Bragging vs. honest celebrating

[Anonymous]

Its not like getting married. In these circles, almost all seniors in high school go to college. Its fine to post "I'm so excited my kid is graduating in a few months!!!" if you really want to. Its not news that your child got into college, all these kids can get into college somewhere. Its only exciting for you to announce WHERE, and yes that is where the bragging comes into play.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We're waiting on decisions and aren't the selective schools types anyway, so this is a very academic question - but where's the line? We're not really HYP people, but if DS really wanted to go and got in, I would be over the moon for him. Same for his high reaches that probably aren't impressive to anyone here. Just curious.

No need to share these kinds of news with anyone but your nearest family members. That is the line. If people ask then tell them. Otherwise, there is zero reason to share anything that can be considered braggy.

You don't get to dictate the line for others. If you dont like it, perhaps Social Media isn't for you.

You don’t get to dictate whether social media (which isn’t a proper noun and thus isn’t capitalized) is “for” anyone else just because they express an opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So parents are not allowed to celebrate anything now?

Why can’t you celebrate without begging for public attention? Sad.

[Anonymous]

PP, do you not understand the distinction between acknowledging a milestone in life and celebrating an achievement?

You acknowledge a birthday. You celebrate winning the state championship in football.

[Anonymous]

"In these circles, almost all seniors in high school go to college."

+100

Context matters. If you're a refuge whose DC didn't speak English five years ago when your family arrived in the US and she just got accepted to a 4-yr college, I think everyone will want to congratulate your amazing kid for achieving something extraordinary.

[Anonymous]

We shared on FB once DD made her final decision but didn’t post or celebrate every acceptance along the way. Of course we did tell family and close friends as the acceptances rolled in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We shared on FB once DD made her final decision but didn’t post or celebrate every acceptance along the way. Of course we did tell family and close friends as the acceptances rolled in.

Why did you put it on Facebook? And what do you mean by “of course” you told family and friends of acceptances? What is so “of course” about it? We never did that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once it’s posted somewhere - whether on social media or a bumper sticker - it’s officially bragging. Why? Because the intended audience by definition goes beyond anyone who gives AF.

I display my UMD sticker proudly! HYPSM are just jealous and can s@ck it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We shared on FB once DD made her final decision but didn’t post or celebrate every acceptance along the way. Of course we did tell family and close friends as the acceptances rolled in.

Why did you put it on Facebook? And what do you mean by “of course” you told family and friends of acceptances? What is so “of course” about it? We never did that.

DP, you guys are just too exhausting, seriously. You do you and let others be themselves.
You want to judge, fine judge and move on. You want to gossip how braggy they are, fine do that too. Just not sure why would want to be friends or follow a braggy person in social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We shared on FB once DD made her final decision but didn’t post or celebrate every acceptance along the way. Of course we did tell family and close friends as the acceptances rolled in.

Why did you put it on Facebook? And what do you mean by “of course” you told family and friends of acceptances? What is so “of course” about it? We never did that.

Acceptances rolling in: Close friends? Family? The only one who would care would be: your aunt and uncle (your parents’ age with grown kids, your parents, and that’s about it. I know it’s almost impossible to believe, but it’s true.

[Anonymous]

If you post once on commit day and then a move in day post, I would not judge you nor think you are bragging.

If you post once a day from acceptance through to summer break of the first year of college, I'd think you were a wacko.

If you post all of your child's acceptances as they roll in, I'd think you were an a**.

I actually really like seeing where people get in and I can't wait to celebrate my DS AND his friends acceptances when the time comes. These kids work hard in a rigorous school, stacked with EC's and other priorities. That is something to be celebrated in my eyes. You don't have to and that's your cup of tea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not sure what you are asking?

Are you talking about calling or texting friends to tell them where your kid is going without being asked? Don't do this.

Are you talking about answering their question if they ask? Do this.

Are you talking about posting on social media? My thinking on that is a post at college drop-off in August is acceptable. Anything else is cringey.

I agree. I wouldn't say anything about an acceptance except in conversation with close friends who ask. And then pivot to good wishes for their kids, wherever they are in the process. I personally would not post. I didn't let mine wear the sweatshirt either until the school had a day in spring where everyone was invited to do so. Be modest and kind, like always...

[Anonymous]

I have seen a lot of people post on social media on Decision Day—May 1st. I actually enjoy reading all the posts and sending congratulatory comments. Life is too short. If people want to be happy, let them be happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have seen a lot of people post on social media on Decision Day—May 1st. I actually enjoy reading all the posts and sending congratulatory comments. Life is too short. If people want to be happy, let them be happy.

If that's close to when the kid makes a decision, that makes sense. But it's super weird to get into a school in the fall, pay a deposit and then keep it a secret until May. Just tell people when you're done. If you're still waiting to make a final decision, then you're not done. It's so much better just to be matter of fact about it.

[Anonymous]

I think the college application process brings out the worst in most parents with respect to social media.

Personally I think it's rude to post acceptances. The videos opening up the decisions are just icky to me.

Of course to each their own and I have muted my "friends" that act like this.