Bragging vs. honest celebrating

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My kid posted college account in his IG profile and notified HS's account that shows his class college decisions. I got a bumper sticker and a couple of shirts.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid posted college account in his IG profile and notified HS's account that shows his class college decisions. I got a bumper sticker and a couple of shirts.

College bumper stickers are gross. The very definition of bragging. I would never.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid posted college account in his IG profile and notified HS's account that shows his class college decisions. I got a bumper sticker and a couple of shirts.

College bumper stickers are gross. The very definition of bragging. I would never.

OK. Thanks for the information.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid posted college account in his IG profile and notified HS's account that shows his class college decisions. I got a bumper sticker and a couple of shirts.

College bumper stickers are gross. The very definition of bragging. I would never.

OK. Thanks for the information.

Just answering OP’s question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid posted college account in his IG profile and notified HS's account that shows his class college decisions. I got a bumper sticker and a couple of shirts.

College bumper stickers are gross. The very definition of bragging. I would never.

I wouldn't say they are gross. I guess it depends on the school to consider it bragging... If someone has a UMD sticker I don't think anyone would really be considered bragging (not to knock the school). When my kid got into HYP early last year, my spouse bought a sticker and I refused to put it on the car--it is still in the drawer. I didn't feel comfortable driving around with it during dropoff or pickup given that so many kids didn't get admitted... I might put it on now that the kiddo started a few weeks ago.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid posted college account in his IG profile and notified HS's account that shows his class college decisions. I got a bumper sticker and a couple of shirts.

College bumper stickers are gross. The very definition of bragging. I would never.

Also have one for the younger sibling's HS.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid posted college account in his IG profile and notified HS's account that shows his class college decisions. I got a bumper sticker and a couple of shirts.

College bumper stickers are gross. The very definition of bragging. I would never.

I wouldn't say they are gross. I guess it depends on the school to consider it bragging... If someone has a UMD sticker I don't think anyone would really be considered bragging (not to knock the school). When my kid got into HYP early last year, my spouse bought a sticker and I refused to put it on the car--it is still in the drawer. I didn't feel comfortable driving around with it during dropoff or pickup given that so many kids didn't get admitted... I might put it on now that the kiddo started a few weeks ago.

1. Never do it.

2. Never say “kiddo”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid posted college account in his IG profile and notified HS's account that shows his class college decisions. I got a bumper sticker and a couple of shirts.

College bumper stickers are gross. The very definition of bragging. I would never.

I wouldn't say they are gross. I guess it depends on the school to consider it bragging... If someone has a UMD sticker I don't think anyone would really be considered bragging (not to knock the school). When my kid got into HYP early last year, my spouse bought a sticker and I refused to put it on the car--it is still in the drawer. I didn't feel comfortable driving around with it during dropoff or pickup given that so many kids didn't get admitted... I might put it on now that the kiddo started a few weeks ago.

It's is UMD! And I am bragging.

[Anonymous]

I think you tell family and close friends. The same people you’d share any big/biggish life news with.

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Anonymous wrote:I love reading/seeing where the kids are going. Obviously I’m in the minority, but I think it’s great. A kid doesn’t get into college on their own. There’s a lot of years of family support behind that admission letter.

The next time I see the kid or their parents I like to offer congratulations, hear about their next big adventure, talk about what they will do at school. But I feel the same way if you post your kid got into Frostburg, George Mason, cosmetology school, joined the carpenters apprentice program, or HYP.

I’m truly happy for your kids success and moving onto the next phase of life.

+1

Not everyone can be happy when good things happen for others. Judging by some of the college sour grapes DCUM posts, I would say most people are unable to be happy for others. Some parents make it worse for their kids, and the kids know that their parents are disappointed in them.

[Anonymous]

It ends up being more awkward when people are too secretive or try not to directly respond when it is discussed. The kids do actually leave to go to school somewhere!
Treat it like any other big news. If your kid gets in early and wants to wear a shirt, let them.

[Anonymous]

Next door neighbor put up a big sign at end of driveway that her son got into Columbia U.

Me and another neighbor were joking that we should replace it with one saying he got into NOVA community college.

[Anonymous]

Low key with individual acceptances. Those were kept in the family. No one outside the family and HS counselor even knew where my ED kid had applied (or that she had applied ED). Once an actual decision was made (which was last minute with kid 1 and ED with kid 2) AND the kid in question said it was okay, a social media post. So December for 1 kid and May 1 for the other. Along the lines of a picture of a kid in a college sweatshirt and a caption saying: Kid X has decided they will be attending College next year to study Y. We are very excited for them and can’t wait to see what adventures lie ahead.

T20-50 range schools.

This was pretty standard among DCs’ friends and I was genuinely excited to learn where each of my kid’s friends was going. The news dribbled out from. December through May.

Yes to car stickers (which replaced their FCPS high school’s stickers).

But, my FB Friends number well below 200 and I regularly purge. If I don’t genuinely care about you, I’m probably not following you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love reading/seeing where the kids are going. Obviously I’m in the minority, but I think it’s great. A kid doesn’t get into college on their own. There’s a lot of years of family support behind that admission letter.

The next time I see the kid or their parents I like to offer congratulations, hear about their next big adventure, talk about what they will do at school. But I feel the same way if you post your kid got into Frostburg, George Mason, cosmetology school, joined the carpenters apprentice program, or HYP.

I’m truly happy for your kids success and moving onto the next phase of life.

+1

You have a healthy perspective! Not everyone has a healthy perspective, sadly. I agree, I also like to celebrate where someone was accepted. Some people are unable to do that because of whatever baggage they have (ex: maybe their own parents were disappointed in them, when they applied to college, back in the day - or it could be anything, really).

I do think that some parents celebrate because let's face it, in many high schools parents are unable to share where their kids are applying, because they know some parents are over the top competitive. So, when their kid is accepted to one of their dream schools - hell yeah, it must feel great, and why wouldn't they share? I had one mom ask me at least every week where my DC was applying - it was a little crazy.

Grow up, people.

[Anonymous]

I now live in the Detroit area, where people apparently think the purpose of post-secondary bumper stickers & rear window decals is merely to inform others of where they studied, rather than to brag like the chest-pounders in the East do. Community college students sometimes like to let fellow motorists where they are working on their associate’s degree. However, my favorite vehicular adornment was a rear-window decal that read “Academy of Court Reporting.”