Great aunt died during Thanksgiving

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So your Mom calls you on Thanksgiving for what you assume is a greeting and you don’t even call her back?? Even worse don’t listen to the message? Now you’re pissed, you are a piece of work!!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of listening to voice mails in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time."

Text that and let her have some time to sit with it.

No I wouldn't send that. It encourages more voicemails.

"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of responding quicker in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time. Please text if something is urgent."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s grand aunt not great aunt

Ive never heard of this and also say great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of listening to voice mails in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time."

Text that and let her have some time to sit with it.

No I wouldn't send that. It encourages more voicemails.

"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of responding quicker in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time. Please text if something is urgent."

oh so it's on the mom to accommodate the daughter? You realize this texting culture is very hard for some elderly people since it's fairly new to them and they've been communicating verbally for 70 years?

[Anonymous]

I never listen to voicemails. I think old people whose formative years were pre-internet/text just do not understand that voicemails are a thing of the past.

However, this is a YOU failing, and if this had happened to me, it would have been my failing.

She should have tried calling again, and she should not have been so punitive about your missing the message. So she failed too.

[Anonymous]

Old people still call and leave voicemails. My mom will text a bit... little snippets... but anything lengthy she still calls me to tell me. She also leaves vms and still sends long emails.

[Anonymous]

your mom raised a selfish person who deflects.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I'd be pissed at you for not listening to my VM for 7 days too. You make excuses but it does not look good from where your mom is sitting.

+1. Also there are so many holes in your first post, OP, that it's clear you are in the wrong and are crowd-sourcing for approval.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of listening to voice mails in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time."

Text that and let her have some time to sit with it.

No I wouldn't send that. It encourages more voicemails.

"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of responding quicker in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time. Please text if something is urgent."

oh so it's on the mom to accommodate the daughter? You realize this texting culture is very hard for some elderly people since it's fairly new to them and they've been communicating verbally for 70 years?

Well if it was important to Mom, she should’ve called again. Not stewed and stewed for a week with all her free time and then blow a gasket.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of listening to voice mails in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time."

Text that and let her have some time to sit with it.

No I wouldn't send that. It encourages more voicemails.

"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of responding quicker in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time. Please text if something is urgent."

oh so it's on the mom to accommodate the daughter? You realize this texting culture is very hard for some elderly people since it's fairly new to them and they've been communicating verbally for 70 years?

Well if it was important to Mom, she should’ve called again. Not stewed and stewed for a week with all her free time and then blow a gasket.

Except you don't know that she stewed and stewed. From what I could read, mom assumed that her daughter listened to the VM and only got annoyed when she found out that her daughter couldn't even take 2 min out of her day to listen to the VM. Stop making stuff up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of listening to voice mails in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time."

Text that and let her have some time to sit with it.

No I wouldn't send that. It encourages more voicemails.

"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of responding quicker in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time. Please text if something is urgent."

oh so it's on the mom to accommodate the daughter? You realize this texting culture is very hard for some elderly people since it's fairly new to them and they've been communicating verbally for 70 years?

Well if it was important to Mom, she should’ve called again. Not stewed and stewed for a week with all her free time and then blow a gasket.

Weird that OP is so upset about this death, yet in over a week she never enquired about her great Aunt's health. I guess she wasn't that important after all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of listening to voice mails in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time."

Text that and let her have some time to sit with it.

No I wouldn't send that. It encourages more voicemails.

"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of responding quicker in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time. Please text if something is urgent."

oh so it's on the mom to accommodate the daughter? You realize this texting culture is very hard for some elderly people since it's fairly new to them and they've been communicating verbally for 70 years?

Well if it was important to Mom, she should’ve called again. Not stewed and stewed for a week with all her free time and then blow a gasket.

Weird that OP is so upset about this death, yet in over a week she never enquired about her great Aunt's health. I guess she wasn't that important after all.

I wondered about that too. Regardless of how busy I was, I would check in with my mom to see how her Thanksgiving went and how it the aunt was faring. OP definitely thought she was going to get some good mom bashing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of listening to voice mails in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time."

Text that and let her have some time to sit with it.

No I wouldn't send that. It encourages more voicemails.

"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of responding quicker in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time. Please text if something is urgent."

oh so it's on the mom to accommodate the daughter? You realize this texting culture is very hard for some elderly people since it's fairly new to them and they've been communicating verbally for 70 years?

Well if it was important to Mom, she should’ve called again. Not stewed and stewed for a week with all her free time and then blow a gasket.

Except you don't know that she stewed and stewed. From what I could read, mom assumed that her daughter listened to the VM and only got annoyed when she found out that her daughter couldn't even take 2 min out of her day to listen to the VM. Stop making stuff up.

So you can assume but other people can't? OK then, carry on.

[Anonymous]

OP: I’m sorry for your loss. You can’t control other peoples behavior. Only your own. It might be a good idea to do something on your own to honor your great aunt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s grand aunt not great aunt

Ive never heard of this and also say great.

It’s one of the top grammatical mistakes like their/there/they’re

Or among vs between

Or accept vs except

I’m here to educate

/s