Great aunt died during Thanksgiving

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did she leave the news in the voicemail? My parents are the only people who leave me voicemails and yes I listen/read them.

This is OP, yes, the news was in the VM.

You wanted sympathy, but did you extend any? You wasted 30 mins blathering about nothing while your mom was probably waiting for you to tell her you were sorry her aunt died. And you didn't mention it. How was she to know you didn't bother to listen to her VM? Did you expect her to keep calling and calling?

Exactly! You have time to post on DCUM so you have time to check VMs.

Mom had 30 minutes in her day to leisurely chat with OP before mentioning the aunt died? If it was important to her, she would’ve followed up. It seems like Mom was waiting to use this against OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly I'd be pissed at you for not listening to my VM for 7 days too. You make excuses but it does not look good from where your mom is sitting.

It’s weird to call, leave a VM that Great Aunt Larla died, not follow up, and then berate someone over it a week later.

That's not what OP wrote. Mom mentioned it because she assumed OP knew and OP proceeded to berate her mom about it.

You have it backwards. Mom got nasty with OP and berated her.

[Anonymous]

It’s grand aunt not great aunt

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly I'd be pissed at you for not listening to my VM for 7 days too. You make excuses but it does not look good from where your mom is sitting.

It’s weird to call, leave a VM that Great Aunt Larla died, not follow up, and then berate someone over it a week later.

The onus is on the VM recipient to follow up.

If I have important news for someone, reach out to them, and don’t hear back for a decent amount of time (24 hours? Guess it depends on what it is, but let’s go with 24 hours), I’m calling again because I’m guessing it either got lost in the shuffle of the holiday / work / kids, or my VM didn’t stick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I'd be pissed at you for not listening to my VM for 7 days too. You make excuses but it does not look good from where your mom is sitting.

It’s weird to call, leave a VM that Great Aunt Larla died, not follow up, and then berate someone over it a week later.

That's not what OP wrote. Mom mentioned it because she assumed OP knew and OP proceeded to berate her mom about it.

You have it backwards. Mom got nasty with OP and berated her.

Not sure that's true. I think OP said "she died, I didn't know that. Why didn't you tell me before now?" "AND THEN her mom got nasty.

Her mom is right. Pick up the phone or listen to the VM. It's not that hard, really!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly I'd be pissed at you for not listening to my VM for 7 days too. You make excuses but it does not look good from where your mom is sitting.

It’s weird to call, leave a VM that Great Aunt Larla died, not follow up, and then berate someone over it a week later.

NP here. I think it's crazy that the mom left a VM and daughter didn't bother to listen to it. I'd be pissed too that daughter didn't bother to listen to my VM. Shows how important mom is.

Also, just curious, OP are you the daughter who asked your mom to come to your house for Thanksgiving instead of hers as usual, then Dad was going to be in town and asked to come over? If so, you're showing your colors in terms of how you feel about your mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I'd be pissed at you for not listening to my VM for 7 days too. You make excuses but it does not look good from where your mom is sitting.

It’s weird to call, leave a VM that Great Aunt Larla died, not follow up, and then berate someone over it a week later.

The onus is on the VM recipient to follow up.

If I have important news for someone, reach out to them, and don’t hear back for a decent amount of time (24 hours? Guess it depends on what it is, but let’s go with 24 hours), I’m calling again because I’m guessing it either got lost in the shuffle of the holiday / work / kids, or my VM didn’t stick.

I'm not chasing anyone. If you can't bother to pick up the phone OR listen to my VM for a week, that's on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I'd be pissed at you for not listening to my VM for 7 days too. You make excuses but it does not look good from where your mom is sitting.

It’s weird to call, leave a VM that Great Aunt Larla died, not follow up, and then berate someone over it a week later.

The onus is on the VM recipient to follow up.

If I have important news for someone, reach out to them, and don’t hear back for a decent amount of time (24 hours? Guess it depends on what it is, but let’s go with 24 hours), I’m calling again because I’m guessing it either got lost in the shuffle of the holiday / work / kids, or my VM didn’t stick.

Then why leave a message at all? Just call and call until you get them to pick up.

[Anonymous]

"Mom, I'm really sorry I didn't listen to your voice mail. I'm sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I'd love to talk with you about Great Aunt Milly. I will try to do a better job of listening to voice mails in the future, but I hope you can understand it was a busy time."

Text that and let her have some time to sit with it.

[Anonymous]

I would recommend you get voicemail to text

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I'd be pissed at you for not listening to my VM for 7 days too. You make excuses but it does not look good from where your mom is sitting.

It’s weird to call, leave a VM that Great Aunt Larla died, not follow up, and then berate someone over it a week later.

The onus is on the VM recipient to follow up.

If I have important news for someone, reach out to them, and don’t hear back for a decent amount of time (24 hours? Guess it depends on what it is, but let’s go with 24 hours), I’m calling again because I’m guessing it either got lost in the shuffle of the holiday / work / kids, or my VM didn’t stick.

I'm not chasing anyone. If you can't bother to pick up the phone OR listen to my VM for a week, that's on you.

Agreed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I'd be pissed at you for not listening to my VM for 7 days too. You make excuses but it does not look good from where your mom is sitting.

It’s weird to call, leave a VM that Great Aunt Larla died, not follow up, and then berate someone over it a week later.

That's not what OP wrote. Mom mentioned it because she assumed OP knew and OP proceeded to berate her mom about it.

You have it backwards. Mom got nasty with OP and berated her.

Sock puppet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would recommend you get voicemail to text

I have this and love it.

[Anonymous]

I absolutely don't check voicemails either. Iphone does have voice to text though, so it transcribes what the person said. That's all I will do.

I turned off voicemail at work even. It's just a bad form of communication. If you want instant connection you text or call back. Even emails get instant response from me.

[Anonymous]

So your Mom calls you on Thanksgiving for what you assume is a greeting and you don’t even call her back?? Even worse don’t listen to the message? Now you’re pissed, you are a piece of work!!