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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you left an important voicemail at a dentist or doctor’s office and they didn’t respond, wouldn’t you follow up?  Same concept here.

Also, it’s very rude to tell someone that a person died over voicemail.[/quote]

No it's not the same.

If somebody dies in my family nobody in my family is leaving a voice mail, how heartless is that. [/quote]

You leave a voice-mail if the person doesn't answer the phone   I'd rather leave a voice mail than text about a death.  I'm young and I use visual voice-mail.  It turns my voice mails into text messages for me to see.  So I read my voice messages.  [/quote]

[b]If a person is busy, you text them. Hey I have something to tell you, not an emergency I'll call you in the AM. [/b]

Okay hon, just wait until you need to take pictures of stuff with your phone and blow them up just to be able to read them. [/quote]

What were all missing Is the OP didn’t listen to the voicemail. She probably would not have responded to her mom’s text. I bet this is not the first one.

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Not true at all.  Just because someone misses a VM doesn’t in any way mean they wouldn’t respond to a text, and you have no reason to believe that from OP’s original post.  Total projection.[/quote]

+1 VMs can get lost in the shuffle because I don’t go into my message box often. I open my text messages often.

And regardless, sometimes messages slip through the cracks even if you do check VMs, especially around a busy holiday.

Who in the world a) leaves a VM that a relative died and b) loses their shit over one missed message.[/quote]

OP gets mad. That's who. Otherwise what are we talking about? She's massed she ignored a VM and missed important news.[/quote]

OP said her mom “savaged her” for missing the call, that is pretty nuts.

I communicate with my mom almost daily and she is one of the people I’m closest to. Most often we text, but a couple times per week one of us will call the other.

She knows I work full time and have 3 young kids, so she gives me grace if I miss a call. Also she is a texter herself thankfully and isn’t stuck in the past leaving important info over voicemail. And she and my dad are busy in retirement so sometimes she misses my calls. If I don’t hear back I’ll try again later. NBD. Neither of us berate the other for missing a call.

Also she would never leave a message that someone died. What if you check the call on speaker phone in car and get suddenly upset while driving. Or your out in public and don’t have a place to compose yourself? It’s actually quite thoughtless.

My grandfather died recently and my mom texted and told me she had important news and to call when I could. I had an idea it was bad news because my grandfather had been in the hospital so I found a time and quiet place to call her back. I’d hate to have gotten than news while trying to cook dinner and put kids to bed.[/quote]

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