for someone, reach out to them, and don’t hear back for a decent amount of time (24 hours? Guess it depends on what it is, but let’s go with 24 hours), I’m calling again because I’m guessing it either got lost in the shuffle of the holiday / work / kids, or my VM didn’t stick.

Then why leave a message at all? Just call and call until you get them to pick up.

Because it sounds like OP has a history of not picking up for her mom. I can't believe her mom called on her Thanksgiving and OP couldn't pick up for one minute to wish her well for the holiday. "Happy Thanksgiving to you. Wish we were together this year. I've got to get back to cooking now, but I wanted to hear your voice." Also, you can wear headphones and cook and talk.

But, OP didn't even call her mom the next day to wish her Happy Thanksgiving or listen to the message. Team mom on this one.

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Anonymous wrote:Whether people check voice mail in general or not, if someone sees that their parent has called and left a message don’t they check? Or call the parent back? I cannot fathom a time that if I saw a call from my parent that I would wait over 7 days to check in. Especially if one of those days was a holiday and we weren’t together. Wouldn’t it be normal to check in even if they hadn’t called?

I have strangers who call me insisting I called them (those spoofed number scams). Yet OP can't even call her mom back seeing a missed call and disregarding the message?

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Anonymous wrote:If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up? Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that.

Ok, not to sound heartless here, but it's a great aunt (not a grand aunt--that's just not how that works). She was obviously elderly and it was her time. And how close is anybody, really to even their aunts, much less their great aunts? This is the normal course of life, this is not an untimely death. OP is really reaching for a reason to be the center of all sympathy and attention here. The VM was fine. And by the way, you don't even have to listen to VMs these days, just read it. Is there a single VM system that doesn't transcribe the message?

If it's not that important then who cares that she found out a week later in a phone conversation with her mom.

What size font is that?

Why are you getting ageist about people who have better phone skills? OP can’t figure out voicemail or transcribed voicemails. Why is that? Should her mom show her?

Nobody is hanging on your every word in your VM, ill talk to you in a week. Bye bye.

You don't get to be mad then and cry about not getting timely messages. Own your laziness.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly I'd be pissed at you for not listening to my VM for 7 days too. You make excuses but it does not look good from where your mom is sitting.

It’s weird to call, leave a VM that Great Aunt Larla died, not follow up, and then berate someone over it a week later.

The onus is on the VM recipient to follow up.

If I have important news for someone, reach out to them, and don’t hear back for a decent amount of time (24 hours? Guess it depends on what it is, but let’s go with 24 hours), I’m calling again because I’m guessing it either got lost in the shuffle of the holiday / work / kids, or my VM didn’t stick.

Then why leave a message at all? Just call and call until you get them to pick up.

Because it sounds like OP has a history of not picking up for her mom. I can't believe her mom called on her Thanksgiving and OP couldn't pick up for one minute to wish her well for the holiday. "Happy Thanksgiving to you. Wish we were together this year. I've got to get back to cooking now, but I wanted to hear your voice." Also, you can wear headphones and cook and talk.

But, OP didn't even call her mom the next day to wish her Happy Thanksgiving or listen to the message. Team mom on this one.

Spare the smarminess; some of us have crap parents and don't talk to them every few days. OP's mom sounds toxic (did you miss the part where OP says her chest gets tight every time they talk?)